My boyfriend was using xanax and randomly broke up with me out of nowhere

[Anonymous]

we are in love but he starting selling and using xanax and told me he needed space, I guess I didn't give it to him because I was worried, so he left me. He told me he didn't want to be with me anymore he didn't care about me we were going to separate ways and he was being so mean..i just don't get it.i need him back in my life and I don't know what to do..do you think he will ever come back? like is it the xanax that changed him..what should I do to get him to miss me and want to be with me again? he was so about me and I gave him everything and I don't know how someones feelings can change in a matter of a couple days..he wanted to marry me and now he's acting like he just doesn't care..I've tried talking to him but he's mean and won't talk to me and tells me to leave him alone..i just don't get it.:(

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+1 y

ok so he's been completely avoiding me since we broke up, he told his friend we were over for good.and I've been telling him how much I miss him.begging for him to try to work things out but he said I can't make him happy anymore, how do I get him back?

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so I decided the best thing was to stop texting him and calling him telling him how much I miss him.5 hours after the last text I sent I got a text saying "read the lyrics to the song echo-by gorillia zoe". do you think he still cares and just needs space

[Confuzedgf]

SAME. It came out of no where, he was casually taking it one day and the very next day he bought 100 and Ian selling them. Problem is, he's taking them too. I have never given him crap about taking drugs so I got really confused when he lied about take one before a night of drinking at boom, then a few more later one. The night went very badly, they next day he packed up his shit, said we needed space... when we have been saving to buy a house together. He is so hostile whenever I try to talk to him calmly, and we work at the same place and every single person said when they saw him at work tonight you could tell he was fucked up on something (so could I) but he lied and got angry I didn't believe him (remember the first time he has ever lied to me was the previous night and I believed him then) so later on in the shit he is complaining about his tooth pain bothering him (he had a lot of work done two days ago) so he casually is pulling out his baggy full of pills to take at work. The night sucked so bad because I was already waiting for him to sober up so we could talk then I watched him take more knowing gen wouldn't be himself even more. He had literally been dropping glasses and plates, tripping over nothing, running into things, eyes rolling back, and slurring and mumbling so badly that the entire staff knew something was up. But he stuck to his story that he didn't take anything and got defensive when I questioned anything about his behavior. (Not until later that night when he did it infront of me and coworkers and then got fucked up like he could stand without swaying or even speak right whatsoever) it sucks because all night he just kept being so mean to me and blaming all our problems or anything going wrong on me. Before this started we were so happy and having sex on the reg and we're very open with the fact that we are soulmates and we will be married one day. All our plans are with each other. We have been living together for almost a year and now he's talking about moving in with a friend or his parents and is trying to act like it's a good thing and I should work on myself but I'm scared it's just because he wants more freedom to get more fucked up. Without me he might drive like that and he has such a bad background already that he cannot afford anymore trouble if he wants any kind of future. It's breaking my heart and I feel so distant and so alone, he's not himself on them and I just want so badly to feel like he is still in love with me

[DrownTheCity]

Xanax is a prescription drug that anyone can get addicted to. I honestly think that since he was selling and using xanax that he was probably selling other drugs as well. Most likely other barbituates, amphetamines or narcotics. I think that your boyfriend became addicted to xanax and because of this he stopped caring about everything that was once important to him. Addicts need to use drugs because if they don't, it will effect how they go throughout their daily lives. There isn't anything that you can do to help him, even if the police get involved, he has to want to change himself because no one else can do it for him. One day he will get a rude awakening and realize that being a dealer isn't worth losing a woman that he loves. It is the xanax that changed him, I'd say that if his habits don't start to change soon, then at least try to move on because I've seen from first hand experience what it's like to know and be an addict. The only thing that you have to focus on in your life is getting the drug or getting money to buy the drug or selling it. He feelings for you most likely did not disappear, they are just hidden by his drug addiction. I would stay away from him at the time being and there is a chance that he will come to you and admit that he has a problem, if not, then there is someone out there waiting for you that will keep you as his addiction.

[palek]

Grace advice, and very well said.

[windyone]

Why do you want someone back who treated you like that and who doesn't want you. There are plenty fish in the sea. Also he is doing a selling drugs why would you want to surround yourself with someone like that? Also drugs changes a person so yes maybe it is this. But what can you do he tell you to leave him alone. DO NOT call or text make him think you moved and then he should show some signs of caring and try to see what's up with you if not let his but go. If he is an addict then forget it the drugs will win until he is ready to stop. Best of luck.

[Hrona]

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[highfive123]

Well, the best way to get him back is actually to leave him alone...I know it sounds weird like won't he forget about me, but that won't happen. Give him his space he needs by not calling him, not texting him, don't contact him AT ALL! The way this works is he will begin to realize he misses you and contact you himself. Give it time, be patient, it might take a month or more...who knows every situation is different. But in the meantime, as hard as it is, do EVERYTHING...meaning go OUT, have fun, focus on YOURSELF...some days will be hard as hell and you'll want to contact him,but whatever you do DON'T! I'd even delete his phone number and write it down and hide it somewhere just in case you get drunk, and emotions come out...

[Asker]

Ok that's what I've decided to do..is just give him space..i just want him back so bad..he told his best friend I'm not what he wants anymore and we won't get back toughter..do you think he meens that or is just saying that because I haven't given him a chance to miss me..He told his friend he still loved me though, please read my updates and help me! I need him back..i need a guys opinion..i think its because I'm chasing after him and I shouldnt?

[palek]

I'd say it's for the best, for right now anyway. If he's sellin and usin Xanax, I don't think you want any part of a life of this kind. For now, he's chosen his lifestyle over you, which he may come to regret if you get completely out of his life, or maybe not. Don't let him drag you down with him. Tell him flat out it's either you or the pills, and that you'll have nothing to do with him unless he's clean and sober. Also make it clear that you'll leave him at the drop of a hat if he ever uses drugs or abuses alcohol during your marriage. I've seen way too much of this in my life. Get away from the situation, or you could well ruin your life trying to "fix" him.

[Grissom526]

well my Girlfriend broke up with me DUE to XANAX! so f*** xanax all it does is make the user numb to the world! the user doesn't care anymore about anything and mostly relationships because in a relationship the man cannot looked all f***ed up and on drugs like xanax! do xanax and you are heading downhill. I wish I could get my girl back but I told her I would stop taking xanax like 100 times then she was just over it... ya know? sh*t I cannot blame her.. she is a smart girl and doesn't want a loser man in her life. Now if only I can get off the sh*t for a while, but for myself not her because if I do it for her I will just go back to it when she finds some perfect guy. lol life goes around and around girl!

[kaliflower]

I know exactly what you mean bro. My girl at the time couldn't even go in the grocery store unless she was pilled up. I love her deeply but its the truth. Then she would hide them after taking too many and not know where she put them. That was just another rock in our relation waiting to fall. And of course it would always rotate back to me somehow in being my fault.

[claireforde1]

I'm going through the exact same thing. It's the drugs, especially xanax, some people take too much and just get so cocky and arrogant. My boyfriend turns into a monster, no one can be around him, he degrades people and talks about how great he is, it's sickening. It's horrible because he really isn't like that at all, he's such a sweet guy. Every time he goes on a xanax binge we end up breaking up, I've asked him to stop but he can never stay away for good, it's a neverending cycle. After a year and a half I'm finally going to leave him. I'm sorry for anyone who has to deal with this.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I went through the same thing. My girlfriend, now ex did the same thing. I love her deeply but she randomly did the same thing. I'd come home from work and never knew who I was gonna meet. When she mixed it with alcohol it was waaay worse. So she just decided to leave one day when I came home, she was totally wasted then told me shed been planning the whole thing. Nothing more to say other than she left pregnant and never gave me closure

[Anonymous]

Look up the effects of Xanax on the internet. You should get your answer from that.