Why are girls so dramatic and such emotional time bombs?

[Anonymous]

I don't mean to offend anyone with this post but take what happened to me recently. This girl randomly got angry and snapped on me for no reason! She had no amounting reasons to even be mad at me either. I was completely dumbfounded.

I will admit I am not around girls enough to experience stuff like this firsthand all that often, I don't have many girls in my life, but the ones that are are just moody at times, catty and passive aggressive for no reason, and then in some way, they'll just go off. Sometimes it's in outward anger, sometimes they'll silently retract and give no reason for doing so.

But then I look around at guys that have been with girls and I know that their girls have been over dramatic, always looking for fights and starting stupid arguments. WHY?! That's another thing I've noticed too. Many girls seem much more comfortable getting angry and arguing with people than guys do, and sometimes almost seems to appear that they find some sort of enjoyment out of it.

Here's the deal, guys do not want to fight. We don't get mad at anyone unless there is a valid reason, so why is it that girls think it's OK that they can just snap on someone because she's upset about something that she should be dealing with herself or simply because she might be stressed or tired or something? I believe in being nice to everyone, until someone personally gives you a reason not to.

We all have things to deal with, so deal with them on your own. That's no way to act, especially in the case of the girl I'm talking about, we've hung out a few times, but she doesn't even know me that well. I don't just decide to get upset at someone that I barely know for no reason, like what the hell?

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Quick update: NO, I DO NOT MEAN ALL GIRLS!

[laceyz565]

Hahaha this statement is completely ignorant to the real fact of reasons why girls get mad. First of all you said you haven't been around it much so how can you talk? Your talking a small sample of women and generalizing it for the rest of us that's not how it works. That's exactly like when girls say all guys are the same. Which is jot tire at all. 2 I wanna state that girls do not like to fight either and girls won't pick a fight unless they feel they have a valid reason of course there will be the occasional girl who just likes fighting but that's with guys to. Let me give you an example of a reason a girl would pick a fight. She saw you flirting with sally but you say you were just being friendly or there's a phone call at 2am on the house phone from a girl she doesn't know or you got so drunk one night and had to be carried home but yet you forgot to mention that to your girlfriend. Girls are emotional and sensitive. We also over think things a lot we even other think about over thinking which is why some girls explode. I know I've done that before and I was right the guy was cheating on me so it was for good reason. I try not to though I don't enjoy messing up something good for no reason. Hardly anyone does but your gonna get those people who do and you can't blame the rest of us for this one girl did. Girls are,very hormonal and if you can't deal with it like they say best if you can't take the heat stay out of the kitchen

[Asker]

This isn't about being in a relationship at all. Nobody was cheating on anyone lol but anyways, how can I talk? Because I'm observant and smart. I know how women are. I know they are hormonal but that's no excuse to flip your shit on someone for no reason at all. That's all I'm saying. There's a right and there's wrong and that's the wrong way to act and go about it if you ask me. I can deal just fine, I just hope that when I find a girl, she doesn't act like that and treat others that way.

[laceyz565]

That's the point of my rant. That when girls flop shit its most likely not for no reason

[Asker]

That may be true, but if someone isn't the reason for a girl's problems, she shouldn't be taking her troubles out on them, period. I'm confused as to why a girl would feel that it's OK, even feel that she is entitled to be able to do so, like it seems sometimes. That's just messed up.

[laceyz565]

Omg lol you still don't understand me! I'm saying that who ever she's fliping shit on probley is the reason why she's flipping shit lol

[Asker]

Read my reply up at the most recent answer up top. There was no reason at all. I didn't give her any reason to be mad at me. Frankly her reason to be mad at me sucked. That's what I'M saying! lol

[laceyz565]

Ohhhhhh lol sorry my Bad haha ya that's not good she's probley a psycho but not all girls are lol

[Anonymous]

Seems that some of them are like that. Kind of annoys me also.

[Asker]

Thank you, and yeah you're a girl right? If you can deal with whatever's bugging you, and still be nice and courteous to other people, so can they. I don't see any excuse for an outburst like that.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, I am. Some women can be hard to deal with. I just call it like I see it.

[Moobacca]

Because many women are crazy. Especially the ones you know apparently.

[Asker]

Yeah I wish I knew some different ones honestly lol.

[JanJan]

Sounds like you're speaking about a very young woman. Early twenties? Let's go with that.

Okay, first of all some men are emotional, some women are not emotional, and so forth. It's not quite as black and white as that. But all things aside... Yes, many women are emotional. And that's how it is. Our hormones fluctuate much more than yours do, and it can take years, if not decades, for some women to be aware of this. Sometimes we feel crappy, and it's hard to explain that to men. However, that does not justify bad behaviour. I'm just trying to lay the groundwork here. The thing that you need to understand is that even if a woman is moody and blowing things out of proportion, she isn't getting these emotions out of nowhere. This was not something that she invented. Clearly there was something or other that happened that set her off, and it was either you, or you were just the unlucky victim who said or did something to set her off. But even if the reaction to the situation was unjustified, the emotions are still justified. When a woman is moody, she usually isn't feeling emotions that are different, but she just feels them stronger than she would otherwise. So whatever she was mad about... she was probably entitled to feel mad about. She just dealt with it the wrong way. But even if you aren't sure what you did, perhaps you just weren't aware of it. A conversation takes two people.

[Anonymous]

Why are men such passive aggressive whiney doormats who cry when women don't want to have sex with them? I don't mean to offend anyone with this but take what happened to me recently. I told this guy I just wanted to be friends and he randomly got angry and snapped on me because I wouldn't fake my feelings for him! He had no amounting reasons to even be mad at me either. I was completely dumbfounded.

Just because a woman gets angry with you once doesn't automatically make her a "dramatic emotional time-bomb.

[Asker]

You're completely missing the point. This question is about simple common courtesy and being nice and respectful to other people.

But in response to your reply, there's always a reason why a guy gets upset if you don't go out with him. If there's no good reason, he's a douche, but if there is which is likely, you probably led him on or something, without realizing it, or you lied to him to try and save his feelings but it backfired. It happens all the time.

[Asker]

Guys are logical and often try to analyze women's behavior, which can be very hot and cold, vague might even be a good word. So it's easy to think a girl might like you, or may be intimidated of you, when she's trying to distance herself. There's no closure in those situations, the woman is being passive aggressive. That is why a lot of guys get upset, because girls are horrible at confrontation, when that is exactly what guys want and need in situations where they like a girl.

[523206720]

Some people are irrational and some people hide their real reasons for getting angry from others. My cousin was pregnant and pretending to feel abandoned by her husband when her real reason for getting angry at him was her resentment that she had found a job and he hadn't. She pretended to play around with the idea of divorcing him to encourage him to find a job faster so that she' had health insurance when she moves cities to live with him.

[Asker]

Yeah that's not right.

[BrunetteNYC]

Maybe there was some unspoken reason you got on her nerves and she didn't tell you, but then she just want off on you? Just don't hang out with her anymore. It's obvious you're emotional too cause you're upset about it, so men are just as emotional as women. The difference is we own up to it, LOL.

Give her some time, she might say sorry.

[xzinax2]

some guys do that too. all genders have their emotional folk. personally,i find most men to be more emotional than me (then again,i am basically dead) so it's individual. don't get sucked into viewing girls through negative stereotypes,they're human,and emotions are human too,you just notice them in girls more because of prejudice making you notice it.

[JamielovesKU]

I would think that it depends on what the person went thro, woman are more emotional than men, its just the way it is. I don't know why.

[Asker]

But what makes a girl think it's OK to just flip on someone? That's messed up.

[JamielovesKU]

Yea, ik

[iamofthedust]

Because once a month, we are controlled by a little demon who is stabbing our uterus. .. I think that would make you mad too

[Kris85]

Because we are full of hormones and people piss us off sometimes :D

[Asker]

People make me mad too, but unless it's a personal accusation or attack on me, I'm still going to be nice to them and friendly. That's just what I believe is the proper way to act.

[Anonymous]

what exactly did she get mad about? we need more details...

also, some girls find it sexually thrilling when guys get angry, seriously

[Asker]

Look at my reply a couple answers below yours. It wasn't over anything worth getting mad about. That's also an entirely dumb thing to be "thrilled sexually" over. lol

[STEPHGIRL]

What did you say or do that made her snap?

[Asker]

I didn't say anything. I was trying to get in her car, that we were all riding in to go home and the door wasn't unlocking and she just flipped out on me. It was completely out of nowhere and literally over nothing at all! lol

[Anonymous]

not all girls are like that

[Asker]

Ah you beat me to it. Check the update lol

[Asker]

I meant to post the update before any replies came in :)

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Society expects that of them so they do it

[Asker]

Well I sure don't, I can tell you that.

[Anonymous]

Why are boys perverts?

[Asker]

That's an awfully negative opinion. Sure some guys take it to the extreme, but guys like girls, end of story.

[Opinion Owner]

How is it negative if its the truth?

[Asker]

Care to elaborate on why it's the truth?

[Opinion Owner]

Well, guys bang anything even a chicken if it was legal.

[Asker]

Sounds like you're hanging out with the wrong guys. Surround yourself with good ones if you're tired of it. There are lots of guys out there that aren't like that but guess what? Girls ignore them and keep giving the "pervs" their time of day and the longer you're doing that, the more you're just encouraging that kind of behavior from them.