Help, I angrily called my girlfriend ugly and fat?

[Anonymous]

we got into a huge argument today and i accidentally called her ugly and fat. She asked i bet you think i am fat and ugly and in a rude sarcastic voice i said oh ya you're the fattest girl i have ever seen how do you not break the scale when you step on it. And then i said you're so ugly that i have to lie and try not to laugh when i call you beautiful and even with makeup you are still hideous. she then bursted out into tears and i am now trying to comfort her. but she won't talk to me and i feel terrible. How can i make it up to her and say i am sorry also i know that i took that one a little to far. please help me

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she's not fat and ugly whatsoever she is incredibly beautiful i was very mad at her and i regret it so much

[pr3ttybr0wn]

You seem highly immature as well as having a propensity to being verbally abusive. If she were on this site asking for advice about you, I'd tell her to break up with you. You sound like a 10 year old boy or just a very mean man. You went way too far with that one and you need to learn that words hurt and apologies don't erase things. She shouldn't talk to you and I hope she realizes she can do better. You do need help, but the help isn't how to get your gf back, its how to manage your frustrations and not be so mean to people you supposedly care about. If she did forgive you, it would only be a matter of time before you said something like that again

[Eiffelgirl21]

Well, the thing is.. we all say stuff we don't mean when we are REALLY mad. so, if she loves you, I am sure she will come around and forgive you. I have been called things a lot worse. And, I was mature about it when he apologized and thought logically about how I know he didn't mean it. He was just mad. So.. yeah... Just try not to ever do it again.

How is it going?

[MIMI0008]

You really did f*** up. Honestly if I was her there is no going back. I would break up with you and not look back. You said something out of anger and honestly it sounded like you meant it. If you want her to talk to you I guess you have to talk with her honestly. Even if you meant what you said and if you didn't you have to show her you didn't with your actions.

[Asker]

how can i show her with my actions

[princessinblack]

It would have to be a massive gesture to forgive that, massive! You need to PROVE you don't think that. Commitment ring if you aren't ready to propose. Otherwise i would say get down on one knee and prove to her she means everything to you. at least buy the poor girl some jewelry for god sake and tell her under all circumstances you said it to hurt her on purpose and that you don't actually think those things you were trying to be mean on purpose and that you love her and you wouldn't want to be with her if you actually thought those things obviously. But seriously... flowers don't cut it, apologies don't cut it. Explanation and declaration of love and commitment! It is the worst thing you can say other than " i don't love you" a girl never forgets being called fat.

[Anonymous]

I don't know what the argument was about. But it's at least partly her fault for baiting you like that.

If you're having arguments like this, why even bother with this relationship anyway? There are billions more girls in the world.

[Thatguy321]

Your an idiot... she's a girl! You dont ever say stuff like that to her. No matter what, if she says something mean to you or hits you, you dont hit back or comment. Just take it like a man, and not be sensitive

[desidoll]

You are being too insensitive. Do not let your emotion control your behaviour. Since you have said it there is nothing you can do other than apologize to her. She might take some time to forgive you but you have to deal with it. Talk to her and tell her you don't mean it at all. Explain everything.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

I think you should make it up to her by giving her your dick in a box

[Asker]

lol i don't think she would like that

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

It will be fine just do the roses , dinner and nice wine thing and tell her that you are wrong and she is always right

[Anonymous]

You spoke what your feelings now it's time to deal with the consequences.. Why would you stay with someone you thought was fat and ugly? Unless, of course, she's actually too good for you and you're simply trying to break her down so she will stay with a piece of sht like you? hm...

[TheGirlNextDoor_]

I am sorry to say this but you really messed up! Even if you are in an argument you don't just say things by accident and I believe your girlfriend is well aware of that fact. I can't tell if she really is the way you called her but if you really are honestly sorry then fight for her. Try to keep reaching her (text her, call her) and do some cute, well thought things such us making a handmade "I am sorry" card or anything like that. Good luck and think the next time before you say something.

[Anonymous]

You didn't "accidentally" say anything. She pissed you off so you wanted to hurt her back? I'd seriously reconsider being with someone who resorted to saying childish remarks like that. It seems like this probably wasn't the first time either.

[Anonymous]

Oh my! umh. Not much at all could fix this. That really cuts us deep. Try doing something romantic for her or take her out and buy her flowers. Maybe that would work.. maybe.