My boyfriend is popular, and I'm not.?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend and I started dating. And well, everyone likes him. He's so outgoing and funny and gets along with everyone. He hangs out with the really popular guys at school and I don't really belong in a friend group, and it makes me feel bad. Like he asked me (not trying to be mean) why I didn't hang with a certian group of girls if I've known them since elementary school. And, it's because 1. I'm pretty shy 2. I don't feel like talking to them honestly. I'm not weird or anything haha, I just don't see myself hanging around them. And whenever he's with his friends he doesn't ignore me, but the point of this is, how do I stop feeling bad that I'm not popular and my boyfriend is, what should I do? Should I start hanging out with more popular girls, what would I say? Thanks :)

[EmeraldSky]

Awwh darling, don't let this get to you.
Popularity doesn't mean sh*t. When you are under the age of 18, it can seem so valuable, but in the real world; it's useless. You can be the most popular but how many people are going to be by your side if there's a false allegation charged towards you? If your home burns down? If you lose your job and have nowhere to sleep? I'll never forget one of the most popular girls I have ever met who ALWAYS knew a ton of people calling me, someone she barely knew, at midnight to come pick her up and take her to a friend's house. She had all those smiling faces, but none of them had her back when she needed it. Then another time, she relied on me and the kindness of a stranger, to keep her company at a "popular party" that was getting out of hand. Popularity does not equal true respect. Popularity does not mean you have true friends, it doesn't increase the amount of loyal people in your corner. All it really does is boost your confidence and give you more short term connections.

You just really have to be confident in who you are. You could give it a try hanging out with those girls, but don't force yourself to be friends with them. Love yourself and appreciate the way you are without the acceptance of others. If your boyfriend is the right guy for you, he will care for you no matter how "popular" you are.

[xHoneyxBeex]

I think you should just be yourself. If being outgoing is not your personality then don't try to force it. Obviously he likes you or he wouldn't be dating you in the first place. It can be nice to have a friend group outside of your significant other but it isn't absolutely necessary.

I can relate to you. My boyfriend is much more outgoing than I am and he can't go a day without talking to all of his friends. For me, I don't really talk to many other people besides my boyfriend but I'm fine with it that way. Sometimes I just prefer to be alone. I'm not anti-social by any means, I'm just somewhat introverted and tend to feel awkward in large groups and I am much more comfortable either by myself or just with my boyfriend. We are polar opposites in that aspect but that's okay.

My point is, you don't "have" to talk to other people if you don't want it. If you are comfortable with how things are right now then what's the problem? If your boyfriend keeps asking about it or pressuring you to make more friends, simply tell him that you are not like him in that way and he should just respect that.

[xHoneyxBeex]

Thanks for MH! :)

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Why don't you try to make friends with people in your classes and join a club. Hanging out with popular girls sounds absolutely atrocious most of them are bitches, except for one or two nice ones.

[Anonymous]

Being Popular in school Seems like a Big deal but it really isn't. Having no friends in School isn't a Big deal either. Once you get out of school none of the above two would make sense. You might now understand it right now but Trust me it will make sense once you grow up a little bit more.

Unless your boyfriend likes to show you around like Trophy he won't leave you just because you aren't famous or popular in school.

[slsmith0]

Keep being yourself I'm sure your bf likes you because of the way you are now. And also support him with his friends but don't loss the friends you have just because of a boy.

[abundantlyrich]

Just talking to people in general will help. As long as you learn to get comfortable out of your shell, you will stop feeling negative about yourself.

have you seen the movie mean girls?

[Anonymous]

I would respect that. I LOOOOOOOOOOVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVEEEEEEEE people who have an identity and want to be themselves... in contrast to sheeps wanting to "fit-in" and "feel accepted".