Questions: Relationships

When you are young, and especially the first time, the decision to move in together is exciting. If you are living with your parents, you will finally be out from under their watchful eye. You will be spending EVERY night with your sexual partner. Not only is it romantic, but it is a sign to others (and yourself) that you are moving into the arena of adult relationships, instead of just the hanging out/dating, home by midnight or 1 am that teens do, but. . .

something that many couples don't consider is the psychological consequences of moving into HIS place vs. moving into HER place vs. getting a new place that the two of you move into together. Economics or other considerations may dictate that you move into his or her existing space, but that doesn't always work so well.

She moves into his place and wants to redecorate but he already has his place EXACTLY the way that he wants it. Or he moves into her place and can't stand the sixteen stuffed animals on her bed but she's had them since she was a little kid. Or you get into an argument and suddenly, he says, "This is my place, so why don't you get the hell outta here?"

Moving into your own place solves some of those problems and gives you an initial task to work on together, and you are more likely to create a space that is not yours, and not his (or hers) but it is your space together.

How did this work out when you moved in with your SO?