Are therapist always right and can they give you advice on someone they don’t even known?

[Anonymous]

[Gent207]

Speaking as someone in the mental health field:
1.) Therapists are subjected to human error and bias like anyone else. The only difference is that this awareness combined with the right tools and education helps them see over their rose tinted glasses.
2.) Therapists are not supposed to five you advice. Their job is to lead you to discover the solutions to managing or treating your problems.
3.) There are numerous kinds of therapies put there each with it's own unique set of pros and cons. It's important that you find the right type of therapy and therapist that works for you.

[Asker]

Thank you this should be Hopfully to me. I had a ex that said her therapist said things about me that I feel are not true and it was part of the reason said ex stopped talking to me. I would say this was my most healthy relationship ever and the only issues was my ex had no boundaries of her own. She would often say she’s okay with trying something sexuallly or just do things in the relationship that she now says she regrets. This was my first relationship ever where I was 100% honest with what I wanted didn’t lie and wasn’t a push over. I looked back on video we took together and voice messages she sent me and really don’t understand why she feels the way she does.!

[boggboss]

Not always right no everyone can make mistakes but I would be more willing to put money on them being correct then a stranger

[Asker]

Yea I was just wondering since a ex told me her theapist said such and such about me so stopped talking to me. I have never once lied to this person and always let them make their only choices which they now regret because of their family. This was my first relationship ever where I never lied not even once I only ever stated what I wanted then said if it doesn’t felt what you want you should find someone else to date.

[boggboss]

What the therapist said here is irrelavent as she dont know u just the person your ex told her about

[Asker]

I thought so just somewhat hurt since I worked hard to be a more honest person and to stop being a push over. Me being a push over&taken advantage of has been a issues in almost all of my relationships which leads to future problems.

[boggboss]

Sorry to hear that mate what I will say is it was a ex thats not part of your life anymore gotta move on

[Screenwriter]

No, they aren't always right. But they have far more "people+time" experience than we'll ever have and they've studied "types" of people, and how those types function in the world and with other types.

The best therapists make careful judgments using information you give them. They don't go off half cocked. They think through what they come up with based on what you tell them.

Get recommendations from friends, family and your primary doctor. That usually puts you in touch with someone with a level of quality. But sometimes, it takes a little work to find a doc who fits. Good luck.