Would you take offense to someone telling you that you need to see a therapist?

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TonyV · Accepted Answer

I've heard it to many times over such little things. Not really offensive anymore, just let's me know it's an intitled person that assumes they are always right and never wrong that just heard an opinion different then their own.
Why would I take that suggestion seriously from anyone who isn't a therapist themselves?
Usually ots from someone I know that has their own issues that they refuse to get over or see a therapist about so it just kind of makes me laugh.

Had a friend with daddy issues who kept dating shitty men, she literally glorified toxic masculinity, she like confrontational men who argue, she felt she deserved to be treated badly, she refuses to communicate issues she just bottles up her feelings until she decides to dump them cause they should be able to "take a hint", and she thought she could tell me I need therapy.
Or the friend who's had therapy cause her apartment burned, even tho therapy didn't help her any.

Moose304 · Accepted Answer

You don't speak to a stranger or a casual acquaintance like this. This is a serious faux pax! Telling someone you are not close to that they need therapy is almost as insulting as telling someone "you will pray" for them as the closing line in an argument. Besides therapy only works when the person accepts they need it and gets involved. Several years ago I had to tell a female friends with benefits she could no longer come to my home and we had to stop seeing each other. She was drinking far too much and I told her if we continued to see each other she needed to get into a treatment program. I was told to go to hell and with sadness, I removed her from my life with the promise that we could continue once she got in one. To date, this has not happened. I do tell men after their wives and GFs have been caught in infidelity they need to get into therapy, but this is a very different situation in my opinion.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Considering my profession, the people I'm around and associate with, and the nonsense I put up with on a daily basis?

Yeah I probably do need to be at a therapist's office 2-5 days a week! Not even kidding.

So no, I wouldn't be offended. I'd thank them for their concern, and ask them if they could refer me to one

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

No offense taken but those who say that have no clue how it actually works. They often think that seeing a therapist is a end all fix to all problems.

It is not and often doesn't that way. They are the ones who probably should see one, to see how things really work, in the real world.

VinnyMac · Answer

I don't think necessarily anybody would like being told that they need a therapist. If they're saying it out of concern then it be easier to not take offense, whereas if they say it as an insult than maybe.

I think there are many people who see therapist that if more people were more aware of that they not see it as a bad thing or take offense.

In this day and age there is a high level of stress, anxiety, mental health issues and various mental illnesses that have led so many more people to be in need of therapy.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Highly depends on the context. Most cases no though because I would agree with them, not that I would because Therapy is awful for me.
But someone told me I need therapy for liking BDSM... Like umm? BDSM is a pretty common thing that longs if a safeword and consent is involved what is is your business?
Don't see me turning around saying if you

mstbooblover · Answer

When I was young, maybe. Now, and since many years, even often when I was young, I would try to understand calmly why that person is saying that, which may lead me to introspection first just in case, but may also reveal a lot about the person giving that advice. It may be meant as an insult, or defence resulting of not knowing how to react to some situation or thing said. For instance a truth the person can't handle for whatever psychological reason.

ohshee · Answer

No not even as a matter of fact. If someone walked up to me this moment, ANd said bro you need a therapist
I would look at them I would cross my eyes and I would yell
* I do too !!! *
And turn around and walk away.
And pray my Eye come uncrossed

DarkCarousel · Answer

No way. The people in my life that I could imagine saying that would only say so if they were concerned. Anyone else saying it doesn’t know me well enough to make that judgement.
Besides, I think a lot of people could benefit from a little therapy.

Apulu_3 · Answer

No it means they are caring for me but it depends on the situation. Like if I say I'm feeling depressed and they say to look for a therapist then I will find that they are caring. If I say I like pineapple pizza (which I don't like in real life) and they say to look for a therapist then I will find it teasing. If I say that I want to change my religion and they say to look for a therapist it is offensive. However not enough to offend me.

Anonymous · Answer

yes, when i was about 13 my mother forced me to see a therapist after something traumatic happened to me because she didn't believe me. i cryed in every single session and refused to talk to her esspecially because i knew my mom was on the other side of the window ready to listen in on me. i didn't want to talk about what happened because bringing it all back up was something i didn't want to do.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't get offended, but I'm also very open at telling that I hate psychologists, I spent years on therapy and only ended up getting worse. I managed to learn to fix my stuff and deal with myself, still not the best at it, but I'm my best therapist. Fucking psychologists, I hate them.

AndrésC64 · Answer

I said yes but only because I was taking a strict interpretation of your question. If someone told me that I need to see a therapist, then I would be offended. If someone gently suggested that it might be of help if I see a therapist, then I wouldn't be.

Jackblue · Answer

Maybe, considering the fact that I have tried therapy in the past and I don't feel it helped me. The number of people seeing therapists has been increasing, but so has the suicide rate, so quite frankly therapists really need to update their methods, because their current ones suck.

ItsMeElliana · Answer

No, i wouldn't, id actually think i need a therapist if someone tells me that also, that reminded me of this.

NathanDavis · Answer

nope... they probably said it because of the circumstances implied

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Nope I’ve been told a few times to get counselling.

one of my friends is a counsellor and my other friends have ‘arranged’ for me to go out for a meal and invited my friend lol.

For me it’s what you do to help someone

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

Nope. I tell people here on G@G that is a good idea. Only because it is a good idea. Some people need it and I think it would be beneficial to them.

Diodoro · Answer

If I was to the point of people making statements like that whatsoever I would have to consider what I'm doing. I've never in my life had someone say that

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

I do go to a therapist. It helps more than people knows, but it's underrated and people does not like to face reality where they admit they are wrong about things.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

No, it implies that there's a deeper problem in what you're saying that you can acknowledge. They have hope for you to improve your mentality if they say that

Dumbaszx · Answer

Usually people who say that actually need to see the pherapist, cos they are usually an extremist with ridiculous unrealistic views, who are convinced the way they see things is right, and if you disagree with them you need help, meanwhile you're the down to earth rational person, and they are the one with extremist views

PAcc92 · Answer

1) Therapy is nonsense, case in point, everyone I know who started "Seeing a therapist" has not improved their lives at all. Therapists benefit from you continuing to need them. It's like going to a drug dealer to rehabilitate your drug habit.

2) No, it's often used as an insult in a conversation, it's very rarely based in honest concern. So you can usually ignore these people.

Anonymous · Answer

I didn't vote. If someone quietly takes me by the hand, looks me in my eyes and earnestly tells me this, no I wouldn’t.

If they were beung dismissive and just flippantly said it to me then yes I would be offended.

The first is sincere the second is an insult.

Lovesims3plumbob · Answer

it deponds how they act and how they action. i already has tried threapy nothing work. they make me feel like shit. i said i am not instersted in seeing a threapiest. if they kept saying the same thing again. i will get very pissed at the.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

It would be fine. Unless they said it in a bad way that was mean. If it is out of concern, then it is fine.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I did not understand whyit was said, but now I do and I'd ask questions. people don't see themselves rightand may not see reality right.

Tweetybirdii · Answer

I dont find anything wrong with therapy But i will take offense because the person more than likely meant to be hurtful

KatieB713 · Answer

Depends how they say it, but I know I need to speak to a therapist so they aren't saying anything new

laurieluvsit · Answer

No, therapists can be helpful. No one should be offended. I have been advised to see one for sex addiction issues.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I’d say i love to hear myself talk and that would give me a good excuse to make someone else listen. So yea for the fun of it

Sonorous · Answer

Nah. Because I know that good therapy can benefit everyone. Regardless of how normal or well off they appear.

GlassTop · Answer

After my girl cheated on me I needed to see a therapist. I got told constantly to seek help. Of course I never did because i’m not that mentally week. I just needed someone to talk to but not actual help. I beat her ass and felt a lot better after fucking her in every way possible. Now she’s my personal slut.

Godsvengeance · Answer

I voted no not because I don't understand why some people would be offended but because I'm almost impossible to offend because I just don't care enough about most people's opinions to get offended by them

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

No often other people see our behaviours in a better light than ourselves or even people closest to us.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

There is a huge difference between telling and suggesting.

TrillXHippy · Answer

They’re probably right cause I feel like I’m going to lose it

fonduegirl · Answer

Depends on why you think so, who are you to say it, whether I'm aware of the problem or not... Most people do this just to shut me up

Sarahr123 · Answer

I think it depends who says it and how they say it.

pixie215 · Answer

i been through a lot of sh*t in life so no im never offended when someone told me that twice before

melanieeeB · Answer

I got told that a few times by now, mostly I know that it is only well meant

UdontNeedtoknow · Answer

Knowing that you need someone to talk to is a good thing. Even if you don't realize it. However it also depends on the person who is telling you that you need it.

Ninania · Answer

Really depends on who they are to me and how they say it.

IveGotNoName · Answer

No. At a point in my life, I really needed someone in my life to tell me that, possibly still do.

chulo1992 · Answer

Because it is true... I HAVE ALWAYS NEEDED ONE!!! Why? Because I'm always asking myself, WTF is wrong with me?

Juxtapose · Answer

Yes, because that is implying something is so wrong with me that I cannot fix it myself like an adult.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

It depends how you say it ….. I’m a therapist I dont say that to people. Therapy is amazing when you find your person, I have a therapist!

DWornock · Answer

In most cases, as in every case on GAG, when someone suggests therapy, they are not trying to be helpful.

strawhatEli · Answer

Depends upon who says it and under what situation. If it's a friend who shows concern over certain of my behaviours, I won't take an offence but if someone says out of an issue of not my fault, I may take offence.

boombastik · Answer

It would really depend on the pretext. Although it is offensive, stuff like that doesn't usually get under my skin. It's usually that low key, smartass remarks that hit a nerve with me. Can't stand when someone tries to be slick mouthed.

annabananna · Answer

As long as it was out of love I would not get offended.

roseline_ · Answer

How is that your business? What makes you feel I need a therapist?

Massageman · Answer

Not if they knew me for a while. Anyway, my wife IS a counselor and needs more business. :- )

loveslongnails · Answer

That might depend on the person telling me, for sure, and what they think I need therapy about! LOL

ANDYB88 · Answer

Everybody should see a therapist. Would be an amazing world if they did!

noohair · Answer

I would say, When I saw a therapist, it helped me. If you have never had therapy, what do you know? Like reviewing a restaurant where you don't eat.

Kat_Marie · Answer

Whether you should or not, the person telling other people that (unless it's out of pure love, care AND understanding), they're usually the ones that need to see a therapist.

Evan64 · Answer

No. It's usually just an automated response for whenever someone shares their problems.

Babygirl_S · Answer

No some people themselves need a therapist so they're projecting.

Crucis84 · Answer

No, because I probably do need to see a therapist anyway.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Probably not. I think I need a therapist right now.

Anonymous · Answer

Self improvement don't knock it down especially if you have a addiction type of disorder

kaylaS91 · Answer

nope. That's classic blameshifting so... only paints the person saying it (assumedly not out of genuine concern) in a negative light.

zoe1989 · Answer

I'm already aware I need to see a therapist and already booked that motherf×cking appointment thanks darling way ahead of you!

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