Would you opt in for a Therapist to fix your Relationship?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

At some point after my future wife and I fell in love, she asked if I would be willing to accompany her to a couples counselor she had heard of. I couldn't imagine why, but figured why not.

The idea wasn't to fix anything. But we learned a LOT about ourselves and each other. It turned out to be really interesting. And it honestly made us more certain that we made a good match. I mean, marriage was a huge decision and we wanted to be absolutely sure before making that once in a lifetime commitment.

During our marriage, I have agreed to enroll in couples counseling a couple more times. Those were once a week for several months. It wasn't to fix anything but more to keep our marriage happy and healthy. One thing we learned a lot about were communication techniques.

I'm glad that my smart wife is so committed to out relationship. We both are.

joenelson · Accepted Answer

in my opinion it's the partners themselves who can fix any issue in a relationship.

When you fell in love with him/her, did you go to the therapist to check whether it is the right person to falll in love with? NO right.

When things were all going good between you two, did you take anyone's suggestion? NO

Therapist would know you both individually since a week or may be a month but you two know each from the moment you saw each other.

I am sure no one else could know about the other half more better than you. Then why to include a third person?

I would never opt for therapist to fix my relationship.

LovingLoverReturned · Accepted Answer

Yes. Only ones who make sense and know what they are doing. Over the years I've filters through the opinionated from factual relationship coaches. Relationships are a science related to our person founded on traumas or lack thereof.

If i trust established science, the thing that bills spaceships and televisions then of course I trust therapy... but don't trust all therapists.

I always trust the ones who give try before you buy tips.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

A therapist doesn't fix your relationship. They help you both navigate how you both approach it, and provide a safe environment for you two to work together.

If either partner decides not to take responsibility for themselves and their actions, you don't stand a chance of fixing anything.

You both fix your relationship. You just pay your therapist to provide professional guidance, help, and mediation.

RavVid · Answer

Quite simply couples counselling is simply inviting some else in too take the girls side. A friend went through this. Every time he wanted to bring up an issue, his girlfriend raise another to counter and the counselor would orient discussion to hers and bury his issue.

Eventually the counselor realized girlfriend was a demanding B and asked if he had any issues. He simply said that he had been raising his issues the whole time but the counselor had consistently buried them and he was over it.

Last session and end of the relationship because he was convinced girlfriend would never change.

So it was good for him and worth the money.

lightbulb27 · Answer

yes.

Therapist can help in seeing what is going on within each person so that one or both can decide to make changes and fix the underlying issues, if they so choose. They have techniques/guidance for you to work on yourself.

but no, they can't fix it. you have to do the work.

BadApple69 · Answer

Therapists have their place, but if both people are willing to fix the relationship then I would start with good old fashioned communications. Talk to each other. Ask questions. Learn what your partners wants and needs are. There is a book called “the 5 love languages” get it and read it. There is so much a couple could do that doesn’t require a therapist… do those first.

Just my thoughts, I could be wrong!

Levin · Answer

No therapist could do that, and should be claiming to do that.

The work has to come from the individuals. But people want a quick fix or a flashy gimmick, and then blame the therapist when it doesn't materialise.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I wanted to do that when I noticed our relationship went downhill due to elongated long distance.

But we broke up before we went there.

I am pretty sure we’d be together had it not been for long distance.

slatyb · Answer

A therapist can only fix a relationship if both partners really want to fix it. A brilliant therapist was very helpful in getting me out of a relationship.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Nah, they’re no genius. Probably just some nosey fcks looking to make assumptions based off the little bit you tell them. I dont have time for those mind games

sheikalana · Answer

A therapist cannot fix your relationship. They can guide you and give their opinion but to think a therapist can fix your relationship is wrong. Only you and your partner can do it.

anon1903 · Answer

Therapist don't fix things,  sweetheart.  It can only work if you need guidance and you're willing to do whatever it takes to make it work. Period.

Sexiestjohnson · Answer

As long as the therapist is hot, young and all kinds of sexy. So if the relationship fails, she becomes my pain relief😋

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, I think if it gets so bad you need a therapist, it is time to move on from each other.

_no_one_ · Answer

I feel no third person can fix a relationship but their pov can be insightful to know where things are going wrong. To which both can work on together.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

If you need a therapist at all, the relationship is already doomed. An SO is supposed to BE your therapy when you are stressed, and in general just make you feel happy.

strateguy632 · Answer

no, if not work we separate, the exception is married couples after marriage commitment.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Bob the fuckin Builder couldn't fix my relationship

Simslover92 · Answer

If it got to a point where we needed a mediator then certainly.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No. Waste of time and money. I can fix it myself plus I always trust God and His word for all my problems.

DJB72 · Answer

Been there. Tried that in two of three relationships.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Nope. Why pay someone to listen to your shitty problems? If a couple's only hope is to seek an outside party, it's most likely that relationship was already over..

Kelly6 · Answer

If relationship needs some help then sure we would ask for therapist

Anonymous · Answer

No, therapist are liberal shit made to steal the money of people.

noohair · Answer

I have found that the only person I have any chance of fixing is myself. You can't fix other people.

In_Trance · Answer

A therapist won't fix it; you are the one that has to fix it

Anonymous · Answer

No. But if that's what SHE wanted I'd do it to satisfy her.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely. He wasn’t into it. So I left and then he wanted to make the initiative. I still left.

Adam1978 · Answer

She might need one but I wouldn't.

WalnutButter · Answer

No, Sigmund Freud was right.

Luopio27 · Answer

What if that leads to a break-up or divorce?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

If it's necessary? Absolutely!

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes. I have. Need coaches and a mentor or two.

krin_m · Answer

If it is needed, yes.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Yeah probably

LiamJHayden · Answer

Nope.

straightmax12 · Answer

Maybe.

eagle1951 · Answer

nope

Anonymous · Answer

Not sure.

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