If you were dating someone and later found out they were in therapy, would you continue dating them?
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So many answers. Wow. Thanks people. I ask this because after I get my health insurance plan updated in November I’m going to get therapy just so I can fully heal from childhood trauma. Nothing extreme like murder or weird sexual interests. I just feel like it’s something I should do before I get married. I told myself I wouldn’t marry or have kids until I was fully right with “myself”. I still want to date though so I wanted opinions
Yes. It takes a lot to admit you have a problem and actually get therapy. Most people don't face the music of their problems and make others and themselves suffer.
It's a sign that there are "issues", but they're being addressed and dealt with in a good way. You'd be FAR worse off with someone who sticks their nose up at therapy.
Therapy isn't a sign of damage, it's a sign of control and willingness to take hard steps to improve mental health.
If you've ever been with someone who needs therapy, but won't get it, this is as easy an argument as whether air is good or not.
This is an example of an annoying question that asks obe question in the headig, then a different question in the description. Wouldindate someone who was in therapy, yes. Having been in therapy myself i know its a healthy step. Would i continue datingif they had hidden their therapy away from me? Thats a tougher question. I like to be an open book, especially with a partner. Depends how far in and invovled we were. If i felt betrayed it could be grounds to leave, but it would be the lying, not the therapy itself
Good luck with therapy. You have to commit to it, i certainly found it helped. In my experience people dont care if you're in therapy or had therapy. The right person won't make a big deal of it
Why should them going to therapy make 6ou change there views of them? At least they are trying to make themselves better. A lot of people have mental conditions but few have the strength and willpower to go to therapy. Therapy helps people better themselves so why should you view that them needing to go to therapy as a bad thing? People are too busy looking at the negative rather than at the positive.
depending for what but generally yes since i was too people have stigma about it but like many people go to therapy and its considered actually good for you even if you are "healthy" its like working on yourself
Yes I’m in therapy myself and it’s a positive thing because it takes a lot of inner strength to recognize your flaws and come to terms with them to fix them. However I’m in therapy for anxiety but tbh I don't know there is a few things people could go to therapy for that i will not be able to accept like being a pedophile or something.
I would probably never date someone who doesn't approach therapy with skepticism. Many therapists are quacks and incompetents and some therapy is founded on things which are not very scientific. This is confirmed by my friend who is herself a therapist and Dr. Steven Marmer.
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I'm not opposed to therapy. I go to therapy. I have a problem if someone won't go to therapy who clearly needs it.
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Update: i think that is very smart to do before you get married. I'd say most of my daughter's friends and my daughter too had at least a small amount of therapy just to get some perspective and then a lot of parents get divorces around middle school or high school. The ones who had a cheating parent had a bit harder time.
For sure. Going to therapy is about recognizing your weaknesses and getting help to be a better person. I see therapy as a positive life decision. Its a mental physical.
I would as long as he wasn’t there for anything potentially dangerous or relationship-ending, like he was an addict or struggled with violent impulses.
Even outside the extreme (murder or questionable sexual interests) there are a variable cornucopia of reasons they might attend therapy. If you could specify what level I could give a more exact answer. However, since I date as a means of finding a permanent partner I would not like the idea of dating a person who isn't capable of stabilizing themselves.
Yes I would. The fact that he went to therapy shows that he is trying to improve himself. He/she took a step to better themselves and I think that’s admirable and nothing to be ashamed of, or something that would be a dealbreaker for dating.
Knowing someone is going to therapy can be taken a number of way, but mostly either positive or negative. Either you are worried the person is messed up and requires therapy, or that person recognizes their damaged state and seeks to be mentally healthier. I choose to focus on the latter as it designates emotional maturity.
Them being in therapy wouldn't be a problem. Well obviously the fact that they need therapy is a problem but it wouldn't make me not want to date them. I'd be more worried that they didn't tell me. I can understand they may feel embarrassed (they shouldn't) but I'd be concerned if they felt they couldn't trust me or thought I'd leave them if I found out.
Yes. Therapy doesn't allude to the person being crazy and that stigma keeps people from getting necessary help. I wouldn't mind dating a person that goes to therapy.
Yeah. I'm in therapy myself so to stop dating someone because they were or had been in the past would be stupid. With that said it would depend on why they were in therapy
Yes... the fact of them doing something to improve themselves only lets me know they are a great person for taking responsibility for something mentally they are dealing with.
Context is important and the openess of the person about - I would guess maybe I would have no issue with maybe 90% who need therapy, I had therapy myself.
Depends on the reason why the person is/was in therapy. And, of course, how severe the problem was. If the person is fine now and if they didn't hurt anybody, then it's not a dealbreaker.
Hell y not. We are all twisted in the head one way or 20. Least one person had the stones to try and work on it. Plus, could be a blast if their crazy lines up and equals my insanity
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