Would you date someone with mental health issues?

[Anonymous]

For example body dysmorphia, anxiety, depression etc.

[akihon]

No I've been there and suffered that.

Not going into too much detail but met a woman and fell in love and found out she had bipolar disorder and BPD, I chose to ignore it because I loved get and thought that I'd be able to help her. I didn't have any training so didn't have a clue what I was in for.

Fast forward a few years and we got married, then it started, abuse, anger, violence and any number of other things untill I got to the point where it either ended or I was looking at a long spell in a mental institution myself, I still now deal with the mental and physical scars from it, the divorce was horrendous and she was extremely vindictive, she had acquired friends who were more than happy to sit in the court and state that they were feminists and blame me for all of her behaviour which as you can imagine added to my issues. They stuck with her until she turned on them too. My children don't have contact with me because of accusations made and zero evidence provided but they are, I'm told, also in need of mental health support because of what she's doing to them.

You might ask now why she isn't on medication, she is or was last I knew of it but the medication doesn't always work for everyone, it's a game of cat and mouse, some things work and some don't

It's a case of finding the right meds and right combination of those meds and right dose which can take years and in some cases will never find the right dose.

[SteveSmith1985]

I have. I think many of us have, and aren't aware of it. So for me, this is really going to depend on the specific mental health issue and it's severity.

For example, If you've got depression, that's not a problem, unless it's severe.

dysmorphia- If that inclues eating disorders, I would say it depends on where someone is in recovering. If someone is actively struggling with bulemia or anorexia then no. I've done that, and wouldn't START a relationship with someone unless they were quite far along in recovery. If I were in a relationship with someone already, I wouldn't break up with them for having dysmorphia (or a relapse).

Anxiety, absolutely. I can be patient with that. No problem.

I think it comes down to "how much are you, still you?"


So I think it really depends.

[Anonymous]

I have and no I would not again. I am not good at it as those types of people needs someone who's their therapist/partner and I hate talking about feelings etc. so I just don't and then it doesn't work well. Plus because of my social anxiety I am afraid of confrontation so when my ex stopped taking his meds I just let him, I asked him once "is it really a good idea when you've told me that you get really bad without them?" and he said "yes I don't want them anymore you can keep an eye on me and tell me if I get bad". But then he changed so much without them and on top of that went into denial and if I ever tried to help him he got pissed and denied that he's ever had mental health issues even though it was at a really bad low point and he wasn't even eating properly but he refused to admit it and I had no idea what to do about it. Plus i'm a very empathic person so I just took in what he was going through and it drained me

[Poppykate]

I think that it takes a lot of love and patience. I thought I was having problems with mental health, but it turned out to be health issues. I was dealing it for years, before it came to a dramatic head on. It’s really important to get a full check up if you are experiencing mental health issues. I was having wild mood swings if I skipped a meal. (Think Julia Roberts in Steel Magnolias). I now have to eat regularly, watch my diet, and exercise. I am so much healthier and happier.

[Poppykate]

Cheers for the MHG! 🍻

[coachTanthony]

----------------Well I would say most people I know have some kind of an issue they are dealing with so... unless you are looking for Mr. or Misses Perfect I would say its a good bet that most people will say YES.

Obviously the "cuckoo for cocoa puffs" kind are not who I am referring too.

[mrfoox]

If they're seeking help for it or are getting it already: yeah. I'm on medication for deppression and seeing a therapist monthly myself. I wouldn't dump someone for dealing with mental illnesses, but if they're unwilling to seek help and get better... I think I'd end up feeling worse being around them

[SpacedCharr]

Currently do, and currently am one of those.

Anxious dating a depressive.

It didn't go well last time, this time we both seem to be optimistic, so things seem to be working alright.

[Account]

I lack the patience to help another one through their issues. There are professionals for that. I can barely help myself let alone someone else.

[Desconhecida]

These days, we all have some kind of mental disorder...

[cavmanier]

People tend to have all kinds of personality issues outside of what are classified as mental health issues. Many of those issues are much worse.

You know what's interesting? I used to work in healthcare and would read patients charts all the time. What I noticed was people that would often be on psychological medication like antidepressants would often be the nicest, most thoughtful people.

I consider some mental health issues normal and no big deal. Often people that seek treatment for issues are the most self-aware people. Many people that don't seek treatment may have worse issues but don't think they are flawed. It's like a narcissist or psychopath will never think they have an issue so they won't seek treatment.

So yes I have an open mind.

[VIVANT]

You mean like a human being lol

everyone has mental health issues.

we live in a world with by heart bombs that can actually go off by mistake.

some people don’t talk about it but e retune has something.

Money covers it up to an extent. A rich asshole is ambitious. A poor asshole is anti social. A rich model or athlete is paid to be underweight. A poor woman underweight is “ sick”.

[BitterSweetApplePie]

1 in 5 adults suffer from a mental illness. Most people have issues, whether its mental illness or something else. Nobody is easy to live with. Not everyone who has a mental illness is crazy or "toxic". Someone saying they won't date someone because they're mentally ill sounds like they have far worse issues.

[SjE78]

I have depression and anxiety, tend to have a little OCD too and often find that during conversations i am compelled to finish what i have on my mind... otherwise it becomes an issue for me

so yeah I would if we clicked and got on, just like anyone else really

I have no issues with dating any woman with mental or physical issues, all i ask is be honest, and kind

[Rocky_Jocky57]

Depends, but probs not. Been there, done that, and all it did was drain me. Especially when theyvrsfusebto getbthe help they need, but rely in you to tell them it will be ok and that it's not their fault. At some point, it just becomes you trying to make them not kill themselves and isn't a real relationship.

[archiz]

Anxiety isn't really a mental illness.
You have disorders and mental illnesses.
Most of us people deal with them to a certain extent like depression, anxiety, paranoia etc...
The issue is when someone has a predisposition for smthng and it becomes chronic.
I am in a relationship with someone who suffers with some of these conditions.
I accept the person with his flaws and imperfections just like me and try to understand where he is coming from to be able to help.

[JHNS98]

Being on the shu side, my answer is no. That vbeing said, I once dated a girl with ADHD, which didn't work out.

But then again I have a friend who is bipolar, she has a boyfriend. Another friend of mine used to be suicidal, she is also in a relationship now.

[perislav85]

I'm depressive and suffering from anxiety. But, I'm taking my medications and I'm functional for all types of connections. I had several serious relationships and all of them wasn't last less than a year.
And to answer to your question, yes, I would 😉

[FarmerJoe]

Yes, As I have mental health issues (depression) so if they suffer from depression I can understand where they are coming from. If they have any other mental health issues I would decide on a case by case basics. I would never automatically accept or reject someone simply based on their mental health condition.

[Pejtu]

I did have ex girlfriend with depression, abandonment issues overall Pathologic house kinda
It was too much to handle
She had panic attacks, depression attacks where she did not talk to me for 4,5 days, she had good and awesome days also but u know
I got my limits and one Day i said fuck this, Thats enaugh
We broke up after 10 months

[jss123]

Depends how serious. I've dated someone with Borderline personality disorder'(diagnosed) and another with Narcissistic personality disorder. (later diagnosed). Never again.. Getting abused and allowing it because the person is sick is not good for your own mental health.
I'd rather be single.

[sammy1537]

There was a video floating around where a physicist explained how the crazier the lady, the better sex. Most men believe that and will attempt to date a crazy one at least once.
I never had the pleasure but I see the logic of it

[_food_lover234]

look, I'm being honest, generally no.
I just, no offense, I find they can be hard to date but also may have some baggage. I want to help them, but it can quite often make me feel worse, and thats why i generally say no.

[DorkVader]

These days, you're probably NOT gonna find someone who doesn't have a mental health issue. The trick is dealing with the ones who have taken a healthy approach to their problems and that are capable of having a relationship with you

[Powderpuff97]

I have body dismorphic reallyllllly bad and it’s ruined. I don’t even think any guy would want an unattractive girl like me soo I decided to sell my virginity

I think a guy will date girl with issues because we all have them

[EastCoastChick]

Yes depends on how severe and what there day to day is like. Me having mild depression and anxiety don’t think im really fit to deal with too much stress from another person..

[thatoneguyy1994]

I'm an Acute Schizo-Affect with Manic Depressive Type 2 Bi Polar, being in a relationship with a girl with Borderline Personality Disorder is a task but I love her enough to work through both of our issues and I think she feels the same, the reality is EVERYONE is crazy in their own way, if you want to find real love you have to accept that

[GayLoner]

Would you date someone with mental health issues, begins to list body dysmorphia anxiety and depression the top 3 most common 'mental health' issues lol

Not would you date a schizophrenic, would you date a transgender, would you date a sociopath, would you date etc.

[Darcia]

Yep. My ex is autistic there’s nothing wrong with folks who are diagnosed with psychological disorders. There are lots of stereotypical folks on here. Get off your high horse. Overcome the stigma

[maddog998]

Yes, this whole world has mental health issues. There is honestly no escaping from that one. Look at Robin Williams and most of the singers who all died because of mental illness

[Sankha20]

Been there, done that. It's so draining, but I'd do it again depending on the person.

She wanted to chat while I was in class or at work. She'd keep me awake at night because she wanted someone to talk to. Even though I needed to wake up early. I have depression/anxiety as well, so tried my best to deal with it and to understand her. After a year I couldn't take it anymore. On top of that, whenever I told her I loved her she would never say it back, she'd only look me dead in the eye.

[Anonymous]

Yes because just because they have a mental illness doesn’t make them any less human than people without
I suffer from bipolar depression and I’m still human
in my opinion it’s fucked up to separate the mentally ill from the rest of the world when we are all the same minus the fact the wiring in our brain is a bit screwed up

[Avicenna]

No, I have already done this. The problem is co-morbidity, I. e., them having so many things. My ex was BPD in addition to having anxiety, depression and ADD.

[ksmiller]

I struggle with anxiety and depression, so I personally would still date someone with mental health issues.

[MikeGaveO]

Yes. I wouldn't let something they struggle with be a obstacle in our relationship.

[ninjagirl_34]

Yes I would honestly. The person I used to date had anxiety depression etc. I also have those things and more so yeah I would date them

[victtory]

Yes, because she simply need someone to make her realize that her problem is temporary, and be overturned.
So I can

[Marie132]

Yeah, mental health doesn't define an individual after all, if I like their personality then I'd date them

[arabgoddess]

Someone who has issues like me.. Yes.. I'd most definitely understand what they're going through

[simianmbd]

Depends on the type of trauma and the coping mechanisms. But since I got dumped out of a 4 year relationship where I was emotionally abused I would rather not.

[genericname85]

depends. certain things are fixable or bearable. some aren't. for example i wouldn't ever date a person with borderline personality disorder or a psychopath.

[19LukeM94]

It depends of her awareness of the problems, if she tries to reduce the symptoms by going on therphies (for instance), then why not?
Otherwise, if she has surrendering character, then I wouldn't mess with her.

[markitus]

Of course! I already did, I think of I can make someone happy by dating and I like him / her, why not?
Of the guy / girl you like have issues like that and he likes you, maybe you can be the solution for him / her

[Joshyjay95]

As long as the mental health issues don't prevent her from succeeding in life.

[BCA6010]

Case by case basis. If it's something , then really serious, then most likely not.

[Drumlin2001]

I'd be a hypocrite to say no.
As long as they own it and manage it then yes. If they were unwilling to address it then it would be more difficult

[Nik1hil]

It's not a deal breaker for me...
Mental issue are a struggle I am willing to go with...
Mental disease is deal breaker..

[SarahsSummer]

if they were actively aware and proactively getting help for it, I may.

[On_cloud_wine]

No! I need someone completely opposite of myself to keep me grounded and bail me out of jail! Haha!

[Dainolf]

Yes. I have struggled myself and understand. However if she is not willing to deal with it and using it as an excuse I am out.

[Anonymous]

I have a mental health issues that im on medication for. Im very well condition. But i know what something like that has an effect on others. So no i wouldn't date them, you need to stabilise yourself before getting involved with someone else

[Ianto]

Not doing so would really limit ones options. Anyway, you generally only find out about them after you start dating.
To be fair - I'm not so sure about my own mental health anyway. 🥺

[theCobbler]

Tough question... if I k ew before the date? No! I've dealt with my mother for the last 40 years. Depression Blows ! ( Not to sound disrespectful or mean ).

[Dchrls78104]

Maybe. With caution. I recommend, however, that those with certain serious mental health issues get and benefit from professional help before starting to date or have relationships.

[Shark_61695]

I'd prefer not to, I have enough of my own issues but so many people have their own, this is nigh impossible.

[Ayer93]

As long as it didn't get in the way of the relationship, and they're able to love wholeheartedly I don't see a problem.

[Tommy2017]

I wouldn't mind provided it ain't those scary conditions where the smallest mistake you make trigger them.

[Creepazoid]

I'd be a hypocrite if I said no cause I'm pretty much this person.

[Luvme66]

I would... thats it... i would if am attracted to them!

[james2018dean]

I have. Accidentally. And a former fiance was bipolar. But didn't realize it for a couple years. Guess her medicine stopped working.

[Iron_Man]

No thanks that doesn't go very well in my experience

[jasco]

Depends on the type but sure I might be able to help her out

[ShyIntrovert25]

I would but that's because I have anxiety and ocd and, I think I'm really ugly and hideous to women

[TahoeHiker]

I believe I always have dated ones with mental health issues ( just joking babe)

[Snakeyes7]

Yes. If you really love someone, that shouldn’t matter.