Would you date someone with mental health issues?

[Anonymous]

For example body dysmorphia, anxiety, depression etc.

[akihon]

No I've been there and suffered that.

Not going into too much detail but met a woman and fell in love and found out she had bipolar disorder and BPD, I chose to ignore it because I loved get and thought that I'd be able to help her. I didn't have any training so didn't have a clue what I was in for.

Fast forward a few years and we got married, then it started, abuse, anger, violence and any number of other things untill I got to the point where it either ended or I was looking at a long spell in a mental institution myself, I still now deal with the mental and physical scars from it, the divorce was horrendous and she was extremely vindictive, she had acquired friends who were more than happy to sit in the court and state that they were feminists and blame me for all of her behaviour which as you can imagine added to my issues. They stuck with her until she turned on them too. My children don't have contact with me because of accusations made and zero evidence provided but they are, I'm told, also in need of mental health support because of what she's doing to them.

You might ask now why she isn't on medication, she is or was last I knew of it but the medication doesn't always work for everyone, it's a game of cat and mouse, some things work and some don't

It's a case of finding the right meds and right combination of those meds and right dose which can take years and in some cases will never find the right dose.

[SteveSmith1985]

I have. I think many of us have, and aren't aware of it. So for me, this is really going to depend on the specific mental health issue and it's severity.

For example, If you've got depression, that's not a problem, unless it's severe.

dysmorphia- If that inclues eating disorders, I would say it depends on where someone is in recovering. If someone is actively struggling with bulemia or anorexia then no. I've done that, and wouldn't START a relationship with someone unless they were quite far along in recovery. If I were in a relationship with someone already, I wouldn't break up with them for having dysmorphia (or a relapse).

Anxiety, absolutely. I can be patient with that. No problem.

I think it comes down to "how much are you, still you?"


So I think it really depends.

[Anonymous]

I have and no I would not again. I am not good at it as those types of people needs someone who's their therapist/partner and I hate talking about feelings etc. so I just don't and then it doesn't work well. Plus because of my social anxiety I am afraid of confrontation so when my ex stopped taking his meds I just let him, I asked him once "is it really a good idea when you've told me that you get really bad without them?" and he said "yes I don't want them anymore you can keep an eye on me and tell me if I get bad". But then he changed so much without them and on top of that went into denial and if I ever tried to help him he got pissed and denied that he's ever had mental health issues even though it was at a really bad low point and he wasn't even eating properly but he refused to admit it and I had no idea what to do about it. Plus i'm a very empathic person so I just took in what he was going through and it drained me

[Poppykate]

I think that it takes a lot of love and patience. I thought I was having problems with mental health, but it turned out to be health issues. I was dealing it for years, before it came to a dramatic head on. It’s really important to get a full check up if you are experiencing mental health issues. I was having wild mood swings if I skipped a meal. (Think Julia Roberts in Steel Magnolias). I now have to eat regularly, watch my diet, and exercise. I am so much healthier and happier.

[Poppykate]

Cheers for the MHG! 🍻

[coachTanthony]

----------------Well I would say most people I know have some kind of an issue they are dealing with so... unless you are looking for Mr. or Misses Perfect I would say its a good bet that most people will say YES.

Obviously the "cuckoo for cocoa puffs" kind are not who I am referring too.

[mrfoox]

If they're seeking help for it or are getting it already: yeah. I'm on medication for deppression and seeing a therapist monthly myself. I wouldn't dump someone for dealing with mental illnesses, but if they're unwilling to seek help and get better... I think I'd end up feeling worse being around them

[SpacedCharr]

Currently do, and currently am one of those.

Anxious dating a depressive.

It didn't go well last time, this time we both seem to be optimistic, so things seem to be working alright.

[Account]

I lack the patience to help another one through their issues. There are professionals for that. I can barely help myself let alone someone else.

[Desconhecida]

These days, we all have some kind of mental disorder...

[cavmanier]

People tend to have all kinds of personality issues outside of what are classified as mental health issues. Many of those issues are much worse.

You know what's interesting? I used to work in healthcare and would read patients charts all the time. What I noticed was people that would often be on psychological medication like antidepressants would often be the nicest, most thoughtful people.

I consider some mental health issues normal and no big deal. Often people that seek treatment for issues are the most self-aware people. Many people that don't seek treatment may have worse issues but don't think they are flawed. It's like a narcissist or psychopath will never think they have an issue so they won't seek treatment.

So yes I have an open mind.

[VIVANT]

You mean like a human being lol

everyone has mental health issues.

we live in a world with by heart bombs that can actually go off by mistake.

some people don’t talk about it but e retune has something.

Money covers it up to an extent. A rich asshole is ambitious. A poor asshole is anti social. A rich model or athlete is paid to be underweight. A poor woman underweight is “ sick”.

[BitterSweetApplePie]

1 in 5 adults suffer from a mental illness. Most people have issues, whether its mental illness or something else. Nobody is easy to live with. Not everyone who has a mental illness is crazy or "toxic". Someone saying they won't date someone because they're mentally ill sounds like they have far worse issues.

[SjE78]

I have depression and anxiety, tend to have a little OCD too and often find that during conversations i am compelled to finish what i have on my mind... otherwise it becomes an issue for me

so yeah I would if we clicked and got on, just like anyone else really

I have no issues with dating any woman with mental or physical issues, all i ask is be honest, and kind

[Rocky_Jocky57]

Depends, but probs not. Been there, done that, and all it did was drain me. Especially when theyvrsfusebto getbthe help they need, but rely in you to tell them it will be ok and that it's not their fault. At some point, it just becomes you trying to make them not kill themselves and isn't a real relationship.

[archiz]

Anxiety isn't really a mental illness.
You have disorders and mental illnesses.
Most of us people deal with them to a certain extent like depression, anxiety, paranoia etc...
The issue is when someone has a predisposition for smthng and it becomes chronic.
I am in a relationship with someone who suffers with some of these conditions.
I accept the person with his flaws and imperfections just like me and try to understand where he is coming from to be able to help.

[JHNS98]

Being on the shu side, my answer is no. That vbeing said, I once dated a girl with ADHD, which didn't work out.

But then again I have a friend who is bipolar, she has a boyfriend. Another friend of mine used to be suicidal, she is also in a relationship now.

[perislav85]

I'm depressive and suffering from anxiety. But, I'm taking my medications and I'm functional for all types of connections. I had several serious relationships and all of them wasn't last less than a year.
And to answer to your question, yes, I would 😉

[FarmerJoe]

Yes, As I have mental health issues (depression) so if they suffer from depression I can understand where they are coming from. If they have any other mental health issues I would decide on a case by case basics. I would never automatically accept or reject someone simply based on their mental health condition.

[Pejtu]

I did have ex girlfriend with depression, abandonment issues overall Pathologic house kinda
It was too much to handle
She had panic attacks, depression attacks where she did not talk to me for 4,5 days, she had good and awesome days also but u know
I got my limits and one Day i said fuck this, Thats enaugh
We broke up after 10 months

[jss123]

Depends how serious. I've dated someone with Borderline personality disorder'(diagnosed) and another with Narcissistic personality disorder. (later diagnosed). Never again.. Getting abused and allowing it because the person is sick is not good for your own mental health.
I'd rather be single.

[sammy1537]

There was a video floating around where a physicist explained how the crazier the lady, the better sex. Most men believe that and will attempt to date a crazy one at least once.
I never had the pleasure but I see the logic of it

[_food_lover234]

look, I'm being honest, generally no.
I just, no offense, I find they can be hard to date but also may have some baggage. I want to help them, but it can quite often make me feel worse, and thats why i generally say no.

[DorkVader]

These days, you're probably NOT gonna find someone who doesn't have a mental health issue. The trick is dealing with the ones who have taken a healthy approach to their problems and that are capable of having a relationship with you

[Powderpuff97]

I have body dismorphic reallyllllly bad and it’s ruined. I don’t even think any guy would want an unattractive girl like me soo I decided to sell my virginity

I think a guy will date girl with issues because we all have them