Questions: Relationships

Maybe I've just misinterpreted or listened to bad advice but...

I've seen a few posters on here argue that the guy has to take charge and set clear limits as to what the woman can or can't do. For example, if she becomes interested in Feminism, he's supposed to stop her (this isn't a feminism question). These guys are often popular with girls by the way.

Taking control and ordering people isn't natural to me. I'm more of a loner. When I do take charge, I do it by consensus and I convince the people in my group as to the correct way to do things. If they still refuse, I just leave them on their own and do things my way. I'm neither a doormat nor a boss. I'm a 'democratic leader' as opposed to a dictator. I approach relationships the same way.

What I want to know is do women want the guy to be a dictator?

(Note: Dictator doesn't mean violent. It just means he tells her what to do.)

If you like a girl and:

1. Haven't seen her for ages
2. Haven't texted her for ages
3. Texted her recently or within a week
4. Texted her 2 weeks ago
5. Want to build up rapport with

Can you text her happy Friday and get a response?

Worried about being ignored or making it awkward?

If you don't put x's is it all right?

How to find out a girl's birthday discreetly?
How to ask how she's been?

Our first month dating was my last month living with my family, so this all has occurred over a very transitional period in my life. I think this may have to do with my confusion and stress. At first it seemed like she was absolutely crazy about me, like to a point where I was scared about eventually breaking her heart. About three weeks in I fell for her hardcore and felt like we were going to be a pretty long term thing. She actually mentioned that she sees us going far. One month in she told me she loved me and I didn't really think it was love yet. I was pretty obsessed with her but I've never been in real love (I don't really know what it is or IF it really is anything) and I felt that it was way too early in the relationship to call it love. Our second month together was a lot of fun. I was settling into the new place and she was getting to meet a lot of my friends. We threw a few parties and her friends came and they all had fun but I started to notice that she kind of ignores me when she's around a lot of people. A few days later we had a long talk about where we see ourselves in the future. She basically told me that although she loves me and would do anything for me, she does not see our relationship going much further than three months into the future. I at first kind of took it lightly because apparently I couldn't grasp what I was hearing. I dismissed it like it was nothing. A day later after an anxious day at work, I came home and sat down with her. I told her (while crying just about the entire time) that I loved her with all my heart but that I couldn't handle being in the relationship if it seems so temporary in her eyes. She cried in my arms and said she still loves me and doesn't want it to end, she just sees it ending sooner than I do. I guess her definition of a long term relationship is different from mine. We're still together now. I am content with a short relationship, but telling me so before it's over just effs with my head.