Polls: Relationships

My boyfriend (29) and I (27) were dating for almost 4 years. We lived together in a rental for 3 years. We talked about buying a house and had multiple house viewing. After 6 months one of our offers on a house was accepted. The day before we had to sign the contract he said he can’t do it because he needs to live on his own first. He feels like he missed out on that experience because he went to live with me right out of college. He says he hates himself for it and is embarrassed but it’s just something he needs to do. He found a rental for a year and is planning to move in next week. He says he still loves me and hopes we can be together again after he found himself. Also that he was planning on proposing to me next year but this is just something he has to do. Should I stay around or leave him?

If you could only have one of these traits in a partner you'll spend the rest of your life with, which would you choose?

If it was a regular thing, if your partner took them in their car and it happened regularly.

My fiancé and I have been together for 4 yrs-engaged for 1 yr. I moved to his home state and into the home of him and his grandma. There’s no real drama except our relationship is done it seems

Today is his birthday (12/14) and he sends me this text.

His grandma was out of the house since she was in the hospital leaving us alone almost 6 days. For once he didn’t have to keep doing everything little thing she asks him to do and he had peace for once. But I noticed he was “bored” a lot. That alarmed me since he wasn’t taking advantage of the peace and freedom he had for once.

We are in our mid 20’s and he has never had the house alone in years! So it’s weird he wouldn’t enjoy it. But I’ve come to the conclusion that he likes taking care of her EVERY single need even if he has no energy to focus on himself let alone OUR RELATIONSHIP.

Don’t think I’m jealous & inconsiderate & don’t want him taking care of his grandma, that’s what I admired about him. I work all day so by the time I get home @ 6/7pm I only get 1-2 hrs of his time and in the mix of that she’s calling him to get something else.

it’s to the point where we haven’t had any dates but our weekends consist of running errands for her. I tell him I wants dates but that’s hasn’t happened.

I tell him we need quality he shuts down and gets upset as if I’m asking for too much. The topic of getting or saving up for our own home is now contingent on his grandma’s at home nurse capabilities on taking care of her. But 2 months earlier we agreed to start saving.

Is he breaking up with me?