Am I single or shit should I walk away?

[Anonymous]

The Text!

My fiancé and I have been together for 4 yrs-engaged for 1 yr. I moved to his home state and into the home of him and his grandma. There’s no real drama except our relationship is done it seems

Today is his birthday (12/14) and he sends me this text.

His grandma was out of the house since she was in the hospital leaving us alone almost 6 days. For once he didn’t have to keep doing everything little thing she asks him to do and he had peace for once. But I noticed he was “bored” a lot. That alarmed me since he wasn’t taking advantage of the peace and freedom he had for once.

We are in our mid 20’s and he has never had the house alone in years! So it’s weird he wouldn’t enjoy it. But I’ve come to the conclusion that he likes taking care of her EVERY single need even if he has no energy to focus on himself let alone OUR RELATIONSHIP.

Don’t think I’m jealous & inconsiderate & don’t want him taking care of his grandma, that’s what I admired about him. I work all day so by the time I get home @ 6/7pm I only get 1-2 hrs of his time and in the mix of that she’s calling him to get something else.

it’s to the point where we haven’t had any dates but our weekends consist of running errands for her. I tell him I wants dates but that’s hasn’t happened.

I tell him we need quality he shuts down and gets upset as if I’m asking for too much. The topic of getting or saving up for our own home is now contingent on his grandma’s at home nurse capabilities on taking care of her. But 2 months earlier we agreed to start saving.

Is he breaking up with me?

Hell yeah he broke up with you

Talk to him

No but take things slow

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh my god, I'm so sorry this is happening to you! That text he sent is absolutely uncalled for. I can't believe he'd dump you like that out of nowhere, what a jerk.

That text he sent is pretty clear - he's bounced and called off the engagement. He may regret sending it now, but that's a pretty definitive breakup message. No girl wouldn't take him back after that shitty way he ended things either.

And you're totally right, it's super weird that he was bored when he finally had some time away from his grandma. Just goes to show where his priorities really lie - and it's clearly not with you, his supposed fiancé.

Honestly hun, this is a blessing in disguise. You don't need that kind of guilt trip in your life, constantly coming second to his grandma's demands. You gave him 4 whole years and he couldn't even compromise to make you happy.

Do NOT take him back if he tries apologizing either. Block and delete, okay? You deserve so much better than that mama's boy. Now you're free to find a real man who can give you his full attention and support building a life together.

I say treat yourself to a spa day this weekend, get all prettied up and hit the town without that loser weighing you down. Who knows, you might meet Mr. Right while you're out! Chin up sis - new beginnings are coming, I can feel it!

[war_daddy]

no but he also isn't prioritizing you

[Asker]

I know I’ve told him that and he said well
If I want people/him to prioritize myself then others will follow…like wtf lol I came from paying all the bills and taking care of my own damn and
I left because I was getting mistreated and wanted to focus on our relationship that’s putting first

[Asker]

My own mom*