Polls: Relationships

What should I do show them the proof first then ask or ask them and then show proof or try to work it out?

When I asked my brother who is 21, about him not liking me accepting my boyfriend's video call in front of him and his one college friend, he said that I should not have done that as his friend will spread it in his college that his sister has a boyfriend.

But also, when my brother was in a relationship at age 20, he used to openly video call in front of his friends, parents and me too, so when i asked him that why he did not mind accepting her GFs video call, he told me that, her dad has xxx properties and xxx homes (technically his girlfriend and his family was richer than bro and our family) - I got negative vibes from my brother as I love my boyfriend and I got no reason to hide it from anyone.

I also did not feel that I did anything wrong by accepting video call of his in front of my brother and his friend. (I am 25 and my boyfriend is 30)

My boyfriend (we are in a serous relationship) is of good family, but his origin is different state, and he is also a middle class and not as rich as us. My father likes him. My mom suggested me to find someone richer, but I said that I will never break my boyfriend's heart.

Maybe I’m just a negative & suspicious person but I often just feel like I have more problems than the average person. No I’m not dying or lost a limb but anyone relate?

The other day I saw an episode of House and there was a situation where if a husband gave up his liver his wife MIGHT live, but he would definitely die... He signed without thought.

I have someone in my life who I would do that for, and she for me... Without thought. Unfortunately we are not partners.

Do you have someone like that in your life?

Inspired by the song 🎶 Love on the Brain 🎶

Your brain says no but your heart says yes!
What do you do?

I'm 35 and he's 43. We've been dating for nearly 9 months. My mother thinks we sound more like innocent 14-15 year-olds holding hands and kissing but no one initiates anything, there isn't any passion nor sparks at all. We haven't even seen each other naked either. We had done nothing sexual. Honestly, I don't care too much about the sexual part. I'm more worried about the forming a family part.

We had a woman-to-woman talk and she believes that at some point, it all comes naturally and the man eventually leads (or it comes naturally from me) unless there is something about him I don't know. She thinks the fact that he's waiting that long and ok in a relationship he's not getting anything is rare because very few men will wait that long. She thinks that's part of the reason things are taking longer. She believes some passion will help things, will progress things and form a family.

My father on the other hand is more worried about when we'll form a family already. I'll be honest, I'm with him on this one. I'm worried about that part too.

Be honest, do you find our relationship weird?

So rewind to a few months ago, my dad used to reach out weekly or maybe every few weeks. At the time, my mom and I (parents are divorced) weren’t talking so not sure if my dad saw himself as the middle man. As soon as my mom and I start talking again, he begins reaching out more frequently. Maybe it’s a coincidence but my dad in my opinion reaches out too often while my mom reaches out just as often and for some reason it doesn’t bother me. My mom lives local and my dad lives in another state, we didn’t talk for 3 years and started again last year. Again he didn’t reach out that often until my mom and I started talking again. My dad just irks me I can’t put a finger on it well kind of but it’s hard to explain. This past weekend, I speak with him Saturday after he calls again from when I didn’t pick up that Tuesday. After we speak about an hr, he calls back about an hr after and I don’t pick up. Sunday, he calls me 4 times and I didn’t answer bc I was just frustrated. I know it’s not an emergency bc he usually texts after if he needs something. Yesterday, he calls again and I kind of chew him out for calling so much Sunday, he called to tell me about a show he watched and I had to ask if that REALLY warranted 4 calls in one day, like a text would’ve done the trick. Honestly I don’t understand why he needs to reach out so much we haven’t had an argument since 3+ years ago before we stopped talking. He only talks to his brother and isn’t on speaking terms with the rest of his family bc they’re assholes. I am kind of fed up with everyone sympathizing for him but I am alone too & don’t see anyone pitying me. My thing is what if I was married or had kids, I’d still be expected to devote my time to him? That isn’t my fault or obligation.