Polls: Relationships

We often feel these "butterflies" when we really like someone, but some people seem to think it's a warning that the person who makes you feel this way is actually not good for you.
But what do you think? Good sign? Bad sign? No idea?

If these things are met, then the relationship progresses:

- You never got into ugly arguments with yelling matches nor insulted each other. It's ok to disagree on topics but never ok to be verbally abusive.

- Neither you nor your partner has problems with the parents. Both sets of parents like each other.

- There is mutual help in the relationship and both are serious about wanting a family.

- There is no jealousy nor trust issue whatsoever.

- Similar views on important topics

- Good management in finances and knowing when to save money

If the relationship already has lots of arguments, drama, too much differences, trust issues (even worse if cheating too place) and either your parents hating your partner or your partner's parents hating you then I can image that can either slow down the process or transform it into a dead-end that eventually leads to a break-up. After all what would be the motivation of wanting to settle down and have kids with them? None. You already have the negatives you are already dreading moving towards the next step.

It's like you're already having an issue with your employee and is he's still in training... after all that are you doing to even want to promote him (even if he has worked for 6+ years)... nope.

Lets say they didn't exactly committed infidelity, not that you know of. However they did this:

- Lied about the whole relationship, even lied about their real age

- Scam you with your money, never paying it back (or even use you for a Green Card)

- They never loved you and you were just accomodity to them

They basically cheated you out of a life (years), a life you could've with someone else.Would this also count as cheating too?

So, recently we found out that my boyfriend of 9 months 17 year old sister is pregnant, about four months along.

We were all supportive, the father-to-be has already stepped up and is prepared to support her and the baby.

However, that's not the issue, the issue is I found out my boyfriend knew since she found out, but didn't tell me.

He said she told him not to tell anyone, and I told him that doesn't include me, we're supposed to tell each other EVERYTHING, and he disagreed - he says if someone asks you to keep something to yourself, that means exactly that.

We've had massive fights over this the last few days, and he won't budge, I keep reminding him how partners are supposed to share everything, and asking what else he's been hiding, and he just keeps reiterating how he respected her wish to keep it secret until she's ready to tell everyone.

Am I right?

Alex and lover Kelly move in together. Both have graveyard schedules & smoke. Kelly usually finishes smoking faster & goes inside first. Kelly also uses a small metal black footstool outside.

Alex can't see it in the dark & bangs their leg hard walking back inside. Small cut, big bruise! Alex moves it out of the walkway. Alex doesn't blame Kelly for the accident and admits to not looking before walking; but since Kelly insists on keeping patio light off, asks Kelly to move it out of the way when not in use. Kelly says ok but be more careful.

This happens 3 more times over the next few days. Each time ending in Alex moving it aside & a gentle reminder for Kelly to please move it before coming inside. Alex comments on the worsening pain as time goes on & is limping some now. Kelly shows minimal concern or help. The 3rd time, Alex is very frustrated and confronts Kelly more harshly. Kelly agrees to put more thought into remembering but Alex should really learn to walk around the area to avoid another accident.

Two weeks Kelly just hasn't used the stool so it couldn't be accidentally left out again. Alex's leg has swollen & bruised up alarmingly bad. A quarter sized blood clot is ballooned out of Alex's calf, requiring blood thinners.

One night the couple is outside together again and Kelly uses the stool. Just like before its left out & Alex kicks it falling inside with intense pain crying out for Kelly's soothing. Kelly asserts "if you can't learn to look where you're going then I guess I'll just have to throw it away". Alex says its unfair to force guilt like that. "Either my fault you have to trash your footrest or its my fault i got hurt again when I'm the only one moving it aside and you keep moving it back and forgetting". Alex suggests finding a way so the stool more visible like glowing tape or using the patio light. Kelly refuses, rules it trash, & both stay upset the rest of the day...

Who is right?