Polls: Relationships

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If he's giving excuses and you have a feeling you're getting BS, is this also a way of getting string along?
The woman has already been proposed after 1 year of living together (that's the timeframe she established in the beginning) but then he keeps postponing the wedding date, giving out more excuses and no one is suffering any financial issue is this also getting string along?

If it's been nearly 4 years (on April it'll be the 4th year of the engagement) is that too much?

There are many question options bc I’m not only interested in IF it happened but HOW it happened. What was it that was important to you beyond friendship, that was unattainable. Being in a friendship when you have greater feelings for someone can be frustrating or painful but we are not all bothered by the same loss nor do we all prioritize the same experiences, so in light of that I wanted to get into the weeds a bit.

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SO, I’d like to preface this by saying my boyfriend has always known about all of this. Everything has been communicated to the best of my ability. I just can’t shake the guilt.

i used to post a lot on here about my ex, who I thought I loved. Truth be told, he manipulated me, gaslit me and made me feel less than human. Even once told me to k*ll myself. During our relationship, there came a point where the only way he’d want me around was for sex. In an abusive relationship, you obviously feel the need to keep them, so I did what I needed to do. Usually out of fear that he would’ve left. That lasted for 1 year, and then for 2.5 additional after we broke up, because he never left me alone.
March 2020, I meet my current boyfriend, I’m happier than I’ve ever been, and my ex has apologized and we’re semi-okay just because we have mutual friends and I still carried a lot of trauma — was 18 when I met him, am 23 now.
about 4 or so months into my relationship my ex starts to send me sexual texts, to which I would either respond “haha yeah we can’t do that anymore” or ignore that entirely. But he was persistent. And I would see him on occasion because of our friends. He’d always ask to touch me, and it would take a lot of goading and a lot of me saying no, so there were times I said yes, only for him to put a hand on me and then for me to run away. then he would text me about it, say how much he missed me and my body, and I was afraid that if I didn’t say it back, we wouldn’t be friends anymore. So I answered, very vaguely, never sexting in return. But after much therapy, I had the strength to cut him off. Because he was making me uncomfortable. My boyfriend always knew about all of this, and he always said that he saw me as a victim of abuse by my ex who had developed a trauma bond, and I never engaged too heavily (that I can remember — I’ve shut most of this time out). But I still feel like my boyfriend should be mad. Am I a terrible person for allowing this?

She got raped by her then boyfriend 3 years ago. She wanted to wait till marriage.

Her boyfriend kept insisting on living together first. She agreed on the condition that there was no sex. He came home drunk one night, refused to listen to her NOs and raped her. She hasn't dated since and sometimes still wakes up screaming and sweating. She's still in therapy.

She was my younger sister and her ex boyfriend is now in prison. She feels tainted and that now she can't ever share that moment with her future husband. Personally I was never into waiting but it meant so much for her. She's not sure if a man would still marry her. Would you?

Scenerio:
You've lied and used someone; making them believe they're the one. You even go as far making false promises about the future, making them live with you, etc. You were their first, they trusted you and fell in love with you; with the false you, false hopes.

By the time that former virgin girl/guy finds out; you've already accomplished your goal. You've drained years (their best years) of their lives, years they'll never get back. It's a horrible experience they can't undo. You knew they were naive. You got no remorse either.

On a 1-10 scale, how mean is destroying someone's kind nature and innocence?