I am. I am crazy! Madness. insanity. Wickedness. Twisted psyche. Grrr! Somewhat angry at the opposite sex. But still very much loving these creatures. That is because I am not getting their love but always yearn for it. They are not magical, I know. They are like us for the most parts. But nevertheless I don't have what I want. Those strange girls but not that hard to understand either. Someone call a doctor! I am crazy!
Not crazy and single by choice. I know you’re probably just kidding, but I also don’t think I could ever have a relationship with a guy who thought of women as some “magical” separate entity, as if we are creatures from another species. You’d be surprised how many guys actually do feel like that. I played with guys as a kid, back when no one was weird about anything and just find it sad that a good friend would suddenly see me as such an alien. I might look different, but I’m still the same human being they adored. One of the problems I have with “relationships” is the failure to attain “best friend” status - I always sense a certain distance. It feels artificial and inauthentic. I don’t mind being one of two best friends, but I certainly need that status to truly love someone. I’m sure it’s out there, but I haven’t seen it yet. My friends seem to have it? In any case I’m not just the “girlfriend” or the “ball and chain” guys can discuss in their figurative locker room. If that’s happening, it’s probably just another of my superficial liaisons and it’s not going to last.
… what have you done to get a girl? What attempt have you made outside dating apps recently? Women don’t fall out of the sky you have to hunt them like wild animals… you have to go to the gym, develop a talent you can show off, build wealth… market yourself to they see and want you which, I believe, is what men are lacking… After that ladies notice and settle because we all know as men that women never find someone equal to them… too high of standards. Funny thing is you don’t even have to meet their standards just be worth enough so they don’t have many options for better men lol.
There’s an app called meet up. Use it to find groups with hobbies similar to yours. Find people to hang with in public because that’s where average men excel.
I don’t believe most women are worthy of marriage or risking a relationship with to be honest. Societies fallen so freaking far lately. I myself sometimes don’t meet my own standards for marriage so of course I can’t believe others do without some kind of proof.
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Do I really need to bring a hunting rifle when looking for girls? I don't intend to hurt them.
The rest is figuring out how to get it and build it and that's part of the exercise you must discover. So set about learning, be open minded... a lot of it is discovering yourself, discovering the other person and how to work together.
Best to have a compass when navigating, or make one on the journey... ya know? So kinda know what your goals are and be willing to say no.
I got to a good place, took a long bumpy ride in life. you gotta learn.
I lost it YEARS ago! But I lost my mind over a plethora of things, not just because of the opposite sex. Work and people certainly aren't helping the cause 🙄
But honestly today does not feel like Valentine's day. I've been going nonstop at work, and we're pretty isolated aside from our patients, it's not a big deal. As soon as I get off, I'm going to treat myself to a pizza, play some video games, and crash for the evening.
But as someone that's been single for... far too long, I have a love/hate relationship with the opposite gender. I don't have anything against men in general- only the bad ones that make me despise dating and relationships.
Nope. Got out of a bad relationship years ago and started focusing on myself and my life. As progress was made in both areas I started thinking a lot less about dating and getting into another relationship. Now I'm at a point where dating and getting in another relationship are not on my to do list. So if a woman and I start dating and organically end up in a relationship, I'll be ok with it. But I'm not going out and looking for one or the other.
I think being single drives people crazy because they focus so damn much on dating and getting into a relationship. Make improving yourself and your life a focus. You will more then likely start stressing out on dating and getting into a relationship less. Also you will start attracting better people in general.
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Nope! Want to know the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Who doesn't want love? But expecting it from someone who is incapable of giving it is an exercise in futility. Look at the avg. post from pinks on G@G and it's pretty clear what women want. Not You! This is not the end of the world. Sure you could futilely chase woman after woman that will look at you as a stop gap, a fall back, a second choice (and be treated as such) until something better comes along. Or you could take control of your destiny and deny her even that. Sure you won't get any love or affection. But how does that really change your current reality anyhow? Let these women just pursue guys that will repeatedly f*** and dump her. It isn't your problem. She's already made the choice that's what they want. Now go out and enjoy your life. You don't need love in your life to enjoy it I promise you. I've done it for 40+ years.
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Then maybe I should turn into one of them, who keep having sex with women. What have I got to lose other than money and time?
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If that's what you really want man. I can't bring myself to be like that. I know it's a weakness. But it's just how I'm wired. I couldn't change it if I wanted to.
I'm not losing it and I won't, as I adapt quickly and I've come into terms that I won't have someone I can call "my woman" any time soon or far in the future. I'm too complicated to be around with and I am concious of that. If someone can understand me and accept me for how I am, then good for me. But I always wonder how long it will last.
I’ve been single all my life. It is irritating sometimes because I wish it were easy to just find someone to date, but I do value my time and energy and don’t have time to play games. So in a way, I’m single by choice. But I’d love to date someone when the time is right.
I can assure you you’re not ugly. It just takes time to find the right one. It’s really not about looks. The right one would look past that and see you for who you are, your personality, values, etc. don’t settle for the bare minimum:)
No , been single 8 years now and there’s nothing about the dating world I need or want.. I’m content by myself and enjoy the single life. If someone great comes along fine , but this investing in dating no.. I don’t have the emotional strength anymore. It’s not fear or anything.. I am tired of dating and how it is.. I do everything by myself.. I enjoy my time with friends if I can ever meet great people not trying to bed with me..
I always remind myself that I can't miss what I've never had and that sometimes when you want something you've never had before, you can convince yourself in your own head that it's perfect.
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No, I've been completely single for over a year and I'm not ready to date yet.
Having been in a relationship with a very much wrong, manipulative person does that to you. So no, I'm absolutely not going crazy, wishing to receive love from someone.
I'm almost 30 and I've never had a girlfriend, and I've only been on two dates. I've struggled with off and on depression and I was on antidepressants for a while and it permanently reduced my bad moods, but from time to time I have a sad day still.
But I'm holding out hope that girls my age now will be ready for a relationship. Theirs just hardly anywhere for single guys to go and meet them.
No I'm not losing my mind. I picked the single life and do not find it a burden. I was brought up to be self reliant, even though I have a large extended family. There are a lot of people out there who think that people who live alone are lonely and usually nothing could be further from the truth, living alone can give you a flexibility that people in relationships cannot dream about.
I used to car bit now I couldn't give a shit. Bieng single has it's advantages. For one I and only I dictate how my money gets spent and saved. I can go and do whatever I want I don't have to ask permission. Bieng single I get to live my life how I want not how someone else thinks I should live my life.
No everything has its season and time. I´m single and it´s better that way because I don´t feel ready for a relationship. I have a small number of female friends where both of us already opened that we don´t want more and I´m happy with that.
The only thing worse than not getting what you want is getting what you want. You are conflicted about girls now? Just wait until you're in a relationship!
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