Polls: Relationships

For obvious reasons I'll be keeping it Anonymous so I'll be using (A) for the girl (best friend) and (B) for the boyfriend

For context we're all pretty close with each other, we were friends before they got together and honestly I consider him a best friend too, and if we're being completely real I consider him a brother.

My best friend is a year older than her boyfriend and she's in college while we're still in high school in our senior year. Me and B were talking on the phone and then the topic of prom came up and I mentioned not having a date and how hard it would be for me to get one since everyone is basically cuffed and its hard for me to start conversations with new people and then he said "go with me" and I just sort of brushed it off because I knew he had a girlfriend and I figured she'd just go with him since he when to her prom last year. Now as I've said I don't think of him that way but I still think it would be weird to go with some else's boyfriend even if we are just friends.

Should I ask both of them to prom? Should I go with him? Should I go with her? Or Should I not go at all?

Sorry for the long read. Thanks in advance!!

So I’ve had an online friend for a few years and he started wishing me a happy birthday every year after we got to know each other a little better. There were times where he would & I wouldn’t, when that were the case, he’d follow up a few days or maybe a week after saying I forgot it was his birthday (more subtly). Last year, he wished me a happy belated & this year I decided to also be more laid back. I just asked him if he had a good birthday maybe a day or two after it actually happened, I sent him that message after he followed up with me about something else. He leaves me on read yet continues to view my IG stories.

This has always been the case, he’s always one of the first to see my stories but may go weeks without msging me. A few years back, he’d literally go weeks without replying but will be the first person to see my stories or comment. But when I’d take long to get back to him, he’d *jokingly* say that I’m ignoring him or ask if I’m busy. Honestly I don’t feel like I did anything wrong so I don’t see the need to reach out, it just seems hypocritical. You can be busy but I can’t? He hasn’t made a comment like that in years & his response time has gotten better. I have a tendency to delete people when my frustration has built up, I don’t know if it’s an avoidant personality style trait.

I just…couldn’t bring myself to confront him and ask if he was upset with me. I just felt apathetic yet hopeless in a way, even though I had total control. It’s been over 5 months since I heard from him and we’ve never gone that long without talking, so I took a hint and removed him (unfollowed him/he’s no longer able to follow me) from my IG. He’s still on FB, gaming app & linked in but those platforms are a lot less personal. Now I officially have no “friends” and at 30F I should be A LOT more upset but it’s more worrying about how I’m perceived. Is avoidant attachment the cause? Or excuses and I’m just a shitty friend?

If you love him, can he start loving you too?

Do some people just want to hate even if you praise them, cook for them etc. ?

When you're single.

I feel much more attracted towards married men, I'm not sure why. I wouldn't actively try to seduce someone who's taken, but if he does the first move I'm ok. I think it's not my relationship and if he's not doing it with me he will do it with someone else. It's not my responsibility so why should I care