Polls: Relationships

Me 31 her 54

My friend called me this week saying that I say unnecessary things & those things take jabs at her. She's a "girl's girl" & some things sound like I'm competing
She gave me 2 examples out of many
1. She said someone was talking to us about shoes & I said I got them 1st (i specifically dont remember that moment, but I'll give it to her because people don't remember things unless it's attached to a filtering emotion)
2. She mentioned how her ex talked & hugged her & I said he does that with everybody
(That I explained as protection cuz they broken up twice & I've had my own breakup in which my ex liked me physically but didn't want to be with me
I know her ex is not extreme like that but I didn't want her to get her hopes up on something he does to everybody
She should look for other signs.) She still said I shouldn't say it like that
I could understand what she means however while we're in conversation I thought that phrase was precise & got my point across quickly & she never brought it up to me until now
How was I suppose to know she didn't like it & how am I suppose to hold a conversation & know which comments are unnecessary
In general conversations are unnecessary unless you need something from the other person (health/businesswise) Then she said she's upset that she keeps having to find out information from my ex in terms of my dad being sick or me being sick (my ex only knows because we still work together & when he ask wya, i tell him) but her schedule is random I don't know when she's sleep, on the road, etc so it's up to her. When I did reach out, it was at the wrong time, so I got tired of doing it. Also when I told her I was sick, specifically what I was going through, it felt like she forgot or didn't look up what's happening to me for herself. And when we went on outings/convos when my sickness played a role in our interaction, empathy wasn't present, so why tell her? Should I let her know or let it fade?

I'm not necessarily talking of wedding day but let's see after seeing you after a long time etc he stars sheds some tears of joy. How would you feel about it?

My boyfriend led me to believe that he would have kids with me in the future. Now he says that he would never have kids with me because I have a disability. My doctors said I am healthy to carry a baby to term and all gave me the go ahead. I am getting older and want to try to get pregnant. My boyfriend said he will not have a kid with me and if I try IVF with a donor, he will break up with me. I love him, but I always wanted to be a mom. I don’t know what to do, please help!

At the end of the day do you like it when people check on you? What are some easy ways you would express your interest towards hearing about someone’s day without coming off intrusive? Do you like little thoughtful messages or what kind of thoughtful messages would you like to receive or even send? Just curious to see what different people like or would do.

Many men work like a slave to provide their family while others use women as a slave. What about you?