Do you want a partner who shares your religious or spiritual beliefs, or are differing views acceptable?

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TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

My entire world would fall apart if I dated someone who wasn't a Christian. I would lose everything. I would become an example and the gossip would never end. My character would be shredded into a million pieces and I would break the hearts of people dear to me. Not to mention the constant conflict over children and their upbringing, and the mockery I'd receive for still believing in the "Flying Spaghetti Monster".

It's like in that old film "Fiddler On The Roof" when his youngest daughter marries a Gentile. Her father has made exception after exception, but that is one step too far.

I can respect the beliefs and views of just about anyone (except flat earthers, sorry). But a marriage is something far too deep and intimate to be at odds over something like that. Faith is knit into my soul and I can't let it go, even though there was a time I tried to. So, yes, that's essential for me.

Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

I'm agnostic and I believe in reincarnation of a sort (nature isn't wasteful. The spark/energy that gives us life returns to be reused). I've no problem with alternative views.

ShellyB · Answer

We both have a religious background, I don’t mean super religious but our parents took us to church when we were kids, we don’t spend a lot of time thinking or talking about it, but I guess we are kind of culturally Christian if that makes sense and it’s prob best not to have any big conflicts there.

If somebody was really serious about it, like “if you don’t do this you will be doomed for eternity” I think it would be weird to be willing to marry somebody you think will be doomed for eternity! Which to me means, a lot of people aren’t actually that serious about what they say they believe.

My general answer is, if it doesn’t get in the way of your relationship, it is OK, but only you (both of you) can judge that over time. JMO!

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

I am agnostic. I wouldn't have a problem with someone with any belief, as long as they respected the fact that I don't share in their religion. I think that for many people for whom religion is not a central part of their lives, this makes little difference.

I can appreciate why someone with a strong faith (in any religion) would need a partner who shares their beliefs.

Personally... I've had girlfriends who were Christian, just not overly so. I share a lot of basic values with them, I simply don't attribute them to the same thing

DishLady · Answer

With religious beliefs, presuming you're "merging" families (or planning to raise children together), it's important to have a sensible "alignment theory" mapped out for this and other "issues" that arise to challenge a couple's compatibility.

fartingspinster · Answer

Ultimately I would love to find someone who shares the same religion, but im finding that harder to find.
I've broadened my scope lately, and willing to settle for someone who at least believes in a singular God but it doesn't matter the religion. And im learning more about myself that im more of a spiritual person, my religion just helps me safeguard my spirituality. So even if so someone isn't tied to a singular religion but is extremely spiritual- if I could find connection that way, I think id be very happy still.

I just want to be able to have spiritual practices and practice gratitude together. Life is tough, and its nice to be able to have the reminder that life is good and people are harmless when it feels too much to handle sometimes. I've tried to be in relationships where the person wasn't spiritual, I just felt like they saw 50% of me and I couldnt be 100% me. I love talking spiritual talk - I need it in my life

NicholasRedone · Answer

I mean I just couldn't relate to a woman who doesn't have similarity to me ; even if I dislike what the Catholic Church is, stands for and so much more and other religions and non religions - I'm very much a fan of coexistence and I'm very much a realist that - I likely could only date a woman who had at least "some sort of Christian upbringing, if it wasn't some heavy bible bashing aka heavy traditionalist" - I may be Catholic cough cough yet I'd rather be a Anglican or even forget that, just a cultural Church of Englander. Secular Christmas secular Easter. Just a fan of the purple C of E logo and the King and the whole vibe

Ladsin2 · Answer

Said A, but probably not right after re-reading. I think we need to share core values and beliefs. I'm an atheist, but in my opinion religious/ spiritual beliefs aren't that important. Ethics and child rearing are what we need to be in agreement on. If she's a hindu, but believes the things I do I don't care. If she wants me to go to church with her, I don't care, will happily do so. If she believes; however, that our children should be caned for wearing clothes of mixed fabrics then I'd have a pretty substantial issue with it.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Depends how different.. I wouldn't necessarily want a guy who tells me that me or our kids are dumb to believe in god but if he doesn't believe that is fine. I also wouldn't want someone with a different religion because it would just get annoying and people always want their kids to have the same faith as them. So I would prefer someone with catholic or christian beliefs to some degree but no one super religious because then it becomes a drag where they try to push shit on to you and they are not a good time lol.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I was born and raised a catholic but gave up on being a practitioner and now see myself as more of an agnostic

What I can’t date is someone who’s devoted to any religion.

I tried with a muslim woman but religion eventually came between us

A christian might be easier but she can’t force me to go pray for her or blame me for my lack of faith

Basically I can accept her having religion as long as it has 0 bearing on her life decisions

laurieluvsit · Answer

As a Liberal Christian, I can mix with just about anyone, even atheists.

Christians who have my liberal views on Christianity are a lot of fun to be around though.

I don't believe that Christians have to be perfect. Those types of Christians are hard to be around because they judge everything you do and say constantly. Give me a break please.

Do you want a partner who shares your religious or spiritual beliefs, or are differing views acceptable?

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I'm an anti-religious atheist, and I'd only date/marry another anti-religious atheist of the opposing sex who shared all my hobbies, interests, and views, and is physically attractive to me, and is a virgin, and doesn't use drugs (incliding alcohol/smoking/pot), and doesn't want any kids.

molonski2 · Answer

Differing views are highly acceptable , couldn't care less.

Miristheiss · Answer

No one with different values, faiths should get together. What religion will the kids be taught?

alice55 · Answer

I'm a Catholic and I would prefer. another Catholic even if I'm' ok with different views as long as he can respect my belief.

BCA6010 · Answer

Her views need to at least be within the same ballpark.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

as long as he doesn't force me to believe in his beliefs... it's alright :D

RossyBoi · Answer

I don't want a partner, regardless of their religious beliefs.

faith_it · Answer

He has to be a Christian...

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