How do I tell my family that I don't believe in god? ?

[HannWilliams321]

My family have always been Christian but I have always been pretending. I fully support Christian values but I need to find a way of reveling my true self without hurting anybody or else I never will?
Please help me!

[OfDeath]

Some families, and particularly in America or developing nations with heavily traditional cultures, are quite hostile to the idea of atheism. So the first thing you should do is evaluate the situation. Are your parents deluded zealots? Do you live in a place with theocratic laws? Do you live in a culture which is hostile to atheists or which punished apostasy?

If the answer to the 2nd and 3rd questions are yes, it is better if you keep quiet about your rationality and just accept you live in a society of delusional fools who are myopic to your understanding of reason. Take steps to try and leave that place.

If it is just your own family, then it is probably safe to speak your mind.

[genericname85]

Well just sit down with your parents and have a talk about that. You're 39 right? You should be able to talk about it like an adult. With respect. Your families believes. What they make with that information is their problem. And if they are mature adults, they should be able to accept it.

[HannWilliams321]

Thanks that's really helpful

[Anonymous]

You’re 39? Just tell them if it comes up. What’s that saying? ‘The road is long but in the end it’s only with ourselves?’ Or in this case yourself and your own beliefs. You aren’t a child. Be yourself.

[BlacklightShade]

I've been there.

This guy gives pretty good advice.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/hprmo3CifJ0

[TommyMountainFigure]

You could ask your parents if they ever questioned aspects of their religion and despite their answers just sat say OK. thanks, and when asked 'why?' keep replying with it's ok I just wondered.
Eventually you could say "I don't want to upset anyone so I would rather not say." That then prepares them and also tells them you don't wish to cause any upset.

[Friendlybro79]

You're 39 years old. Two things. You can keep this to yourself and not argue if you think you're going to lose family over it. Or two... You're 39 years old and you can not care what they think.

If you care about what they think then keep it to yourself because you're allowed to keep personal stuff private. If you're unable to live that way then just tell them and deal with the reaction.

[bigpauly]

I am in a similar position. I haven't told my family. I wish I could offer real solutions but I am content with just not bringing it up around them. Just afraid to cause issues which is ridiculous to have to worry about.
I wish you luck with this

[HannWilliams321]

Thanks I know how you feel. Its so terrible having to hide it from them

[bigpauly]

Yes it really does

[Lauren-green]

It's a difficult one for sure. But you have to remember that everyone is entitled to their own opinion and beliefs. I would just be honest with them about it and hope they understand.

[iBeowulf]

Me: the bible says two different people killed goliath
Them: that was a copying error
... let's not pretend it's a rational argument, but rather, one based in emotion. You're simply not afraid. There is no easy way to be brave.

[HannWilliams321]

I want to believe but I can't!

[HannWilliams321]

Thanks

[HannWilliams321]

G I'm 39 and I'm still not honest

[iBeowulf]

Belief is a survival mechanism. Perhaps if you had a man, he'd do the hard things for you.

[slatyb]

Why do you have to tell them? Most likely from your lack of church attendance they already suspect. If you are being expected to attend when you are visiting, you can politely decline without making a point of your non-belief.

[FreeOhSeven]

Sit them down and just lay it out for them. If they’re Christian they’ll continue to live you regardless, their greatest commissions, biblically, both involved love.

[t-8900]

why tell them? why make them worry and cause stress? Don't, just play the good son. Do it for your parents and grandparents. Let their minds be at ease.

[RawIronhide]

Why do you have to? Say nothing, what does it matter to you what they think about what you believe?

[HannWilliams321]

Because I want to be my own person and not have to pretend to them

[RawIronhide]

Well you already are your own person. They should be ok with that. If they question you just say "I don't believe in that" you're allowed to have your own ideas.

[HannWilliams321]

OK thanks

[RawIronhide]

Even when God casted Adam and Eve out of the garden. He never stopped loving them. I know you're probably sick to death of religious talk but you could say that to them, it is in the bible.

[HannWilliams321]

I'm not sick to death. Some of the stories there are really interesting and the meanings and values are beautiful! Thank you

[RawIronhide]

That's a good attitude if you ask me. You're welcome, take care!

[HannWilliams321]

And you

[mpandla]

Million Dollar Advice... fake it till you become a true believer.


And pray for it

Other wise telling them the truth won't cut it
Things will get ugly

[jshm2]

Tell them you've become mentally and spiritually disabled.

[Mofunfour20]

God is real and if you want to chat about it call me on Instagram @izzyspaintingservice

[Blueeyes81]

I'm a son of a minister and don't believe. Its a non issue. I just view it as a childhood tradition for me and go along with all rituals when I visit. It never comes up nor do I feel the need for it

[ThisAndThat]

It's disturbing how many there are that don't believe in God at the most critical Prophetic time in the history of His creation. Better wake up before it's too late.

[Aquariusmystery]

Just tell them but don’t be disrespectful about it.

[HannWilliams321]

Thanks

[FunkyMonkee]

I wouldn't even bother unless it came up in a conversation and they asked you about it.

[MAKO31]

Get a Riffle go to Afghanistan fight for something you beleive in than when you find god you don't have to lie to your family! Why? Because you will find god! Bullet will kill you Goodwill protect you!

[innerman]

Wait when they’re all gathered for breakfast


“ mrng guys, i dnt believe in God, also I’m late for work. Bye”

[MrJMM]

That you don't believe in god. The mission was made successfully.

[donewiththeworldsbs]

"Fuck me in the vagina because I love satannn" 🎵🎶

[Anonymous]

You should instead ask your family members who DO believe in God, WHY they do.
And ask them to convince you that you should ALSO believe

[HannWilliams321]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

just tell the people who you can trust the most and the ones who you know won't judge you first before telling others that way you can get their support for if or when you do tell others

[Opinion Owner]

so why don't you believe in God?

[Opinion Owner]

wow now i feel bad. earlier today and a few days ago i was praying to God for my significant other. maybe i should go and delete those prayers.

[Opinion Owner]

i just feel really bad now for saying those prayers for my significant other

[Julious0202]

probably your family is protestant... i know many people who became atheists with protestant background

[Anonymous]

What's the reason you don't believe in Christianity anymore?

[HannWilliams321]

I just don't see the logic

[Opinion Owner]

Do you still believe there is a God though? What do you think isn't logical about it?

[HannWilliams321]

I don't know it just confuses me

[Anonymous]

CHRIST IS ABOVE THE DOME

YOU HAVE NO EXCUSE

[Opinion Owner]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LMr6Qb0_5kM

[Gwenhwyfar]

Tell them the truth. But they might be upset.

[Yaharro]

Be yourself why telling them

[nickaboy]

Wear a cross upside down

[In_Trance]

Why do you need to tell them?

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

You just do, and 'Hope" for the best, right?

[Anonymous]

Why bother telling them at all?

[jimmy2]

Follow me then pr me i show you how