What do you think of this statement a guy made?

Question

18 years ago, I told a guy I thought God picked out a man for me but I did not like him and his response was, “God is sovereign, if God wants you to marry him, you will marry him whether you like it or not.” I wonder if I messed up God’s plan for my life with my own disobedience. I don’t even know what God wants for me anymore, it’s so sad.

gabby100 · Accepted Answer

It begs one question how do you know God chose him for you..

Chiarac2003 · Accepted Answer

Messing up was gods plan.

horsenrhinounicorn · Answer

Isaiah 43:18 -19 says, “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing..."
Philippians 3:12; "but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead. I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”
1 O Lord, you have examined my heart
and know everything about me.
2 You know when I sit down or stand up.
You know my thoughts even when I’m far away.
3 You see me when I travel
and when I rest at home.
You know everything I do.
4 You know what I am going to say
even before I say it, Lord.
16 You saw me before I was born.
Every day of my life was recorded in your book.
Every moment was laid out
before a single day had passed.
Psalm 139:1-4,16

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
For in him we live and move and exist. As some of your own poets have said, ‘We are his offspring.’”
Acts 17:26-28

“Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; 4 do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.”
Philippians 2:3-4 NASB

17 Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. 1 Corinthians 7:17

1 John 1:9; "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from ALL unrighteousness.

When we read through Genesis 16 and Genesis 17 Abraham took a shortcut to having a child, this is not the path that God had for him, but he had to wait years till the next son was born, that is estimated to be a 14 year waiting period. God's timing is different than mans timing and with him all things are possible.
For some who may have been through what you went through, one could say that the timing was not right, since for some, there may need to be a time for healing, perseverance, and building of character. What I do know is this: It is never too late to get right with God, and you are on the right track in seeking to do his will. Whatever mistakes we make, we can always present them before God and he will bring forgiveness and he never will abandon us, we can always run to him and he pours out his love for us. He has a purpose for our life, no matter how many times we mess up.

“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

Moose304 · Answer

This question for some reason reminds me of something said by God early on. God asked Adam and Eve "who told you that you were naked?". I have lived my life with the notion if something was to be it will be. I was raised in a religious home. I do believe in God and have nothing but respect for people that also believe in God. What I don't believe in or respect is people that say they are speaking for God. Do people make mistakes with relationships? Absolutely they do! One thing I have discovered over the years is when handed a lemon God makes lemonade! Things will work out and because of this I generally stop listening to people that say otherwise!

likyulo1962 · Answer

I don't think God chooses who we marry. If that were the case, he would choose what we have for dinner, or what color shoes we wear, or what kind of car we drive. I believe that he granted us the gift of choice and reason and it's up to us to decide and he judges you for your decisions and the reasoning behind. I don't think he would judge us for the person we choose or the car we drive. I'd think that he would want to know what's in your heart. The reason why you drive that car or why you chose all you can eat buffet.

ManOnFire · Answer

If God wants you to marry a particular man he will already make sure he's meant for you and that you will like him.

A word of advice: try not to worry about this so much and stop overthinking it. In the meantime you should be working on yourself and your own life for right now so that you are prepared for a perfect mate. Women of faith tend to get so caught up in wanting a man from God that they don't do any of their own work on themselves. I would say that’s more important right now.

TheLoneTerran · Answer

Uhh, I thought part of the whole god thing was humans were supposed to have free will? Predestination is found more often in eastern religions. Nobody knows what is on the other side of the grave, over one hundred billion humans have existed and died and not one has come back to let us know. As long as you're not intentionally inflicting harm on others (you can't predict how every action will reverberate), maybe live your life how you see fit. As far as we know, we've only got the one life and it'd be a shame to hold back out of fear of punishment.

SimpleGuy95 · Answer

I doubt that God would make you do something against your will because I don't know any scripture to prove that.
Just because a guy says so it doesn't mean we're talking about a revelation from God because he could have made it up.
This is especially the case if there are no other signs that direct you in this way.
That's why you women got an intuition from God and a sense for discernment.
Don't let bad thoughts take you down because if God really wants you to do something he uses not just one way but many ways and people to show to guide you his way.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't think you should ever marry someone if you don't want to marry them. If God truly wants you to be with someone, He will make you fall in love with them.

HOWEVER, I do think that you should still DATE someone if you feel like God is calling you to date them, even if you're not that into them. There is an extremely long journey between the first date and getting engaged. You have plenty of time to bail if you're just not feeling it.

yucychan · Answer

I think when God created humans, give us life, he also gave us free will. Free will to decide what is right and wrong and how best to live our lives.
You rejected that man because deep in your heart, you know he is not the right person for you. It's that simple.

Right now, you are just finding all sorts of reasons to justify why you haven't found the right guy. Stop it, its not helping.

Amy10223 · Answer

I wonder why it is you THOUGHT God had picked out a man for you, but you didn’t like him. What makes you think He picked out that one? I think God has a plan for everyone, your life is directed by Him, but whether or not you like someone is your choice. God is behind those choices for a reason.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

This is one reason I don't do religion. I really don't need it to be a happy and good person. Now, not to shame people who are religious, those are your beliefs. BUT, in respects to your beliefs, how can living people ever truly know the what God plans for them?

EyeKnowMeNahYou · Answer

Everybody's doing go round the terms free will and such. Well to be honest you definitely have free will You always will have free will that will not change. What's even more so fantastic is that humans tend to go in circles. Therefore if it is ordained if it is fate then you will bump into that individual again, especially if he is meant for you. So make no worries not.

PortraitOfTerd · Answer

Religious people are so stupid... If you keep placing your life decisions on a mythical man that doesn't even exist nothing will happen... I could sit in my house for the rest of my life and never move a muscle... And be single for decades... Is that God deciding that I be alone? Or am I alone because of my own actions of never going outside?
God doesn't make anything happen, you make everything in your life happen

mobiusforniner · Answer

God also grants us free agency. Maybe instead of seeing it as punishment for your disobedience, consider it an experience to make you a stronger person? Choosing to live life in regret will only bring you sorrow

muhmuhmike · Answer

If God chose him for you, you would most-likely be with him.

I serve an all powerful God. I'm no comparison. If God doesn't want you to move, God might resort to paralysis, etc. Experience has taught me this.

baserunner611 · Answer

If god’s wants to found a man of God's choice, God is powerfully put in your heart ❤️ to love ❤️ care, and take care, and each and each minute

Anonymous · Answer

I told my daughters that sometimes men feel that they can have revelation pertain to their own feelings pertaining to marriage. Women must be able to have Revelation about the same thing as their man. It works in both directions God does speak to both men and women if they ask. When the time is right you both will know.

slatyb · Answer

Julia Sweeney had similar questions but eventually found peace Listen to Julia Sweeney's "Letting Go of God" if you want to know what she did.

ChiTown33 · Answer

That's ridiculous. That would mean you don't have free will. God may put the man in your life. But you still have the free will to choose him or not. And just because he put him and you passed doesn't mean it'll be the last guy he chooses for you.

sp33d · Answer

You thought. I get that some people choose to believe in the word of God and all that, but where's the consistency? How can you ever presume to know what God wants for you? If you were meant to marry him, you would have been married by now.

silvermoon84 · Answer

If that man was God’s choice for you, I’m pretty sure you would have liked him. Just work on yourself and you’ll meet the right man in due time

JoyGirl · Answer

He is right, but sometimes we do like what God has laid out for us.  We have all messed up, which is why we pray and ask him for guidance everyday.

Ringstretch · Answer

Maybe he knew what your answer would be in the first place and was just showing you different paths

Crankor · Answer

That guy is a nut job. You do what you want to do. That's all it is. Options are laid out but the reason why is however you choose to see it.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Exclude god's plan and you will come to conclusion, you just didn't like this guy and there is nothing to be sad about

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Live your life how you want to and stop trying to please a being that may or may not even exist

Tjw78 · Answer

Do you know exactly what you are searching for? God needs to know before he puts in the work order.

Esperanto · Answer

Don't worry, God is too busy getting rid of Roe vs Wade to care about you're love life.

boobliker · Answer

it true if and if but no you did not mess it up as you have a choice on who you may marry!

anylolone · Answer

If you fuck up once, there's always another chance.

Xtendable · Answer

What that guy told you was false. There is an element of choice and free will.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like an arranged marriage instead

MrSmithee · Answer

No one knows God. Just be good

yofuknutz · Answer

Yeah you did

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