Is karma not real? Why do good things happen to bad people and bad things to good people?

Question

My sis in law - she is a very poor student in school and uni and got a job in diff sector she studied. She had multiple relationships at a time, cheated on a few boys, and dumped a few without saying anything and without giving a reason. Now she got a good match who is very rich, well-settled has 3Million $ net worth. How is this fair? She is not rich. Her family is a middle-class family she barely earns 350$ a month. Now she is settled for a life and can quit her job enjoying her life in that lavish bungalow with all that bad doings in the past. Is karma not real?

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I personally don't believe in karma. Just as you've said, good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people. A good person can live their entire life that way and only have misfortunes until the day they die and a bad person can live their entire life that way and only get lucky in life until the day they die.

Luck plays a huge part in how your life turns out... the health issues you have, whether you're born into wealth or poverty, if you find love, if you're born with good genetics to be physically attractive or not, the connections you make in life, etc.

I will say though... that the more negative things you do in your life, the higher the chance something negative will happen to you. And the more positive things you do in your life, the higher chance something positive will happen to you.

If you murder, steal, rape, or even smaller things like cheat or insult... on top of your mental health deteriorating, you might have people seeking revenge. It becomes harder to sleep each night. You literally have to live with your demons.

On the other hand, if you're do things like help an elderly person cross the road, stopping someone from being bullied, getting up from your seat on public transit for someone who needs it more, saving someone's life, listening to someone rant, etc... the more likely you'll have people like you and want to give back.

Your sister in law may seem like she has a good life to you, but I can tell you that the guy that's rich clearly did not choose her for her character or doesn't know her well enough. Either he doesn't have a good personality and he's using her for sex and because she's attractive or he's a decent guy and will find out some time later on in life what's going on with her and kick her to the curb. While I don't believe in karma, I do believe in probability. There's a high chance life won't work out the way your sister in law wants and you'll learn about it later in life.

My advice... continue to focus on yourself and not worry about others. Know that by living righteously, it let's you sleep easily at night and when you die... you can die knowing you're a good person. Trust me... it matters a lot. Money does not buy happiness, no matter what people say. The best experiences in life are made by the people you spend them with.

Confucious900 · Accepted Answer

I can assure you Karma is very real. Whether you believe in it or not. I've seen karma act out in seconds. But this is your interpretation and belief in karma. Read what you wrote again, then read it as if someone else wrote this and you are just here to comment. But read it with no attachments. What would you say? Does your opinion change? You expect karma to do something to her because of how you feel, and she uses or used people and now landed with her ass in the butter. Again this is your perception and interpretation of it. Doesn't mean she will be happy. For all you know that can be one of the unhealthiest relationships she will experience, because money is not everything. If that is what she is pursuing I PROMISE you she will end up miserable.

But you envy her for striking it lucky like that after all she has done. But that is her journey and experiences. You are comparing your life now to her and you could be the sweetest kindest girl out there and aren't being noticed so it doesn't feel fair right?(by the way that was just an example)

DONT compare your life with others. You don't know when your time is coming where your life changes, where you meet Mr Wonderful or whatever the case may be. I would suggest inspect your own feeling around this and why its making you feeling this way. You can't lie to yourself so if you have an inner Dialog with yourself and you ask yourself "Why is this bothering me so much and why am I feeling like this, I am sure your inner dialog will give you an answer, Even one you don't want to accept. But like I said, YOU are the only person, that YOU can't lie to. And once you accept that answer you will feel a weight being lifted from your shoulders.

But as for your question. Trust me when I say, Karma is real. And Karma works on her own time frame and her own rules. Just because you expect her to be hit with Karma doesn't mean its going to happen because you want it to. You wanting it to happen can and will create Karma for yourself. Karma has no favourites above others.

sheikalana · Answer

Karma doesn't work the way people think it does. Life is not fair but if something bad happens to you you need to understand what you've learned from that experience. The things that people believe in and what they wish for themselves may have a huge impact in their lives too. I'm a smart woman but was a terrible student. I finished my studies but don't have a degree and never went to University but I always knew I deserved all the good things in life so I focused on something I really like and decided to be great at it. I have a stable career and earn more than all my friends with degrees and Phd's I have a beautiful house and travel overseas every month. I never stepped on anyone to achieve what I always wanted. Growing up my teachers thought I was hopeless and was never going to be able to be successful in life but guess what they keep having a miserable life as teachers while I keep making more money. I've seen more academically weak people getting out of misery than the opposite. I've seen a lot of people with potential getting lost in life and not being able to pursue something they really like and prefer to settle for mediocre average jobs. Your thoughts become things. Complaining how life is unfair because others made it in life is a very negative way of thinking and may be blocking the things you want to achieve. If you believe you're that good and deserve better do something. Be happy for others instead of victimizing yourself.

KrisKris81 · Answer

This is purely my own opinion, no factual information (that I am aware of).

If a person punches someone it could be argued that the person who threw the punch now has bad karma and/or the person who was punched had, or has, bad karma. If that is the case, then the person who threw the punch was a tool of karma and does not have bad kama. Regardless, the people around them will only see one person assaulting another person, so they attack the attacker - which, by extension, they are attacking karma itself. So their karma is now paradoxical, because their protective action gave them good karma, but they attacked someone who was not acting with bad karma, however, was (essentially) acting in the place of karma - so they, simultaneously, have bad karma as well. Plus, they attacked karma, which has to be the ultimate negative karma, but you can't actually attack karma because karma doesn't actually exist.

I believe everyone has kind of some 6th sense, where we can sense strong negative or positive emotions. That sense will affect us subconsciously and will effect our reaction to that individual. This might be why psychopaths can seem like such charming people - no remorse, guilt, etc.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Shortterm, good and bad things happen to everyone. Sometimes we're directly at fault, sometimes not.

Some more than others..
Karma as I see it, deals in longterm behaviors..
If you tend to do good you tend to make more friends, which tends to make you more openminded and usually less judgmental.
And you tend to influence people to "pass it forward" which increases the likelyhood of you being affected by your own ripples, although it may take awhile and you'd not know it when it does.
Good behaviors increases the odds of good things happening around you. But bad things can have the opposite effect too. So if in your area there are more bad than good then chances are it might not be a positive trend, but it still keeps some of the darkness at bay.

Good behavios increases trust in strangers and bad behaviors increases mistrust and paranoia. If people trusted eachother more, we'd be less divided and better people in general.

DishLady · Answer

Karma doesn’t just mean to that good things happen to good people, etc. in the linear way you’re thinking.

Karma is a “what goes around (ultimately) comes around” sort of deal, which isn’t a new concept. Every organized faith has some version of “karma” baked into it. So… a bad thing can happen to a good person, but it’s the way the good person navigates through it that brings them “good karma” (attention or admiration of others, a small favor or break in the dark time). It’s a “silver lining” attitude you have to carry with you and get used to seeing every day in every aspect of your life.

Valdemort · Answer

It's less about fairness and more about taking opportunities.
She saw them where others probably wouldn't.
She decided to act on it and it worked out for her.
As for karma... I cannot tell based on her dating life whether someone is a good or bad person.
I sure hope financial status & education don't signify someone's worthiness.
It depends on how you see the situation.
She might be dealing with karma in her own way.
She might have it all, and still feel unhappy. We don't know.
Hard to speculate.

Anonymous · Answer

Karma is a Buddhist and Hinduism concept. The real concept is that we reap what ever we sow. You are only seeing the surface of your sis in laws outcome. You are not seeing the foundation of it. You say she is set for life, but I see nothing but emptiness in her situation. Any house built that is not on a foundation of God will not last...

Clyde_123 · Answer

I feel the same about my sister. She wasn't a nice person to me. She emotionally bullied me everyday and very condescending, arrogant woman she married a well off guy by the way she's still blessed because she has lots of money doesn't seem to have a problem. Eventually I forgave her. I realized life is just unfair you can't control what would happen in life. Maybe your friend destined to marry a rich guy despite her being a bad person in the past maybe her karma is not coming in her life yet? Maybe she might be happy financially but she's not happy emotionally? Maybe the guy is cheating? Maybe you only see the part of her life that is beautiful and good but you dont see the worse part that is coming in her life yet?

Meropatrick · Answer

First of all you sound really envious this is not good. Its her life you have no right to envy her for what she got. Its her share in life. 2nd you really dont know if she is happy in her life or not. Some people really suffer and not show it. Princess diana showed the world for 10 years that she had the happiest marriage. Everyone envied her for marrying a future king not just a mere guy with 3 million net worth. She was set for life too. But behind closed door diana was self harming getting passed from man to man looking for love. Alone while her husband travel the world with his mistress. Things are not what they seem. people wished to be diana but did anyone want her fate? If you want her fate then get it with the good and the bad.

God gave us all things that others dont have. Dont envy Anyone u dont know what they are going through. Focus on your life instead of other people life because their life perks or pain is none of your business

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

I am trying to believe in karma. Right now I think and hope that it's reaal. Maybe it doesn't always work the way you think it should but usually mean evil people who have done bad stuff get what they deserve one way or another (they just don't truly realize that it's because of their own deeds).

Also, most people these days don't tell you the truth about how they feel, how's life truly going for them. Almost everybody is splashing over-positive sh! t on you.

Anonymous · Answer

Karma can take time. A very long time.

It’s naive and foolish to go around hoping karma will reward you and punish evil doers though. But your sis in law true colors will come out at some point and nobody will trust her.

Also it unfortunately sounds like she’s very physically attractive and attractive women literally live in a different reality. The entire world treats them differently. This is partially the man’s fault for being so visual. But also men have ego issues that make some of them seek out trophy wives. But we do enable this

She will never be truly respected or loved though. Sure she’s got all the wonderful benefits and it’s not fair. But she is an object. And objects are discardable.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, karma is very real. For any and everything and everyone. You have no idea what’s in store for her down the line. There are plenty of horrible people with lots of money and their karma is that they live miserable lives, their husbands cheat on them, etc.

Just because it doesn’t move how you want it to move doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. But bad things happening to people is not always karma. Bad things are necessary for growth. Just because the woman has a man with money does not mean she is a happy person, or that the man isn’t cheating on her or that she has a lot going on. Stop worrying about her and worry about yourself because even if karma didn’t exist or did exist her life is still going to be her life. And if you don’t want to believe in karma you’ll get a lot of it in the future.

shoeboxcerealcard · Answer

Karma is real  -  for the people saying it's not  - it's because you probably don't understand it.  1. Karma is NOT based on good and bad 2. Why? because the universe is amoral  3. Karma is simply based on cause and effect Good and bad is a thing made up by humans. I can go on but I wanna respect people's religious beliefs.

Dantec2024 · Answer

Thou shall not lie, thou shall not cheat
Thou shall not get caught or you'll end up just like me, oh
Karma's a bitch, I should've known better
If I had a wish, I would've never effed around
When I saw the pics of you and her, I felt the knife twist
Karma's a bitch
And she's with you right now

lightbulb27 · Answer

Life is bot fair. A lotbif it is decisions, and beliefs that drive them.

The beliefs are burried deep inside from personality and childhood.

So examine yourself… learn and grow.
Your sister has high esteem maybe yours is lower or different.

Tell the billionaire woman that was drunk and put car in reverse… accidentally going into a lake and drowning if there's karma.

A lot is us choices..

IslaTheWitch · Answer

life is not fair - remember it and focus on your own life, you will be much happier

SotiCoto · Answer

There are no "good people" nor "bad people". All value judgements are subjective.
Things happen to people. Whether you reckon they "should" or "shouldn't" be that way isn't something the Universe is capable of giving a fuck about.

genericname85 · Answer

the universe is indifferent to our existence. there's no hidden consciousness that enforces your particular view of what's morally good or bad. there's only consequences to your actions and these aren't deterministic but more up to probability and chances.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Bad events are just part of living in an imperfect world. Karma / Sowing and Reaping might eventually happen if there is an afterlife, but to expect a one-to-one this side of eternity does not work. Some children are born blind or deaf or with a limb or limbs missing. What could they have done to warrant that?

exitseven · Answer

Karma is not real. There are a lot of instances just like your sister in law that are not fair. I just go by this basic law of life , LIFE IS NOT FAIR.

supercutebutt · Answer

From what I understand, karma applies to your reincarnated life, not your current one. So your dirty, filthy sister-in-law will come back as a drain fly, or something similar. :)

Cabarhev · Answer

The problem is that all these outward shows of having her life together are superficial. You have no idea what's going on beneath the surface. Based on her repeated history with relationships, I highly doubt that she's living a dream life with her new partner from an emotional point of view. It's very likely a charade unless she's made some drastic changes for the better recently.

Anonymous · Answer

If karma was real it would be pointless, virtue isn't virtue if it isn't its own reward. When I worked abroad in Southeast Asia I was giving away half my pay to the staff at my boarding house as I felt guilty they made so much less then me. Sometimes, I had trouble eating myself, ultimately I was dismissed from that job.

jshm2 · Answer

No "karma" isn't real and you're just being jealous. She could easily lose it all tomorrow, or she could have changed her ways for the better and getting onto better things now.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

There is no such thing as karma. There are only coincidences that people try to read too much into.

FuqUFggt · Answer

Karma exists and is real. What one deserves is opinion and perceptule. And completely removed from God and the Judge. Instead of blaming Hod anwer to yourself fo what you earned

slatyb · Answer

Fair? Life isn't fair as there's no one to make it so. Is Karma real? In a way -- people who are kind receive kindness when they are in need.

Anonymous · Answer

I can’t say she’s a bad person. Okay, she cheated, but men do it constantly. She just tried to find most suitable partner for herself. Maybe if she was from wealthy family she wouldn’t be that risky. But she just understood her situation and acted the way it needed. She didn’t do bad things to someone specifically.

coachTanthony · Answer

Karma is real and it never loses an address.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Karma is real but she might not get hers till later in life. Or in the afterlife.

OfDeath · Answer

Not in the sense of cosmic moral score keeping. That’s an imaginary thing. But doing good or bad to people can cause them to react accordingly

jahaims · Answer

Karma is a concept people use to cope. It's the same idea as people coping with life by believing in heaven and hell.

Anonymous · Answer

You've just proven there is no such thing as karma.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

They are not married yet. so who knows? they will not make it?

funwithmee · Answer

there is no justice in nature, only chaos.

Anonymous · Answer

Worry about your own karma,

OtterMan68 · Answer

My karma ran over my dogma

DextroShade · Answer

There is no karma only Chaos.

war_daddy · Answer

of course karma isn't real

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Only as real as someone makes it to be.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Mind ur business

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