Is it selfish to pray for God to end your life?

[Cherrylicious]

I recently lost my mother 3 years ago to cancer at just 52 and her and I were VERY close. She was everything to me she was like a big sister, best friend, etc and I I've had no other friends because I never met any like-minded people like myself so me and my mom had may things in common and did so many things together. there's so many things that I miss about my mom and I cry myself to sleep every night thinking about her and this pain will never go away.

Ever since she passed away, life has never been the same. Its A very lonely world and I'm constantly sad and depressed about it and she stays on my mind 24/7 regardless of what I'm doing I can't stop thinking about her I just miss her so much. I'm just tired if hurting and crying so every night before I go to sleep, I pray asking God to take my life so I can be in heaven with my mother because that would make me truly happy. My siblings and the rest of my family are of course still saddened and hurt as well but I believe I'm hurting far much more because I was the closest to her and her favorite child so losing her was the worst thing to happen to me.

And yes I know that no one lives forever and that we will be gone one day so please spare me with the "were all gonna die" speech.

I can't help how I feel this pain is hurting so bad but I truly feel that death is the only way out I don't know what else to do.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

These thoughts count as suicidal, which I’ve always considered to be a selfish act. Just because you’re not actively planning on killing yourself doesn’t mean it’s not suicidal. Not anymore than I would just stop looking both ways when crossing the street in the fantasy that I would get hit by a car, or forget to eat in a fantasy that I might starve to death back when I was depressed.
I understand the loss of your mother is deeply painful, I’m similarly close with my own and I know losing her will destroy me, but wishing for the end of my life would only make her miserable to know that I could not continue on without her, to think that she didn’t teach me the skills I needed to be happy with my life and keep going and finding reasons to stay alive would make her soul feel like she failed me as a mother. I would strongly recommend seeing a therapist or psychologist if you continue to try to find the will to live. No one can make you go, and I understand your grief is heavier than anything else now, but you will need professional help to take those next steps to continue living without her.

[Daniela1982]

Killing yourself does not mean you will go to Heaven, so don't do it. I'm sure your mom would want you to go about it in the right way, and do what will ensure you entrance into an eternity with God and your mom. God would not answer your prayer anyway, except to say no. I think you should go an talk to a good Christian counselor. What can it hurt?

[ChicoFromThe305]

It being selfish is not important because the chances of God making it come true because you prayed for it are slim to none, God won't take your life cause you prayed it and won't do it if you prayed it on someone else either, God is in control on what prayers he makes comes true... and he protects you so why would he make your wish on death come true, death will happen to you when it's your time and it was your mother's time but God is taking good care of her, your mom is not in pain anymore and she is at peace, she is no longer in this world of suffering where her emotions would torment her, she is in a place where it lacks mental and physical pain and as for you, if you follow the path, when you reach that point of death when it's your time, you'll reunite with her, it basically means that reuniting is basically inevitable, if you think of it, a few decades without her is a little bit of time compared to the enternity you'll spend with her in the kingdom of God.

[midnightmoon05]

👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 damn you so mature!! ❤️👏

[ChicoFromThe305]

😁😁😁

[crmoore]

I don't think it's selfish, at least not how people typically mean the term. You're not wishing this because you're being careless with how others feel, you're wishing this because you're in a lot of pain and at times it's hard to cope with. That's entirely understandable.

I don't know your mother, and I don't know how much pain you're in. But in most cases, I'd imagine a mother would want you to live out your life here on earth to the best of your abilities, considering your time here on earth is finite, while your time in heaven, according to Christians, is infinite.

If you are truly struggling to this degree, it may be worth investing in licensed, professional help, like a therapist.

I don't know for certain how your mother would feel about your pain now, but I'm VERY confident that if a therapist could help you be happy, and to live out the remainder of your time here on earth, it would make your mother as happy as she could possibly be.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for life it isn’t easy but then again it isn’t hard. In life some people have a lot on their plate & some people have a buffet. On the road of life we all hit bumps. On the road of life we all get flat tires. On the road of life we all run into stop signs. On the road of life we all run into yellow lights & red lights but when the light is green hopefully the joker in front of you isn’t holding up traffic putzing around on their cellphone.

As for your mother it saddens me to hear about her passing & as for your mother she will always be with you. She will always be with you on your day to day journeys. She will always be with you in your thoughts, memories & most of all in your heart.

In life I always tell people you should never give up, you should never give in & most of all you should keep moving forward no matter what.

As for you you’re not alone & you still have family & right now they need you & you need them. As for your family you are still in the grieving process & it’s going to take time & talking to your family will help you & help them.

As for your mother she was like your big sister & as for you you can be a big sister to someone else & you can be a mother as well & as for your mother she doesn’t want you to give up & neither do I.

Life is a gift & life is so worth living so live your life my friend & live it well.

Go plant a tree honoring your mother & let that tree grow & that tree will help you grow as well & hopefully that tree will help your family grow as well.

[loveslongnails]

Ask yourself a very simple question: "What would your mother tell you to do"?

While you're pondering that, consider that you don't even know for a fact that there IS such a thing a heaven - you merely "believe there is". What if you're wrong? Or what if you're right, and your God tells her " You are such a great soul I'm sending you back to raise more children and teach them how to be great souls too!" Then you get there and she's gone!

My point is, you have no idea what happens when you die, you just have beliefs. But the one thing you DO have, and can count on, is that your Mom would tell you "Do not take your own life, or ask that the God who created you take it. You were given this gift, so take what I taught you and be a light in the world like I was to you."

That's what she would tell you.

[exitseven]

Okay- I am very sorry that you suffered such a loss. It must have been tough. I list my father very suddenly. He was 70 but I never thought of him as old
I am sure your mother would not want you to live like this. You are in a hole and you have to dig yourself out. Your mother will be happy to see that you are okay.

[ChiTown33]

It's not selfish. But it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. My father passed away at 58. Yeah it hurts! And I'm not going to lie to you that pain will NEVER go away. But it WILL get more manageable with time. I know my father would want me to go on living, carrying his name proudly. As I'm sure your mom would as well. My father sacrificed to make me the man I am today and so I owe it to him live. You owe it to her to live.

[DannyUk2017]

No is Not selfish... i want to go to Switzerland to have a "smooth go" as i'm scared of Times to come, and i don't want to be here, when Everything will go to 💩, and on Top of that? I Am Tired, really tired, drained... i had Enough!

[Kaneki05]

All prays are selfish that's the point in them. And wishing anything for yourself is so.
According to the bible that won't get you into heaven so dumb to even have such thoughts as it won't work, therefore you can't simples.

[Agape93]

Nope. It's selfish for God to know you're suffering and intentionally allow it to happen and prolong it.

[WhitneySnow]

It’s not selfish but you have to respect God’s will and not kill yourself if He (or They) don’t answer your prayer

[strateguy632]

Not selfish but stupid. Obviously he will answer no.

Live for jesus insted.

[FunkyMonkee]

Go right ahead. It ain't like that's actually gonna happen! You'd have MUCH better luck praying that god would leave you the hell alone!

[Dongie]

Yes it is. Why don't think about your best friend and give her something to appreciate. Pick your self up and get a life back.

[DrPepper12]

You would dishonor yourself and her memory. She would want you to carry on and LIVE!

[OddBeMe]

How you feel about your mom is how others would feel about you.

[noohair]

I would suggest seeing a psychiatrist.

[Cherrylicious]

Why?

[noohair]

Praying for death is not from a healthy sound mind.