Was she a true Christian or a fake Christian?

[Anonymous]

Met this girl on a Christian dating app. She only lived 1mile away. She even sent the first message which rarely happens and actually kept th conversation going. We talked for two days off and on. She would go to prayer meets with friends and bible study and therapy. Claimed to have been abused by her ex. Said she stopped being Christian and had sex with him but regretted it and now says that God has forgiven her. She's apparently all about bodily autonomy. Claims to not want kids until after marriage. I honestly don't want kids at all but I told her after marriage because I knew not having kids at all would have been a deal breaker. Long story short, she ends up texting me saying she prayed on it and decided she couldn't trust anyone she met online and that it wouldn't work out between us. I told her I understood but there's still a dull ache. I had asked God if she was the one he held onto for me and to give me a sign. I guess that was the sign. I'm honestly glad though because if being touched triggers her to the point of panic attacks, I don't think it would have been a healthy relationship. Thought Christians weren't supposed to live in fear. Was she a true Christian? Because I don't think she is...

She isn't a true Christian

She is a true Christian

Not sure...

Updates

1 y

We discussed boundaries, I was the one who brought it up. Asked if she would prefer if she be the one to initiate any intimate acts and she said she'd prefer that. Since I didn't want to trigger her accidentally. She also told me that she was really into being eaten out and giving bjs... I told her I Honesty wasn't into either of those things and have experienced both. She seemed turned off by me saying that but asked if I'd be willing to after marriage. I said sure. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't worry about it. She does sound a bit flaky. But we're all human Christian or not. I think she did you a favor by moving on. It sounds to me like she's not ready for anyone. And you, by your own admission, don't even want kids, so you don't sound like a good match anyway.

As a Christian don't worry about whether someone says they're a Christian or not. Thier actions over time will bear that out or not. As a Chriatian, just concern yourself as doing God's will. If you can help this woman, do so. Doing so doesn't mean committing yourself to her.

[PWEAVES]

It’s not for man to judge the status of another persons spiritual relationship with God. If you don’t want kids and she knows she does, the relationship should just stop there. Why lie about your position on the subject only for it to cause pain and problems down the road?

[SoJust]

We cannot know whether she is a real Christian or not. Christianity is the name given to the followers of Jesus Christ. If a girl says she is a follower of Jesus Christ, she is a Christian. She may have committed sins during this process. Jesus Christ forgave all our sins on the cross, that is why God loves us so much, you cannot be more beloved than the virtual one, my friend.

[Anonymous]

If she was into being eaten out and giving bjs before marriage, I'm pretty sure she ain't a Christian... Also if she can just decode to stop being Christian on a whim and then suddenly go back to being Christian and claim forgiveness, she's not a Christian. She's just using Christianity and God for her own benefit. You dodged a bullet. Even Christian women are the same as the type who smoke weed and party. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[DrPepper12]

I don't know but fwiw you're both limiting yourselves based on a god that simply does not exist. 🤷‍♂️

[LiamJHayden]

All that matters is that you thought it would be an unhealthy relationship and avoided it.

[Twalli]

Trauma can't be fully healed. My sister can't wear a ponytail anymore, because of her trauma