Do you feel guilty when you see disabled people?

[jennifer_bloom]

I saw a video of a disabled woman and I felt guilty for my lack of gratitude towards God that there are people who have way less than me that are never angry or bitter about their circumstances.

[Speaking_Frankly]

Guilty for them being disabled? Never. I'm not directly responsible for the circumstances of those who are disabled.
I have been guilty, however, of taking my mobility and having my mental faculties for granted. That was particularly evident when I had an injury that hindered my mobility for a few months. I certainly became more cognizant of the struggles people who have lived like that their whole lives or will live the rest of their lives like that.
It was long before my injury but for years, I had supported charities for wounded veterans as I always believed in the cause.

[sportsman_MD]

I work with a lot of disabled people regularly, and it does cause me to appreciate what I have more and feel empathetic toward them. But guilty? No.

[BobbieBoy666]

No because I am disabled, I'm just angry because I don't feel like an equal in todays

Feeling a lack of equality can be an emotionally draining experience, often stemming from a sense that your efforts, needs, or voice aren't being valued as much as others. In relationships (whether romantic, friendly, or professional), this is a common sign of an imbalance.

Understanding the Imbalance
The core issue is often not about being perfectly 50/50 but about achieving a subjective sense of fairness or equity. A relationship feels fair when both parties feel their contributions are valued and their needs are met, even if those contributions look different from an outside perspective.
Common signs that a relationship feels one-sided include:
Always initiating: You are consistently the one reaching out, making plans, or checking in to keep the connection alive.
Needs taking a back seat: Conversations revolve around the other person, and your feelings or concerns go unnoticed.
Support isn't mutual: You show up for them in hard times, but they are unavailable or distracted when you need help.
The effort feels unbalanced: You feel you are carrying the mental, emotional, or physical load of the relationship.
Feeling drained: Instead of feeling uplifted, interactions leave you emotionally exhausted or questioning your worth.

Steps to Address the Feeling
If this feeling is a consistent pattern rather than a temporary dip due to stress, there are steps you can take to shift the dynamic:
Name the pattern without blame: Focus on how you feel rather than accusing the other person. You might say, "I've noticed I'm usually the one making plans, and I'd like things to feel more balanced".
Make clear, specific asks: Vague requests can be missed. Ask for concrete changes, e. g., "Could you plan our next date night?" or "I'd really appreciate it if you checked in on me this week".
Set boundaries: Be clear about what you need and what you will and won't tolerate. Consistency is key to building trust in your boundaries.
Run a two-week experiment: Step back from over-functioning to see what happens naturally. This can provide valuable information about whether the other person steps up or if the relationship truly relies on your over-giving.
Diversify your support system: Relying on one person for all your needs can lead to disappointment. Ensure you have other trusted friends or family to turn to.
Seek professional help: A mental health professional or couple's therapist can help you navigate these feelings and dynamics in an unbiased, productive way. Resources like Better Help and Talk space offer online therapy options.

I was born with cerebral palsy on my right-side.

[Kori1236]

No. But I also work with a lot of disabled people be it old age disabilities or neurological. I don’t take life for granted but they are just differently abled. If I see someone struggling though I don’t feel guilty I just help them.

[Darklydarkened]

Why am I supposed to feel guilty? Why am I constantly expected to be glad that I'm better than someone who's most definetly unfortunate by the least.

Stop this pathetic attitude

And if I'd feel something about God, I'd curse him for making the other person disabled, not thank him for my non-disability

Stop being lapdogs for other people, imagined or otherwise

[AviatorTom]

Not at all. I feel sad for them, and also proud of them, that they are facing the challenge and dealing with their disability.

[guesswhereivebeen]

Fuck no not guilty… makes me appreciate my own life a little more sometimes but I’m not guilty all my shit works

[purplepoppy]

I thought you believed this was their own fault for not having enough faith.

[Phantomshadow77]

No, I didn’t disable them.