Does something really awful happening make you lose faith?

[Anonymous]

My grandmother didn't deserve to get FTD, and she shouldn't be dead when far worse people get to live to be older. I know there are good people who died from horrible things younger than her too, but for example the other terrible not really a "grandmother" on the other side as far as I know is still alive, and she gets a long life than she did and didn't get such an awful, unfair disease. It's not fair. I just find myself breaking down crying so much of the time, and find it very difficult to read the Bible and really believe it. I don't know how I am supposed to go the rest of my life and never get to be in her company again. I'm even sadder after two years than I was before. I've known other people who died before, but I got over it relatively fast because while it was sad, they weren't that integral to my life. I can't get over this. It just feels like I'm suffocating every day.

[Anonymous]

My mother died just less than a month ago. So I can totally understand the place you're in. And there is no good answer that can be given to a heart that is aching. I was even told by someone on this site how I will see her again and that she is happier now. I've been a Christian longer than this person has been alive. I wasn't upset at this person because she was too young to realize any of this. But I mention it because I'm trying to illustrate my point that faith is not a constant. It's called faith for a reason. It's easy to have faith when all is well. It's not so easy to have faith when all is not well. When God throws something your way that to our limited human view feels very unfair. I believe you when you say your grandmother didn't deserve to die. But much like my mother dieing, you or I cannot see the full picture. We cannot understand the plan that God has laid out.

No I haven't lost faith. God asks us to cling closer to him when one of our loved ones passes on because he knows we're in pain. But much like a parent who hates seeing thier child cry out when they get stuck with a vaccination from a needle. The parent wants nothing more than NOT see thier child go through that pain. But the parent knows it's NECESSARY for that child's well being.

I hate my mom being gone and God knows I'm not happy about it. I was just weeping about it earlier tonight. But I know it upset God that I was in pain. But my mom's job was done on this plain of existence. She's earned forever by God's side. She is now with my father, my sister, and my brother. As more of my loved ones pass on I've learn to accept it. I'm never ok or happy with it. And over time I've grown in my faith to ACCEPT God's word. To TRUST that his promise is good.

So be angry with God, rage, cry out to him. Just do not turn from him. Because taking your grandma from you hurt him to. And as I said I know you're hurting and nothing I'm saying is a good enough explanation. Because as I said nothing can heal a heart that is in pain. But just know your grandma still loves you, will continue to love you. Death cannot stop that. This pain will NEVER go away but with time you'll manage it better. You will smile again. You will fill the warm sun on your face and life will have hope again. And all of this will become just a part of the new person you have become.

[Asker]

What happened to your siblings?

[Opinion Owner]

My brother was born and died very young before I was born. So truthfully I never met him. But my sister had a lifelong kidney ailment. She was a transplant recipient twice and passed away at 48.

[strateguy632]

1, nope, but it can cause doubts. 2, your example is all wrong due to assumptions. dementia is CAUSED by genetics and toxins, nothing to do with "deserve", you assume if people live longer she should too... but not if she is suffering from neurodegenerative , do not prolong that.

[Asker]

there are people who are 100+ years old who have their mental faculties very well intact. You expect that eventually, your body is going to fail you, but that part is completely unfair, and I feel cheated out of a certain number of years.

[jennifer_bloom]

A pastor I used to watch online said, you do not get what you deserve on earth, but you get what you legally tap into and legally use for your benefits in the spiritual realm.

For example, Jesus had the option of not dying when he was on earth, because he had the power to kill his attackers with a curse, but he choose to let them kill him, because he knew the world would benefit more from his death, then his life, because his death was an act of prayer, that let billions find grace and mercy they would not otherwise have access to if he had lived.

And I find, it is not always the honourable or noble that have happy lives, but rather, those who are familiar with the laws of heaven or the words of heaven, and use those laws and words for their benefit and happiness, so even though good people sometimes die, you can still improve your life by choosing to obey God, you just need knowledge about how the bible can be used for your benefit, because some people are good people but suffer things they do not deserve, because they do not know about the promises in the bible.

But the bible says God blesses those who suffer in heaven, where they are repaid many times over for the injustice they had to endure on earth.

[sean1234]

Only to those that never had faith. I know the truth. This life we have here is short, heaven awaits and the new earth in the future. Forever is more important than the worldly life here. Let's read the Kjv Bible and understand it, know God to see him in Heaven.

That being said, the Holy Bible Does have a health message. Thou shalt not kill means your own self also. Read Daniel Chapter 1 for a health message.

[jshm2]

LOL, You would rather she died under a bus instead?

You will die when you die, it's not something you lose or gain faith over. You just don't understand faith or the human condition, sunny.