It’s not. There are two common problems among people who think that they can’t find love. First and most common is a wild misunderstanding of what love is. Usually as a result of too many fictional stories about perfect or otherwise wholly impractical love. Second is absurdly high expectations of love and lovers, often accompanied by too little or no meaningful reciprocity. It’s a lot like the former problem, but with a nominal acknowledgment of the real world complications that make perfect love a fairy tale. Combine those misconceptions with much more common problems with dating and relationships and you find people who have interacted with 0.0000018% of the planet’s population and think that’s enough to patently declare that “love is impossible to find”. Ell oh ell! The vast majority of people find love at least once in their lifetime. Some find it more than once, and they all have something in common. They have a realistic understanding of what love is, what it means to share it with another person and how valuable it is. That last part is the hitch. If love is truly important to you, then nothing but death will stop you from finding it. The instant you give up, you have diminished the value of love in your life.
@bddddd Someone who will be there for me through anything! Someone who will defend when i can’t defend myself. Someone who will inspire to be better. Someone who’ll love despite the situation. And love me for who i am. Someone who doesn’t care about my appearance but will still love me despite what i look like. Someone who will look past flaws like medical issues or height or other stuff. etc
Well, I don't know anything about you. So instead I'm offering a perspective which you can take on board if it does work for you, and discard it if it doesn't.
For me, love is the accumulation of the effects of actions I have taken to improve another person's wellbeing, at times acting with disregard for my own interests.
My definition of love is entirely about what I do.
I find this idea of love does work for me, in my life, because it gives me control, it allows me a measure of whether I am doing well, it allows me to withdraw love and it asks me to be a better person.
Your comments are important. Please don't think I am downplaying them. I think everything you said are characteristics of a relationship that I want.
But if you define love the way you have, it is about what she does to defend you, what she does to inspire you, what she'll do in dedication, what she'll do in accepting you, what she does in assessing beauty.
What role for you is there in your definition? Does it empower you to take action?
I am asking people to defend me because i am harassed online. And people are asking why they should!! PEOPLE ARE FUCKING SHIT AND I HAVE NOBODY!!! I AM ALONE IN THIS WORLD WHICH IS WHY I DONT WANNA LIVE!!
You really do enjoy talking about how miserable you are. I imagine doing so makes you feel like people care because when you talk about “normal” things, nobody interacts with you. Thus any interaction gives you validation for staying miserable and making more posts like this. This is what I mean when I say you choose to live a life that’s miserable.
You can do something about it, you just choose not to because the validation you receive from your constant projection of misery makes more sense to you than actually trying
You can ask for a ride, you can take a bus, depending on where you live there’s even special private shuttles for the disabled community. And then you can go to bars, game stores, places where you can actually talk to people instead of jerking off to a robot with a pretty picture
So, the thing is when it’s “everyone” that you meet, it’s usually not other people that are the problem because that’s a massive statistical anomaly that’s simply not realistic at all
Again, it’s a statistics thing. I imagine you don’t realize how you push people away before they could ever connect to you because you hate yourself so much you don’t think you deserve it
I know enough to know that it’s been 3 days of this and you’re still going because you need to “win” this little “argument” like it’ll make you feel better
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It isn't. Its just difficult for people like you to find.
Mainly because your lifestyle and personality are not the type that the girls you want to attract find attractive.
Or to bring it down to your level. Imagine you want to game. Say Crisis 3. But all you have is a slow Intel chip computer that is below requirements. You can try all you like, but you never get any good performance to make the game enjoyable.
Do you think this is the fault of you or the game designers?
Relationships be like that. People don't want "lower" they want "higher".
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It isn't. Parents love their kids. Kids love their parents love is everywhere. Why certain people cannot find a "lover" might be the way they push people away or the way they talk.
Exactly what I said. If you had something to offer, such as good humor, good conversation skills, genuine kindness etc. then you would have attracted women by now. So, you need to develop those traits or something actually appealing to a womans heart. Being woe is me like this is the exact opposite of what you want to do.
Except it isn't, that some stupid bullshit manosphere man cunts always spew. And don't think for a second autism has anything to do with it, it doesn't. @LordOfThePines has autism, and he's been married for like a decade. It's you, not the crutch of your autism, not your stupid nonsense about it all being about looks.
How about you shut the fuck up and actually listen to a woman telling you, bluntly, how to attract women. Common sense.
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