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Since I have recently finished uni and turned
21 I've been thinking whether or not I should live somewhat of a degenerate lifestyle or focus fully on my goals and religious beliefs for my early 20s. Uni taught me I can't really balance these things because one usually ends up pulling me in and it's usually being a degenerate; parties, clubs, girls, etc. I find that it's such a waist of time but when I try and avoid it I feel left out since l'm so young, and on top of this l've been feeling guilty for ignoring Christianity. I feel as if I should shut myself off from degeneracy and social media nonsense even though that's what most of my friends are involved in and dedicate my 20s for completely focusing on mostly work, healthy lifestyle, exercise, being alone (not being lonely just talking to people less), etc.

I want a stable financial income and to be self employed within the next 5 years and for me personally i don't see that happening if I don’t quit all my bad habits and go on monk mode for a couple of years. Everyone I know in my life who's very successful has had to sacrifice a lot with minimal balance, such as time, social life and relationships. Is it worth it?

Both genders are guilty of this. However we are (supposed) to get better at judging and/or giving advice as we get older and more experienced.

But I’ve had grown ass woman say some ridiculous things to me in the past. I feel like many of them take a common mental shortcut falsely believing that dating is same more men as it is for themselves (when all else equal). It’s not. Not at all. Not even close.

That’s not say I don’t know women have to deal with some common pitfalls. Many men will lie to women and tell want them just what they want to hear to get their foot in the door. They figure that once a woman catches feelings for them they will get a “pass” on their bs. Sadly this sometimes works if the guy is good at it. But not always. Also it never works out in the long run for guys. Plus it makes women more bitter and resentful to men in general after the process.

But anyway I feel most women who criticize men don’t put the mental effort into understanding the challenges most men face in the early steps of dating.

Most don’t understand how we are expected to take risks and stick our necks out. How we get shit tested. How we usually have to plan dates and usually spend money. How the odds are usually stacked against us. How we are supposed to keep calm and brush off (sometimes nasty) rejection and just move on quickly forgetting about it. How women falsely assume that men run into just as many opportunities as they do. Etc.