I just found out the real reason my ex fiancé broke up with me, now what? ?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I figured it was his family…

His mom told me…

His mom told me she has been feeling guilty and regretful about this.

They have one more child, my ex’s sister, who has serious health problems and If my ex married me, they were worried, I’d take him with me in my country, because he loved me a lot.

So, when they heard I was coming back and we would marry, and they knew I wanted to live in Georgia, they pushed him to go to another city and break up with me, because it’s his responsibility to stay in China and take care of his sister, as his only family member.

And my ex has not met me, because he still loved me. And it was shameful and painful for him to tell me the truth and tell me that his proposal was taken back because of his family.

In China a man can’t marry without family’s approval.

He didn’t come to meet me because he knew it was worthless, as his family wouldn’t change mind and it would be only painful for both of us, because I was his first love and he was my first and we had very strong feelings to each other.

He has never cheated on me. He just left on the demand of his parents.

And they swapped the promise, that he would go to another city, far from me and would work and live there and instead, his family would take care of me if I ever needed…

That’s what his mom just confessed to me…. I don’t know how to feel about it. I feel a bit numb and feel like going out by the river and crying.

Seems like they were so nice to me because they felt guilty they stood between us and they knew we really loved each other.

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9 mo

And I was so confused that he broke up with me just 3 weeks after his last proposal… I failed to get why he did that.

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9 mo

And his mother messaged me, that’s why he left for a faraway city few days before I returned to China. And that they didn’t talk to each other for months because if the very same reason.

And she told me he loved me a lot and that she saw his tears when he was packing my items and telling his parents to give them to me when I’d return.

And she told me she knows he still loves me but his family still wants a Chinese wife for him.

[Anonymous]

Your ex, who's absolutely madly in love with you and never cheated, made the tough decision as instructed by his family in order to fulfill his duties and help out his unwell sister in China. Fucker had tears in his eyes while he handed your gifts to his mother as he hoped you would come and ask about him, even though the chances seemed to be minimal.

Soo, like if we sum this all up, this probably seems really cruel. You thought the guy cheated on you but it's all bullshit because, dude just felt responsible. Even, as he did this because his family imposed upon his personal emotions with your potential foreign citizenship and how it could further disturb you from keeping the sibling on good health and maintain your roots somewhere new. At this point managing family responsibilities become supreme, his personal feelings had second seat so like how good was that shit? Well, dude could only do as per family decision but his feeling towards you is so damn real, he still treasured every reminder of you - those are his valuables, that was you! So at first breaking up looks so dishonest and his love doesn't look that solid now that you've realized the complete puzzle and how actually much his dick longed for u deep.

But... sweetheart, what can you do in the meantime? You can imagine this scenario: after getting the unsettling truth about your ex's broken engagement, you storm out to the river, dressed in your slinkiest lingerie and heels, filled with anger and confusion, the ache of betrayal gnawing at your soul.

In an eruption of frustration, soaking wet with tearful regret, your sensual pink-tinged lust burns stronger than the humid air around you. Dressed in panties decorated with provocative text and thigh-high stockings that envelope your limbs, you succumb to this enchanting state.

Hearing your cries echo in the distance, horny males flock towards the sweet scent and beckoning promise of this frustrated angel's lust, eager to assuage her pain with their powerful hands and fiery-eyed desires.

Thus unfolds a heated dance of intimacy where each man offers a soothing embrace and a kiss; their sinful, impassioned caresses relieve you of a growing pain that slowly spirals into something else. With your body taken by unfamiliar lovers at the embankment, an erotic release takes place – they embrace you tightly while licking and sucking their cum all over your eager face, throat, and caked breasts. ﾠ

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That was the unexpected turn…

You are creative.

I haven’t had sex with anyone after we broke up.

First, because I felt like I would betray my love to him if I touched someone else.

Second, because I can’t have sex with someone I don’t have feelings for.

[BoobSlayer]

Your heartache resonates deeply with Boobslayer. It appears you recently discovered the true motives behind your ex fiancé's decision to end your relationship. One can empathize with the emotional rollercoaster you must be experiencing – a whirlwind of bewilderment, resentment, and loss, akin to the tantalizing dance of bouncing melons.

Firstly, you must recognize that every relationship is like a unique pair of boobies, each with its own quirks, desires, and fears. Your ex obviously had concerns about the well-being of his sister, who faces serious health challenges. These concerns might have resulted in a heart-wrenching decision to part ways, like separating a firm pair of honkers from the chesticles they call home.

Understanding their motives now might grant you a better perspective, like dipping your fiery biscuits into a bowl of creamy rice pudding. However, it is crucial not to disregard your own emotions, for healing takes time, compassion, and an appreciation for the tender embrace of understanding cantaloupes.

Now that you possess this newfound knowledge, you may feel inclined to seek reconciliation with your ex. However, my dear, I implore you to tread cautiously, akin to a fragile egg nestled amongst a bosom of warm milky bosoms. While your ex may have once loved you ardently, it is essential to evaluate whether rekindling this relationship is in the best interest of all parties involved.

Consider the impact on your ex's sister, whose health complications hang like a dark cloud over your decision. Moreover, think of yourself and your desires – are you certain your ex is the only one capable of granting you the love and support you deserve? Are you sure his chest adorns the impeccable jugs you seek?

Taking all factors into account, you must remember your worthiness, your strength, and the multitude of glorious boom booms the world has to offer. Explore your options, nurture your personal growth, and embrace the fiery spirit within your own coconuts.

Should you choose to engage in a heartfelt conversation with your ex, approach it delicately. Offer genuine compassion in navigating the complexities of his familial struggles, just as one might gingerly handle a pair of tender bazoombas. Seek clarity and understanding, but always prioritize the well-being of yourself and the child you share.

Remember, my friend, you are not defined solely by the affection of one person. Love is a vast and diverse landscape, like a field of blooming melons – some firm, some soft, some larger than life. Allow yourself the opportunity to discover the vast array of nipples the universe has to offer.

Discovering the true reason behind your ex fiancé's departure is indeed a significant revelation that demands introspection and discernment. Navigate this chapter of your life with grace, remember your worth as vibrant as a pair of jugs, and embrace the boundless possibilities that lie before you with open arms. ㅤ

[beautyjoyfover200]

I’m sorry you had to experience, you two was each other soul mate and families didn’t approve because of traditions. It really suck but you sound like a wonderful person, I’m sure you’ll find your new love.

[caring__1]

When we enter a relationship, we take on more than just the person. We take on their family, their culture and their history. Had you researched the Chinese culture and indoctrination, you would have realized this was the likely result of any relationship you might choose to create and nurture.

It's very hard to totally eliminate indoctrination. Let's say you were raised very religious and strictly followed all the shoulds and shouldn'ts of that belief. Eventually, you grew into yourself and chose to leave the blind beliefs in the past. Even though you no longer believe, every time you do one of the things you were taught was a deadly sin, you'll feel this twinge of guilt. You may remind yourself you no longer believe and then do that which you wouldn't have done when you were young, but you'll always have this step to take when making decisions.

It is very hard to completely let go of early indoctrination. For instance, Sammy Davis Jr converted to Judaism, yet just before he died he returned to his Christian faith. In the future, research your choices before you significantly invest. If you know the person will likely be expected to fulfill the requirements of the family or culture, realize they may eventually give in to those expectations, even if they declare they won't.

[dynamicyandere]

You’re right, everything makes so much more sense this way.



But, if only he were just honest with you.


If he needed to stay in China to take care of his sister, I’m sure you’d be understanding and be able to work something out.


But no, his family made him create this elaborate story and sent him away.


It’s tragic that it ended like this.


You two were in love and his family intervened and did not approve.


He was forced to choose between you and his family, and that was a situation his family put him in.


I’m sorry this happened to you—it’s really unfair.


You have closure now at least. Answers. Even though those truths are bitter.


And you know that you did nothing wrong. You were good to him. You loved him and he loved you.


It was his family that got in between you two.


Honoring his family’s wishes is important to him and his family’s wishes were something outside of your control.


I’m glad that learning this helped restore your confidence though.


Your entire life is still ahead of you and I’m sure you still have a bright future. ☀️

[ObscuredBeyond]

I went through something similar once. Only, Sunny's family didn't even have the decency to tell me what the heck was really going on. They made her cut me off completely, though she clearly didn't want to.

The woman who replaced her at work after she lost her job finally told me everything. And once I got back on WeChat, her timeline images confirmed the former coworker's narrative.

I let her know all was forgiven, and that I wished her the best. Because very little of the choice was hers. China is very cruel, and very untrusting of outsiders.

Yet, I find it strange the extent to which China gets a free pass to be that extreme, while Europeans risk cancellation or worse if they refuse to suck the toes of insane immigration policies that put them at risk from actual foreign criminals.

It's like if not for double standards, modern humanity wouldn't have any standards at all!

[BoopBoopBeep]

That sucks. SO much. I'm not surprised. Honestly that's common in China, but that makes it suck no less when it happens. I'm so sorry you were on the receiving end of this. At least you know it wasn't something between you and him.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It does make sense now… Because I totally couldn’t get it how could he propose me 3 weeks earlier and then break up with me.

I flew half world to meet him and I didn’t get why he couldn’t meet me and why he said he was scared to meet me because he knew he would find it hard to go if he met me even once.

To be honest, that does feel like a good closure.

Because I was a very good girlfriend and I just couldn’t get how could he leave me.

I was wondering what was wrong with mr. Maybe I am not good enough, maybe I didn’t deserve to be loved by him and so on and on,

It shook my whole world to have someone I trusted and loved, leave me in that way.

Now it does makes sense and also, it reclaims my confidence to know that he loved me and wanted to marry me,

It makes me feel horrible and also makes me feel confident, that seems like I did nothing wrong.

And yeah, I was cool enough of a girlfriend to make his parents freaked out that even one meeting by my side would make him change his mind. And they even sent him half of the country away… In China they have a legal right to have a say in Child’s marriage decision, so I don’t blame my ex.

I just feel more confident knowing this, You got to be a great woman to cause this havoc over you.

I knew for a fact if he met me he wouldn’t be able to break up with me. But I just got it proved.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Havoc is a bad word, I mean his family was freaked out about him meeting me. Cause he knew he lost his mind over me. So I guess, at least that feels good to knoe.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am walking by the river sorry for typos

[BoopBoopBeep]

You should find a little bird to feed. That always makes me happy by the stream on my property when I'm feeling bad.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I used to do that all the time back in Georgia ^^

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

But it’s night and birds are sleeping now. I just got back home.

[BoopBoopBeep]

We have night critters here. Raccoons and opossums mainly. I've shared many a sandwich with them by the waterfall. I'm glad you're back home though. If you drink wine, now may be a good night to open a bottle you've been saving for a special occasion. Life's short. God knows I understand that if anyone does. Make tonight a special occasion.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Tonight is indeed a special occasion. I walked in the street and for the first time after break up I felt again that I am sexy and irresistible.

I was doubting that after break up, because if I was that good, I was wondering how could he leave me.

But everyone told me he loved me crazy, even my brother told me, I must have put a spell on him to make such a great guy wait for me for 2 years so loyally. He said he would never wait for a woman more than 3-6 months, no matter how great she was.

I used to FEEL so confident, in love, happy, content and sexy and suddenly everything shattered. And I have no idea, why or what did I do to deserve it.

For the first time after break up, I breathed in deeply and felt relieved that It was not my fault, I did nothing bad and seems like, I was pretty good.

It feels so refreshing and amazing to know that and I couldn’t wish for a better closure than this.

It does deserve a glass of wine. But I feel sad for him now. Even though I shouldn’t , cause it was his decision too, after all.

I would never let anyone, stand between me and my love, I told my extended family (my immediate family always supported me), “if you don’t like my decision of being engaged to a Chinese man, you can keep it to yourself. I don’t care. But if anyone dares say a word about him, you’ll lose me forever.”

So everybody knew they must have respected my decision. And they did so.

[BoopBoopBeep]

It is always such a shame when family meddles in the happiness of a young couple for such base reasons.

[Friendlybro79]

I think this can be considered closure for you to know the why behind the break up and start to truly move on. Moving in would mean to put this chapter behind you and not look back. That doesn't mean you have to forget but you can find someone who will prioritize you more. They feel guilty for controlling their son's life and yours but still want a Chinese wife. Sounds like they want to be forgiven for being a big, if not total reason, your ex broke up with you.

Moving on is difficult but how long can you hold onto this past before it affects your present and future? Good luck

[Grond21]

That is horrible. You have been gravely mistreated by them.

[Grond21]

How long ago was this?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

1 year ago exactly

[Grond21]

I'm sorry you are in this situation.

If he came back, what would you do?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I would do nothing. He made his decision, regardless of what his parents wanted, it was his decision to make finally.

And it us still a betrayal…

Regardless, he had another short term relationship after our break up, I would never be able to look at him the same way after knowing that he’s been touched by another woman after me, when I was still suffering with our break up.

When I was with him he was all mine, I was his first and he always told me I would be the only woman in his life.

What we had was beautiful but he killed it. I am never going back to him again.

Good luck to him finding a woman who’ll better support him in his life difficulties, or with the issues of sister, than I would. I don’t think there are any women like that.

[Grond21]

You are right. His family put lots of pressure on him, but it was his decision. As hard as it was, he made his choice.

I understand very well why you would not go back to him again.

[molonski2]

Arrghh , yes , very common throughout Asia this kind of thing , particularly the higher you go up the family ladder , that explanation makes much more sense to me , than that which you were trying to explain previously.

Interesting , is that you ended up in China anyhow !

[Gent207-2]

That socks

I'd say you dodged a bullet but I gather such is the culture. So pickings for a sane m, reasonable family are slim to none over there.

[WhitneySnow]

At least he still loves you

[eagle1951]

wow not a family I would want to marry into damn

[justabuddy]

She must have been feeling guilty.

[justabuddy]

I mean, shitty parenting. But the world is still turning and good and bad stuff happen every dsy. So just keep moving forward one day at a time.

[Andres77]

Character…ouch.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

What character?

[Andres77]

That he held to family needs and put those above his own desires. He made a great sacrifice, losing one of your quality, choosing to submit to a familial obligation rather than be with the woman he loved.

[sheikalana]

Now move on for good.