So I dated this guy a few years back that I was so in love with. But, he definitely couldn't decide how he felt about me and it was basically on and off for about 2 and half years. Like, I was constantly devastated.
So obviously he's bad news. But I think there's an addiction to him. Because despite knowing that, a small part of me always wants to hear from him.
The other day I did. After a solid year of no contact. And the weirdest part is that I KNOW when I'm about to hear from him. Because I'll dream about him.
He texted me, asking if he could take me out on a DATE. Which I can imagine is his way of saying he's "finally ready" for that. But I no longer am. He emotionally wore me down so bad.
Yet I'm sick and a small part of me REALLY wants to see him. But also I don't actually want to at all, logically.
On top of that, I recently started dating the most wonderful guy. Someone who wanted me the first time around. Someone that's kind and makes me a priority and openly admits his feelings for me. I adore this man. And I would never dream of cheating on him. Nor leaving him. I know I have it made where I'm at now. I am so grateful for him.
Which is why I feel SICK that my ex texting me stirred up any feelings. I don't want him.
How have you guys previously moved on from a toxic person you were addicted to?
FYI, I blocked the ex immediately and told my current partner about it.
I'm just sick of this old ex having any emotional holds on me.
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It is normal to feel this way. You have spent a lot of energy in this relationship, and even though you know it was toxic, part of you misses it.
You're right to block it, and to tell your new partner about it. If you want to move on from him, you have to move on mentally too. You will get there, it just takes time.
I had a toxic relationship in the past where I spent a lot of energy on this person and I thought about him a lot when I was by myself. That takes a long time to heal from.
Have you blocked him from contacting you?
Yes. He's blocked on Instagram (the only social media I had him on), and I had deleted his number. But now it's also blocked
Excellent.