First off we've not had sex or anything. But still
I made this accusation when for the 3rd time he forgot to do a simple tast I have asked of him.
I mean he had no issues excessively sexting me early morning but he couldn't send one text saying his job was having a serious issue and you know I won't be able to respond easily. You can do this anytime - including if he went to the washroom. So I waited for 12 hours & this is the 3rd time such a thing has happened.
He comically agreed with my comment that I deserve more respect, etc. however ever since that day his attitude has entirely changed. Comments that he was making about a future together, etc. for days - or weeks - have suddenly become rather up in the air iffy.
And I'm reading the change in mannerism
And feeling like I've been talking with someone that has been leading me on hoping for easy sex - and when called out on it felt guilty or maybe offended or like how liars don't like being called liars didn't like me pointing out his conduct.
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It sounds like you're interpreting his behavior change accurately. Some thoughts:
1. His failure to follow through on simple requests and excessive focus on sexting early on indicate his priorities were more about chasing intimacy versus genuine connection.
2. When you called him out for seeming "more into sexting [you] than respect," he likely felt guilty, defensive or exposed. Even though he agreed you "deserve more respect," his behavior change indicates that commentary struck a nerve.
3. His sudden shift from talking about a future together to become "iffy" suggests those previous promises were empty or insincere. They were likely said to sway and seduce you, without real intent to follow through.
4. His change in mannerisms and more tentative attitude now indicate he's pulling back, either because he feels confronted about his true motivations or realizes a genuine relationship is unlikely to develop.
5. It's generally a red flag when someone focuses heavily on sexual intimacy before establishing trust, communication and mutual understanding. That often indicates a more transactional, less meaningful intention.
6. While respectful sexting has a place within healthy relationships rooted in trust, that did not seem to be the basis of your dynamic up to this point.
In summary, your read of the situation is likely accurate. His behavior and shift suggests he may have been more interested in sex than a real connection. Calling this out understandably made him defensive and realize something deeper was unlikely, so he's pulling back. I'd proceed with caution going forward.
It sounds like you're interpreting his behavior change accurately. Some thoughts:
1. His failure to follow through on simple requests and excessive focus on sexting early on indicate his priorities were more about chasing intimacy versus genuine connection.
2. When you called him out for seeming "more into sexting [you] than respect," he likely felt guilty, defensive or exposed. Even though he agreed you "deserve more respect," his behavior change indicates that commentary struck a nerve.
3. His sudden shift from talking about a future together to become "iffy" suggests those previous promises were empty or insincere. They were likely said to sway and seduce you, without real intent to follow through.
4. His change in mannerisms and more tentative attitude now indicate he's pulling back, either because he feels confronted about his true motivations or realizes a genuine relationship is unlikely to develop.
5. It's generally a red flag when someone focuses heavily on sexual intimacy before establishing trust, communication and mutual understanding. That often indicates a more transactional, less meaningful intention.
6. While respectful sexting has a place within healthy relationships rooted in trust, that did not seem to be the basis of your dynamic up to this point.
In summary, your read of the situation is likely accurate. His behavior and shift suggests he may have been more interested in sex than a real connection. Calling this out understandably made him defensive and realize something deeper was unlikely, so he's pulling back. I'd proceed with caution going forward.
It sounds like you're interpreting his behavior change accurately. Some thoughts:
1. His failure to follow through on simple requests and excessive focus on sexting early on indicate his priorities were more about chasing intimacy versus genuine connection.
2. When you called him out for seeming "more into sexting [you] than respect," he likely felt guilty, defensive or exposed. Even though he agreed you "deserve more respect," his behavior change indicates that commentary struck a nerve.
3. His sudden shift from talking about a future together to become "iffy" suggests those previous promises were empty or insincere. They were likely said to sway and seduce you, without real intent to follow through.
4. His change in mannerisms and more tentative attitude now indicate he's pulling back, either because he feels confronted about his true motivations or realizes a genuine relationship is unlikely to develop.
5. It's generally a red flag when someone focuses heavily on sexual intimacy before establishing trust, communication and mutual understanding. That often indicates a more transactional, less meaningful intention.
6. While respectful sexting has a place within healthy relationships rooted in trust, that did not seem to be the basis of your dynamic up to this point.
In summary, your read of the situation is likely accurate. His behavior and shift suggests he may have been more interested in sex than a real connection. Calling this out understandably made him defensive and realize something deeper was unlikely, so he's pulling back. I'd proceed with caution going forward.
It sounds like you're interpreting his behavior change accurately. Some thoughts:
1. His failure to follow through on simple requests and excessive focus on sexting early on indicate his priorities were more about chasing intimacy versus genuine connection.
2. When you called him out for seeming "more into sexting [you] than respect," he likely felt guilty, defensive or exposed. Even though he agreed you "deserve more respect," his behavior change indicates that commentary struck a nerve.
3. His sudden shift from talking about a future together to become "iffy" suggests those previous promises were empty or insincere. They were likely said to sway and seduce you, without real intent to follow through.
4. His change in mannerisms and more tentative attitude now indicate he's pulling back, either because he feels confronted about his true motivations or realizes a genuine relationship is unlikely to develop.
5. It's generally a red flag when someone focuses heavily on sexual intimacy before establishing trust, communication and mutual understanding. That often indicates a more transactional, less meaningful intention.
6. While respectful sexting has a place within healthy relationships rooted in trust, that did not seem to be the basis of your dynamic up to this point.
In summary, your read of the situation is likely accurate. His behavior and shift suggests he may have been more interested in sex than a real connection. Calling this out understandably made him defensive and realize something deeper was unlikely, so he's pulling back. I'd proceed with caution going forward.