Guys, He said he respects me too much?

[Anonymous]

So there is this guy I have a huge crush on, as the story always begins. He is clearly interested in me, tho I am not sure how much.

Anyways, I'm 23yo and my friends did a huge favor (sarcasm intended) to tell this guy I don't have any sexual experience, I still haven't even kissed a guy, thanks to my lack of trust in strangers, even if I am really interested. But you see, for the first time I feel like I could hook up with someone, I just don't have the courage to say this to him.

Anyway, there was this night, I had a few shots and I was really flirty, sending all the signals I could, smalls one of course for most people, but still flirting and HE WAS FLIRTING BACK. So my friend said "just go kiss her, you both want each other!" (she was a bit more... energetic tho haha) and he said "No, I really respect her... I couldn't".

WHAT. THE. HELL.

I mean, I like to be respected and stuff, but I also want this guy! He previously said to another friend "I won't force it, I will respect her time", which was super cute at that time, but now... lol

What does this even mean? Is he toying with me? Only said that to not openly reject me? He is not the type to not go foward when he is interested in other girls tho, I am confused.

[RandomNoise]

Most guys with any sense of decency will not make a move on a woman who is obviously intoxicated.

Think about it this way, because you were drunk he didn't see you as in control of your actions and any moves he made on you would have been without your consent.

[Asker]

Oh, that is the least girls can expect of guys, but this was not the last time I saw him. I mean, sure I only flirt with him when I am a bit drunk, but I give all the space to him also when I am not... I should be more straightforward it seems.

[Jo1991]

Perhaps he meant he didn't wanna kiss you at that moment cos you were drinking and may not have been thinking clearly. But you know it's alright for the girl to make the 1st move so kiss him.

[Jedwards]

Sounds to me like he likes you but he also knows you don't trust strangers so he wants you to be comfortable with it. Best way to let him know is to kiss him first. Go kiss the guy

[Bonkitz]

It would be really disrespectful to take advantage of the situation because you're intoxicated, he rather you both be sober. This is why chivalry is dead. Grow some courage and just let him know how you feel

[derboy]

He is saying, "Don't tell me what I mean, let me work it out for myself?" Hr also is a prat to join all the others. Girls yes it really is a bit of a mine field out there for you: may I dare to suggest delicately to stop thinking with your wet place (!) and engage brain. You see, unlike all the parts and gits of men out there, you actually do have an OK incredible brain, re each and every one of you, beneath those hair-do's.

[Anonymous]

He probably means that he is afraid to do anything with you intimately as he knows you've never had those experiences before. He probably cares about you to the point that he doesn't want to risk screwing something up on your first time and end up causing you pain.

[Yes-Man]

It means you gotta make the move. He seems inexperienced and is uncertain of your reaction.

[Asker]

Nah, he is not inexperienced at all. I would describe him as a player, and that is why I am super confused. D:

[Yes-Man]

Well then it's just simply odd.

[Yes-Man]

My guess is that he either plays you, OR he has actual feelings for you and doesn't want to harm you in any way.

[fistofdarwin]

He sounds shy. Or simply chivalrous? Sounds like you have to make the first move... Which could be a kiss, or could just be a clear verbal statement like "kiss me". He does sound interested.

[علي1989]

He respect u
He wants u with ur full control of ur thoughts and wants u yo b certain and picks him for real intention. Give him a try
But no shots ok?

[jomppela]

Might be that he's insecure somehow or then he feels like you are too brittle and wants to keep that innocence in you. Show him what you want and wait if it's what it takes. Hope it goes good!

[Blackfists]

In this situation you need to take initiative. That will help him know the limits. (By that I mean he'll know how far he can go.)

[CAsurfing]

Fuck.
How about you make the first move.
Seriously, you and every other woman need to get off your ass and make a move.