I wanna know if I’m wrong in this?

[Anonymous]

So before me and my girlfriend officially got together I’ll just say we were dating. So I asked her maybe 1-3 times to be official. She wouldn’t give me an answer so I just said fuck it. She came at me really crazy like I was seeing someone else even though we weren’t together. There was someone in the chamber but I didn’t pursue because I have a one track mind. Anyways I told her obviously you are guilty of something Because here you are calling me drunk in the middle of the night. We’re together now but there’s things I’m putting together now and I looked in her phone just trying to see if she’s talking about something she wants for her bday. I see a sketchy text so for the first time in my life I feel the impulsive need to just cheat. I feel lied to and that I don't know who she is. I don’t really want to corrupt myself you know. But am I justified for feeling how I feel? To my knowledge she hasn’t done anything to cross me. But if this was hidden for about two years it’s got me wondering what else is she hiding or lying about?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Your feelings are valid but don’t follow the impulses to cheat. It’s clearly a bad match, you’re better off trying someone else

[OlderAndWiser]

All you have told us is your vague conclusion so I have no idea what's going on and what I would do if I was in your position.

[Asker]

Sorry man the foundation just feels like a lie to me right now. We did not exclusively date , for me I deal w/ One person at a time. She said she did as well. I find out now that she did not I’m saying I feel violated but she wasn’t my girlfriend at the time.

[OlderAndWiser]

So you feel that you were misled?

[Asker]

Yes and she walks around bigs me up to people and tries to be the perfect girlfriend and talk about marriage but it feels fake to me now.

[OlderAndWiser]

How much of a future is there in a relationship with a girl who you don't trust?