Hi everyone so I came to a realization. So there was this guy I was talking to. We always talked everyday he said he will do this do that etc etc etc. However after our second date he was acting funny by Dry texting. I asked him what was wrong he said nothing. Then I asked him again he asked what else can I offer him besides sex? I was confused by this cause l was shocked by this since he was the one who always wanted it. Then I when i confessed my true feelings and how I liked him he blocked me on social media but still continue to text. When I confronted him about it he made up some bs and excused me of doing something during our date that never ever happened. I apologized if I did something or said something offensive (I honestly don't know wtf I did or say but he won't say so I apologized anyway) he agreed to hanging out and drinking next week but I dont think it's a good idea. I think I rather just go out with him and go Dutch on the date. I feel confused, happy, but sad at the same time and don't know what to do. Like im willing to take accountability for my part but I don't know what I did wrong and he won't say. So if I feel since I like him a lot I want to work it out but don't know how. I wanna cut my losses but can't at the same time. I wanna tell him next week that I wanna go out again instead of drinking at his place but then again I don't know but I don't wanna push anything or scare him off.
P. s. I'm sorry if this sound all over the place but I just trying to figure out wtf to do🤣🤣🤣🤣 he Said he wanna fuck me "one day" and im like wtf does this mean? Does he still like me or nah
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Tell him to make up his mind and to stop being wishy washy. This blocking behavior of his seems immature. Is this what you want in a boyfriend? I don't (in a girlfriend).
Definitely not this guy also have 2 kids (twins) but I overlooked it. But this is too much
Well then. The ball is in your court. Or you can ghost him but that's immature.
Why are you wasting your time with some idiot that's playing stupid games with you? The guy just wants to fuck you, why else do you think he would invite you to his place to have drinks?
True like one minute he horny the next is whatelse can you offer besides sex? I feel bad cause I didn't come off this way at all. But I told him I'm not with the games. If there's an issue communicate it instead of holding grudges. I'm confused af. This guy is a preacher kid but has two kids himself. I'm like is he trying to change or is he just being a dick?
Ya a bit all over the place. If you want to go out next week then let him know where and what time. Then it’s on him to meet you there.
Why do and drink at his place?
I'm gonna do that instead. Instead of drinking at his place.
Good luck
Thanks ❤️
You are welcome. You have had two dates, if he wants to see you he will go out. He can find someone to watch the kids if they are still young. He’s an adult right?
Yeah he's a year younger than me. And maybe he was talking about bringing the kids on some of our dates but it never happened. When I asked him to hang out he said yeah let's drink at his place but I need to explain thats not a good idea but don't wanna be rude
It’s not rude to communicate your boundaries
Yeah im trying to change also like I dont wanna come off as wanting sex only cause that's 0% me. So my plan was since he was complaining about the last date I'm willing to pay for our next date (since he payed for the last 2 dates) I don't know if I should tell him like this lol
Of course. You are an adult. So plan something you would enjoy and based on what you know about him that he will enjoy. You can pay for it. Be open to flirting and kissing on the date but then you can end the date not at his place
Yes definitely if he wanna kiss im all for it. I regret drunk texting him last night. When I said I wanted to make love all night he said "one day" so I guess he still have a bit of feelings left lmaooo but im not ending the date at his place.
Ha ha be careful. You can be playful and drunk text but make sure you follow up and reassure him you are sexually attracted to him and if things progress well a night of sex would be fun.. in a committed relationship. Therefore you stay true to your boundaries while encouraging him to connect to you
Yes I apologized this morning and he said it was okay lol. But yeah I will probably text him rn or after Christmas he probably drinking rn and not trying to get a drunk response lol
Ok lemme know how it goes
Definitely lol I'm nervous
Why feel nervous? You got this
Thanks I dont want him to come back with a negative response. Like I dont wanna bother him but at the same time it's a legit thing I wanna do. I want to start over. We agreed to be friends but i dont want him to think that im being pushy when thats not the case at all. I don't want him to think I'm only about sex and I'm not trying to be blocked through text. Cause when I confessed my feelings to him the first time he blocked me on social media even social media I don't follow him on lmaooooo
Tbh this sounds way more complicated than a simple answer I can give to your q. Good luck and follow me if you want to get into the history of you two where I can help more
Thanks I just think im overthinking it lmaooo. I'll just ask the question to him! And I'll definitely follow. Sorry if I confused you😂😂😂