Am I the asshole?

[Anonymous]

My grandparents at 70’s and it’s my birthday coming up. My partner prioritized seeing his friend which is a girl who just got home from Europe didn’t take a test for Covid-19 and a friend from NFL who were on a recent outbreak and they are having a large socail

He already agreed to go without consulting me. These plans are tonight and Friday
My birthday is on Sunday I booked it off to see my folks and my partner and I live together

He is at a high risk for Covid-19 and took a change without consulting me. Now I can’t see my parents to host my big birthday bash

I don’t ask for much and accept if he is out all hours if the night as he priorities his friends over our time. But for my birthday and Christmas is means a lot and I had to ask for a gift.

He is waiting last minute to get me anything or thing of anything sweet and more or less cancelled my birthday plans this Sunday.

Everyone is telling me to Calum down and forgive him but I am hurt and his is making me feeling guilty for him being a bad boyfriend

I am tired of fighting for him to prioritize me and he kept complaining that common sense isn’t the same for everyone. He wants to say he can’t make it because of me and make me the bad guy instead of say I didn’t consider her birthday

What should I do what advise would you suggest

Updates

+1 y

I don’t live with my partners

I love with my partner. 2 years of dating

He gets mad when I don’t wait around for him around his schedule

But hates when I don’t make the effort to prioritize his free times to spend time together

[Mamaliv]

If being with your family is how you want to spend your birthday then, isolate from him and don’t have him at your party?


OR even if he is exposed prior to your party he wouldn’t be shedding the 🦠 till he is actually showing symptoms, so if he wakes up Sunday morning coughing leave him home.


But realistically your are constantly being exposed, the risk will always be there so you either freak out about it and not live your life or you simply carry on.



The time from exposure to symptom onset (known as the incubation period) is thought to be two to 14 days.

[Asker]

Yeah, Am I the asshole based on his choice

[Asker]

We live together. Stayed at my folks today and tonight

[Mamaliv]

Are you an asshole? Nah, Over reacting, maybe… but he isn’t in the right either, as it sounds like he could care less about your feelings.

[Anonymous]

No just overreacting. You can't expect him to follow you around like a puppy.

[Staximus]

You are the one who cancelled your plans because you're being crazy about dumb COVID. You can't blame your paranoia on him. Go to the drug store and get a COVID test, they are like $10. If you don't have COVID the morning of your birthday party, go see your parents.

[Staximus]

You can't expect him to not live his life because you are paranoid about COVID, you can't use it as an excuse to control him.

[Asker]

My grandparents are a high risk in there 70’s

[Staximus]

I know you're worried about your grandparents but he could go get COVID at 7-11 buying a six pack of beer. We can't hide from COVID forever. If he hasn't gone out to these places yet, you could go stay at a friend's or your parents house for the weekend away from him. The guy doesn't sound like a considerate person in general and that's not going to change.

[Asker]

His two social commitments where friends that didn’t wear a mask and travelled from Europe and a different province

[Engin12]

Yes. You are the asshole.

[In_Trance]

you lost me at Covid