Am I the asshole?

[Anonymous]

I have a cat. I got her a year ago and prior to this I did not like cats (misinformation about them) but they are amazing animals and I adore them now.
My sister has a one year old and she’s struggled to find a nanny and now she has a job offer so she has to get one fast and she asked me to help her son adjust to the nanny because his antisocial and takes time to accept new people. So I agreed to help out for a month assuming by then he would’ve adjusted and if he doesn’t that’s none of my business I have my own life to live. So now she’s saying I should leave my cat alone at home and just give her enough food for that time and I refused because that’s my baby why should I? And she goes on to say I’m imposing the cat on her and I said I’m not, I’ve told you I have to come with her if you don’t like that that’s fine find someone else for that month.
So now she’s saying I’m choosing my cat over her and her sons ( I love them all to death her sons are practically my kids) and I didn’t love cats before and it’s just an animal and they are human beings. I’ll have children one day I’ll probably stop loving the cat ( 😂what kind of dumb logic is that) and when I’ve gone to her house with my cat before there was fur everywhere. So I told her you’re not welcoming of my cat and so I won’t also babysit or anything because that requires me abandoning her for your needs and that won’t happen I got her because I wanted to love her and not just for aesthetics.
So, am I being unreasonable?

[Lliam]

My wife and I have been married for almost 26 years. Just a few months after our marriage, I rescued a kitty from certain death in the middle of a busy highway and brought her home. She became our girl for almost exactly 22 years. We kept her indoors so that nothing would happen to her.

Once we moved to the country we adopted other cats over the years, two at a time, to keep the mice and voles in our garden under control. We let them out in the morning and brought them in at night.

We loved all our cats. They were all very sweet. And every cat has a unique personality.

We currently have two cats.

But cats are pretty good at taking care of themselves. They can amuse themselves and they spend a lot of time sleeping. They don't need constant attention like dogs. We ever had a cat that got neurotic if we left it alone for a while. We have left for as many as two whole days and the cats were fine as long as we left them plenty of food and water. When we were both working, we would both be gone all day.

So, in your case, you should not abandon your kitty in order to serve your sister and nephew. You made a commitment to your kitty to provide a forever home. At the same time, it's okay to leave your kitty alone for hours as long as it has food and water.

[Asker]

Seems there’s a bit of confusion I should have worded better.
For the month whole month I will have to stay with my sister.

[Lliam]

What does she expect you to do with your cat?

[Asker]

Lol she expects I should leave enough food amd water for the time I won’t be here

[Lliam]

Unbelievable. In that case, tell her to find someone else. You're unavailable.

[Anonymous]

It's her kid, her responsibility. I have a child of my own and I would never expect someone to do what your sister is expecting you to do, so no you are not the AH

[boggboss]

How she worded things was stupid but your being a bit cat women crazy by being incapable of leaving your cat for a few hours that's a bit crazy to be honest

[Asker]

I’m suppose to leave her alone for A WHOLE MONTH.
I stated that

[Asker]

It’s not just a few hours cus I’ll be staying with her for the month. Lol I’m not crazy

[boggboss]

Oh shit must have fucked up when reading didn't realise u would be leaving for the month that my bad take back everything I typed she is being unreasonable

[Asker]

And she’s saying I should measure enough food and water and leave the tv on. She’s a cat she won’t mind