Am I the asshole?

[Anonymous]

So there was this girl I used to be cool with at the gym she gave me all the signs she was interested, we would talk (only if I initiated it) but then I would notice & others in the gym would notice that when we were both there & she saw me first she would just look at me & almost wait till I would see her to start taking to her. & mind you I’m always locked into my workout, but now a month I stopped initiating & we completed stopped talking I feel like if it’s not reciprocated then why be friends? it’s not like I’m pushy our conversation I think were light & we laughed a lot. Now all she does is watch my Instagram stories and when she knows I’m in the gym she will sneak a look and act like I’m invisible which in my mad I just got tired of always chasing a simple conversation with someone who made it feel like pulling teeth. I don’t think she at 27 years old could be that shy that she never wanted to initiate conversations with me that would be crazy were adults & playing games is child’s play.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, nah I wouldn't say you're the asshole here. That girl is def sending mixed signals and playing games. Sounds like you were cool, making an effort to chat at the gym, but got tired of always being the one to initiate when she clearly saw you too.

At some point you gotta stop chasing and let them put in some work too if they're really interested, ya feel me? Like you said, y'all ain't in high school anymore.

I'd just keep doing you - locked into your workouts, not chasing her for attention. If she wants to talk, she knows where to find you. Don't go out of your way noticing her sneaking looks either. Let her wonder if you even see her now.

Play it cool, keep your interactions light if she approaches. But effort's a two way street - don't let any girl make you sweat for basic conversation and respect, bro. You got way better things to spend your energy on.

[Asker]

Question why would she constantly keep watch on my social media? clearly we stopped talking lol

[Oliverlogan263]

Honestly man, who knows what her deal is checking up on your social media like that if she's not even talking to you anymore. My best guess is she likes the attention and validation she gets from you even if she's not going to actually put in the effort in person. Like maybe she enjoys knowing you still notice her watching your stuff even when she won't talk to you face to face. It's like she wants you to continue chasing after her and trying to impress her online even if she won't give you the time of day at the gym. Girls can be weird like that sometimes, wanting the attention without having to reciprocate. Or she might be bored and just creeps all her old "options" profiles to keep tabs on people. Whatever her reason, it's lame as hell and playing games. I wouldn't even worry about trying to understand it - just enjoy living your life and focus on girls that will actually talk to you in person without all the nonsense. This one ain't worth the headache bro.

[Asker]

Big facts! Thank my guy💪🏼

[Oliverlogan263]

Anytime bruh no problem

[DrPepper12]

Bye bye! I hate coy games. She needs to be an adult not a middle school wallflower.

[Abbycado]

If you’ve gone anon to ask this question, you’re probably an asshole.

We are already pretty much anon here.

[missindiana93]

No. She's to old to not know what she wants. Just move on.

[Asker]

I thought so… there’s no bad blood we just went back to strangers again lol.

[AnnaCT]

Life goes on, I can’t believe how wimpy these young men are today.

[Billlewis]

Well said, ma'am, well said. I just started following you and I'd like to invite you to follow or message me as well, if that's alright. Thank you very much.

[supercutebutt]

What are her feelings on buttstuff?

[anastasia_521]

He's not too old to get you