Search Results: getting her attention

29F and I’ve always questioned how almost every pretty woman I’ve come across is always in a relationship with an equally attractive guy. When I was chubby younger, I thought losing weight would solve everything and it hasn’t. I feel like regardless of what anyone else says, I’ll always wholeheartedly believe attractive women have no issue finding a partner & they have life easier. I’ve been told I’m attractive by a variety of people for most of my life, even when I was chubby. I’m not thin, 5’7 women’s US 10 so midsize but I have that thicker thigh/flatter stomach build. The only time I get attention from guys I find attractive are on dating apps and that’s not telling in my opinion. I’ve been told this guy looked at me/this guy found me attractive from other people but the guy never makes it known to me. And there’s been very very few times where I would see an attractive guy making eye contact with me or at least caught my gaze but I just look away b/c I don’t see the point. I’m anxious/reserved but a lot of people with anxiety are in fulfilling relationships

I know it sounds like a really stupid question. My anxiety is typically pretty bad, even worse when it comes to working & social interactions. Prior to this job, I worked in financial aid for ~2 years. It started out stressful but I ended up getting good feedback from mgmt/my metrics were apparently one of the better on the team. I sought new work due to the workload at the time & wanting better pay. Now I’m in my 4th week & this is a school I’ve been trying to get into for a hot minute.

I’ve trained with the mgr & supervisor, both have told me I’m doing well & I’m not even asking for feedback (yet). Mgr felt the need to let the whole team know that I was picking up fast when I was first introduced to them. This job is more in depth vs the last job & she even told me that they only hire people with experience now bc of how much there is to it. Prior to this wk, I was w/ the mgr training & got that 1:1 attention. Now, they’ve thrown me into the deep end & I’m doing *work work*. I have SO many questions & just message the supervisor, too many unknowns. I have notes I took & training resources but still feel like I might need direction if I’m working something new, especially if I didn’t work through an actual scenario before.

I’m not sure if I’m expecting hand holding in the sense of wanting more extensive training or they’re just expecting me to ask as I go, as I work through a new task. The supervisor said that they expect me to ask a ton of questions & she said something today like “I think you caught onto doing an estimate quicker than I did when I was first training”. I know they wouldn’t lie to me & I guess that reassurance should be enough to get me through the brunt of it but it just never is. I REALLY WANT TO MAKE THIS JOB WORK.