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So my girlfriend recently made a revelation that sort of blew my mind.

I kind of figured that women would wear only underwear under long dresses/skirts, and I was right, I saw my girlfriend getting dressed and that's what she did.

But the weather's gotten hot and the other day I saw her throw on a pretty short and flowy dress that hit only slightly longer than mid-thigh and rode up when sitting over her bra and underwear and then she... just put her shoes on and headed out that way. She didn't put on shorts underneath.

And the whole time I was out with her I kept feeling some second hand embarrassment for her. As if her underwear would be flashed in public in any minute. I kept paying attention to how the wind blew her dress. How it rode up when she sat and crossed her legs. When she climbed up stairs. Thankfully her underwear was never flashed.

When I brought this thing up of why she didn't wear shorts underneath her short dress she literally spit out her water at me and bursted out laughing. About how she never met another woman who does this.

And then I brought up embarrassment or underwear being flashed and she said that as long as you keep your legs together, squat instead of bending over to get something, lightly hold your dress in the wind, etc, no one should ever see your underwear anyway. And that even if anyone saw her underwear she wouldn't care anyway because she wears bikinis at the beach all the time and has bikini pics on her social media.

And honestly mind blown. I'm wondering if most women do what my girlfriend does because I genuinely don't know.

Simple question right? I will concede that falling in love with someone isn't 100% a choice, its a combination of attraction, and chemical responses. But continuing to love someone i believe is a choice.

Let me explain why i believe that.

Love needs to be nurtured. To maintain the relationship, you can't just expect the "Spark" to be there. Both sides need to make effort. Both sides need to do the things that maintain connection.

For example, Every morning when i wake up, i wake a half our prior to actually needing to get up so i can get extra cuddle time with my wife. When i come home from lunch i hug her, and tell her how much i miss her. When i come home at the end of the day i do the same, and then we cook together.. the important term here is Together. Hell even my furniture choices have centered around making sure that even when we are just watching a show together it means cuddle time. Additionally i took my grandfathers advice seriously, which was "Never stop dating your wife" So i make sure to do things like date nights, and spontaneous gifts, And by gifts, i mean things she's been wanting, to things as simple as chocolate. I tell her she's beautiful every day, and i tell her how much i love her every day. And this isn't one way, My wife does similar stuff for me.

Bottom line, if i chose to stop doing all of that, my wife would first think that there was something wrong, Then she would think that i was angry with her, and finally she would think that i dont love her. It would essentially kill the marriage.

Love, Marriage, And everything in between takes effort, Marriage is hard work, Its remembering to do the little things. Its making sure above all else that you have open lines of communication.

A lot of people fail to comprehend that, and i believe this is the reason for the horrific divorce rate.

See the following poem. it explains it quite well
https://hellopoetry.com/poem/1959983/love-needs-nurture/