Husband left me cuz I didn’t share location I need opinions im confused?

Question

I made a mistake and I’m not denying it. I met my ex behind his back a long time ago, and even though nothing happened and the situation wasn’t what it looked like, I understand why it broke his trust. He broke mine by putting tracker and I gave him no reason to do so earlier. I’ve admitted that was wrong. I’ve tried to reassure him, be transparent, and show him through my actions that I’m committed to him I know my mistake is what started all this, but at some point there has to be space for growth

The problem is, even after everything we agreed on — that we’d try, that we’d move forward together, that we’d stop living in the past — he still treats me like I’m constantly guilty. He checks my phone when I go out, tried making me jealous with info about his co-worker how she goes to gym etc etc judges my friends assumes the worst of me and now he even wants my location turned on at all times. I turned it off cuz I don’t want to live under surveillance. That doesn’t feel like rebuilding trust it feels like punishment.

The recent situation made everything worse. I went to give him food, trying to be caring, & somehow I ended up feeling disrespected & blamed again. We haven’t spoken for days. Before leaving he’s like r u closing it to meet someone and then you’ll open it back? The only thing he sent was a snap of a wall, & when I sent one back, he didn’t even open it. This back-and-forth silence, the pettiness, the ego — it’s exhausting. I feel like I’m the only one trying, the only one reflecting, & the only one questioning what I can fix.

I’m genuinely asking myself: what’s the point of moving forward if he isn’t trying too? If he still holds my old mistake over my head? If he says he wants a future but acts like he’s already halfway out the door? I know I hurt him once, but I can’t carry the full weight of this relationship alone. Trust can’t be rebuilt if only 1 person is doing the work. At some point, he has to meet me halfway or there’s nthing left to fix.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

"I know my mistake is what started all this, but at some point there has to be space for growth" Do you fucking hear yourself? It doesn't matter whether you fucked your ex (and you probably did, but don't want to admit it.) Sneaking around and spending time with your ex means your husband will NEVER again trust you. . . and why should he? You can't fix this, it is on you, and you just need to end this sham of a marriage. And take some time to think about what you did before you start looking for your next victim.

Ariesman81 · Accepted Answer

The cost of sin is death. You killed him and he chose not to live in hell with you. Good for him. Unfortunately for you, you now make any man who wants a relationship with you an adulterer.

melanieeeB · Accepted Answer

Well I understand him, you broke his trust and it's really hard rebuilding that again. Better divorce and move on with someone new, because you fucked up this relationship