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28F, just leaning towards bad luck. I’m very introverted & not the friendliest but I don’t think I’m intimidating. I’m told I’m cute/attractive, it’s not like I’m a runway model yet guys just never approach me. I’m told guys look at me but they never do anything about it & I’m too shy. I know there’s nothing wrong with me, most women seem to get guys so easily. That’s why I’ve been on and off the apps since I was maybe 18, getting matches has never been a prob. Convo always fades, ghosting, lack of interest (goes both ways) & some guys who are crazy. I’ve tried a lot of them, usually I stick with Hinge. It’s always a pattern of the guys I want who don’t want me back & the ones that want me I don’t like back. For maybe the past year I’ve become less and less interested, I reply to matches/msgs every couple of days? Even when I was more engaged it still led to the same pattern of no success. A few people have said maybe I’m asexual (haven’t had sex or masturbated in years), assume I’m gay or I’m unsure of what I want. Maybe they’re all wrong & simply I haven’t found the right person? I dated someone for a few months back when I was 23 & after dealing with someone I felt like I settled for, I decided I’d rather be alone vs be with someone I am not crazy for. I’m kind of at the point where I’m apathetic & I just feel too old to be bothered.

My husband and I were married a year and a half ago and I never had the chance to have a bachelorette or bridal shower or anything of the sort… our pictures came out pretty bad from the wedding (our photographer was young and didn’t seem to realize that all the angles from below are not flattering to most people over 12)… We didn’t celebrate being engaged, and only received congrats from his side of the family while mine… fought the idea of me being married the whole time… We barely had a reception because of Covid… And while my husband had a bachelor party I wasn’t able to have a bachelorette because he was severely ill with Covid for the month leading up to our wedding and I was running on empty taking care of him… I don’t regret marrying him, but I realize I didn’t really have a single thought about the wedding in general beforehand… I wasn’t really sure what was going to happen, didn’t know what my hubby wanted for decorations that we pieced together the night before and day of, and I didn’t really do anything like special to get ready for the day… working in retail, I’ve seen a dozen bridesmaids come through with decor for bridal showers and bachelorette parties and stuff and moms and daughters looking at decorations in target and I just… I didn’t have that… my mum wanted pretty much nothing to do with the wedding, didn’t approve of me getting married, and only helped me pick out my wedding dress which ended up giving me a major bruise on my side and I only wore it for like 4 hours…. Idk… it was supposed to be some special day with lots of lead up and anticipation but… it was kinda meh and I just felt totally run down the whole time leading up (as I was in the middle of grad school). I guess… I just wish I had decided to plan and do a bachelorette or bridal shower and had a bond that encouraged my mum to actually want to be involved in the wedding…. is having regrets like this bad?