Is it bad to have regrets about never having a bachelorette or bridal shower?

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My husband and I were married a year and a half ago and I never had the chance to have a bachelorette or bridal shower or anything of the sort… our pictures came out pretty bad from the wedding (our photographer was young and didn’t seem to realize that all the angles from below are not flattering to most people over 12)… We didn’t celebrate being engaged, and only received congrats from his side of the family while mine… fought the idea of me being married the whole time… We barely had a reception because of Covid… And while my husband had a bachelor party I wasn’t able to have a bachelorette because he was severely ill with Covid for the month leading up to our wedding and I was running on empty taking care of him… I don’t regret marrying him, but I realize I didn’t really have a single thought about the wedding in general beforehand… I wasn’t really sure what was going to happen, didn’t know what my hubby wanted for decorations that we pieced together the night before and day of, and I didn’t really do anything like special to get ready for the day… working in retail, I’ve seen a dozen bridesmaids come through with decor for bridal showers and bachelorette parties and stuff and moms and daughters looking at decorations in target and I just… I didn’t have that… my mum wanted pretty much nothing to do with the wedding, didn’t approve of me getting married, and only helped me pick out my wedding dress which ended up giving me a major bruise on my side and I only wore it for like 4 hours…. Idk… it was supposed to be some special day with lots of lead up and anticipation but… it was kinda meh and I just felt totally run down the whole time leading up (as I was in the middle of grad school). I guess… I just wish I had decided to plan and do a bachelorette or bridal shower and had a bond that encouraged my mum to actually want to be involved in the wedding…. is having regrets like this bad?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

you are super... super young... what was the rush that you needed to get married so young? and during covid? i don't understand... you just created a lot of trouble and stress for yourself and your marriage because it seems like you two rushed big time. i swear all covid weddings will end up in divorce. it's a shame that people still went through with it during that time of uncertainty and a time where you weren't supposed to be hosting such events. just best to wait and make sure instead of rushing things, for what? since you are now regretting it. but you can't have a do-over. so just take it as a lesson to next time take your time on big life events.

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

You watched too many movies. You don't marry because of "bachelorette or bridal shower" and any other show elements for family and friends but because you're in a great relationship and marriage is a ceremony between you both to deepen this relationship even further.

stepyo99 · Accepted Answer

A lot of women have big plans and dreams for how they want their wedding to be like and I'm sure it's disappointing having it not turn out like you wished it had, but that was over a year ago and you have to put that shit behind you now. None of the stuff that went sideways was under your control.

You can't control sickness or family being unsupportive so let it go. Instead of regretting the past and letting it eat at you, put your efforts and mind toward building a good relationship and family with your new husband.

CaptainOverthink · Accepted Answer

There is always and will always will be priorities to order things by in life and it's something we should think more of and accept thst we all must choose our regrets. We must choose what we can live with regretting so that we can attain the larger points in life.
There are far worse things to regret, for sure. And one-time cermonies might be special in our heads but really it's only what we make of it, you could do a late bachlorette.

Adaeva · Answer

Not having a bachelorette or bridal shower as they are brief and you can enjoy the experience of going to others. In my opinion, not have good photos is worse because you keep those forever and there is no do over. I believe not having a professional wedding photographer to take you wedding photos is a mistake many people make because they are trying to avoid spending a couple hundred dollars.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I have a big fat penis and I'm not gay, so I've never had the chance to have a bachelorette party.

I tend to worry more about not sitting on my gigantic balls or spilling my drink. Can you imagine what goes through my head everytime I poop and then my big fat penis falls into the water?

I mean my girlfriend might taste that on there.

Tomisworthless · Answer

Women use bachelorette parties as a last chance to get another guy or guys dick inside them. Majority of brides to be and their friends hookup either orally or full on raw sex with the strippers. And they typically let the male cum in their mouth or inside her vagina. Women are immoral and don’t deserve commitment in my view.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Well, I mean, there was a reason behind why you didn’t have either one. I wouldn’t really call it a regret but more like never had the chance because of COVID. Maybe talk to your husband or something and see what he says. I’m sorry you had bad luck.

Anonymous · Answer

Everyone has regrets
My wife regrets she didn't have a nice dress
But I think you won't do everything right
And as a husband I recognise I'm not great
So it's important to be kind to each other
Always be faithful
And it still won't be great
But it'll be okay

slatyb · Answer

Feel what you feel. Throw a party. You didn't need that stuff.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Bachelorette/Bachelor parties are grounds for canceling the wedding and breaking up in my opinion. Anyone who feels the need to have a stripper party, views marriage as a trap and/or doesn't love their partner.

sheenagwapa · Answer

not bad because that's your feelinh... each one of us react differently

lightbulb27 · Answer

I didn't read all that, but what a bunch of stress. oh well, the deal is done. So have a post bachelorette party...

art84 · Answer

It's never too late though not really a big deal since you had to deal with COVID 19.

Anonymous · Answer

Never too late to have them. I know several people who have had post COVID celebrations for weddings in that time.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

If this is your biggest "regret", you are living a charmed life.

Anonymous · Answer

I’d have regrets too if that had happened to me. Maybe try to have a girls weekend to make up for it

aoihewgf · Answer

If you placing that much emphasis on this now, there's got to be bigger issues present

Anonymous · Answer

I really wish I had time to worry about trivial things like this

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is never too late to have one.

Christsdisciple15 · Answer

It’s just a party why can’t you have one now

Anonymous · Answer

I’d have no regrets. Im not a people person

Anonymous · Answer

You can call stripers

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