Is having remorse really important?

[Anonymous]

I'm now 17 and can't think of a time I ever had, not even when someone recently confronted me about their hurt feelings. I was listening to that conversation but didn't felt that bad. It didn't break me. I was actually silently giggling. I was trying to keep a serious face but couldn't help it. The person called me out on that too and said ''That same stupid smile you had 5 years ago. I guess I'll never get closure then, goodbye''.

I had regrets once in a while (mainly of opportunities I didn't take) but to actual get to the point of asking for forgivess, as in full remorse... nope, NEVER. Is having remorse important? Is it bad not to ever feel remorse? I can feel regret but not remorse.

[Oliverlogan263]

I mean, I dunno, remorse is kinda important I think. Like if you really hurt someone and don't feel bad about it, that ain't cool. When they brought up their feelings and you were laughing, that was messed up. You gotta take people seriously sometimes. Even if you don't feel super sad about it, at least you should apologize for real so they know you care about how they felt. Just sayin sorry can help make things better with people. And if you never say sorry for stuff, people won't want to be around you cause they'll think you don't care. Friends and family are important, so you gotta watch what you do so you don't lose them. Maybe you should try listening more closely next time someone opens up, so you understand why they felt hurt. Then even if you don't get that remorse feeling, you can still make things right.

[Vesuvius87]

Sounds like the OP lacks empathy if she can bully others and still think it's funny. That's a bad sign.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

teenagers can be evil, as they grow older their mind mostly also matures and they realize the gravity of those acts, but some also never develop any remorse for hurtful acts or crimes, those are called psychopaths

[Asker]

This might sound harsh but if I were to go back in time to when I was 12 (as that person mentioned), I wouldn't change anything. I was more direct at the time.

[Vesuvius87]

If you have no remorse for hitting others then you have deep mental issues that might have to be addressed by a health professional. Lack of empathy towards others is worrisome. That's the basic sign of narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths.

[Vesuvius87]

** for hurting others

[RedInnocent68]

Maybe you’re a psychopath?

[Asker]

Do I fit that category though? I never committed any crimes and I've been living a normal life. I plan on majoring in law enforcement.
I'm only guilty of being a native, innate person with high social skills and even as a kid, I've always had pathetic followers. Sadly, I can't tease people anymore because no one is into that anymore and I would be called out on being too childish but I still establish my hierarchy in a different, indirect, subtle way. To give you an example, a whole table was set up for only juniors and seniors, no sophomores nor freshmen allowed; established by me and my group. If I wanted to, I can insult someone in an elaborated, sophisticated manner and they won't even notice it's an insult, lol.
Yeah I laughed at that person when I was 12 and I can't help it... it was funny when the incident was brought up. I just don't feel bad about it.

[RedInnocent68]

That doesn’t really help. Plenty in law enforcement are psychos. 😂