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Hey everyone, I’m looking for your input and advice. ****not complaining, I just need help understanding bc I’m a dumb cis straight white male****

Am I leading these women on somehow?

I went through a breakup in September, with 0 bad terms between us, she was way out of my league both physically and as a human. I was and still am deeply in love with her, and I never shut the fuck up about her to people while I was with her (almost 2 years). We’re still super close.

about me (just trust that my self assessment is true for this exercise): I’m a lot of fun, around 30 years old, attractive but not active, so I have a dad bod but I’m really fucking funny and charismatic. I have a lot of beautiful platonic and meaningful female friendships that are strictly friendships. I’m a sweet heart and people are generally protective of me, because I’m depressed and having a hard time and they all love me more than I do. Aka, women see that and feel safe around me.

at the same time, I have a dad bod, my life is a mess right now, I’m openly still in love with my girlfriend, I communicate that “I’m not ready to date anyone right now.” I’m about to start attending both NA and AA meetings. I feel like somehow, me being at the lowest point in my life, is somehow attracting all these beautiful women who are initiating conversations with me and asking me to hang out.

I haven’t slept with anyone since my ex because I’m not ready for that, it would make me too sad. But, I’m a total flirt.
Anyway, one of my gal pals said that my behavior is confusing, because I’m vulnerable and texting with them, and still flirty. But I’m just thinking like, “surely my life is so shitty right now that no woman wants any part of the mess that I am right now.”

so why do you think I’m getting this new attention?

I was with my ex girlfriend for two years and from our circle of friends, I met my current girlfriend. I did not physically cheat on my girlfriend but I emotionally cheated because I fell in love with my current girlfriend while with my ex girlfriend.
Eventually, my feelings for my ex girlfriend faded entirely because my new girlfriend was very compatible with me. We laugh, play and feel really comfortable with each other. I love my new girlfriend and I don’t regret my decision but I do still feel bad. My ex girlfriend didn’t deserve to be left the way I left because she was actually a great girlfriend and did everything right.

She told me “I did everything right and you still left me.” Her family has contacted me saying she has been in a state of depression for the past couple of months. I feel responsible.