Ex girlfriend reads and dwells multiple times on emails I sent, but doesn't respond?

[Dhxbnxx]

4 months ago, after a 2 years relationship, I broke up with my ex girlfriend after a nasty argument. We both loved each other a lot but the relationship has been going downhill for some months. It was mostly from her side, devaluing the relationship and sending strong signals this was coming to an end.

I did not want to end it, but after many episodes of emotional abuse, she physically assaulted me out of the blue, threw me out on the street with only what I was wearing on me, to only abuse me physically more when I managed to get back in the home (She forcibly made me move in with her 6 days prior).

Few days later she told me to move all my belongings out of her place, and when i was done with that, blocked me from all communication channels.

Since then she’s been ghosting me and I haven’t been able to get any form of contact, closure or explanation from her.

I got 2 unusual interactions initiated by her in those 4 months:

- she somehow got her new boyfriend to talk to me (when he rang her door for a shag, her phone is her intercom and she put my number as an alternative) so I had the guy asking me to open the door to get in the bed i was sleeping in a month and half ago.
- Very recently she sent me a text when i was asleep, but deleted it before I had a chance to see it.

I sent her an email, and not knowing if I was blocked there I put a tracker that informs me if it’s been opened, when and where.

Upon reception she read it many many times, basically all night long so much that I doubt she had any sleep. The day after she opened it a dozen of times. Then in the next days she opened it less and less until she completely stopped. However few days later she started to open it couple of times each evening.

I just wanted to get your point of view as to why she reads my emails with so much intensity but yet, chooses to keep ignoring me, and occasionally bait me by flaunting her new boyfriend or empty texts while i’m still blocked with no ability to respond. Thanks

[Mikejones2813308004]

Hey man I feel you but there is prob something that you did that even though you might feel like it’s nothing it was probably too much for her. I was in a situation where the girl I loved dumped the fuck out of me because of a couple little things that ticked her off I’m verry understanding and can change for the one I love but she didn’t even give me a chance. She’s definitely thinking about you but girls are wired differently and chances are she’ll never come back. I’ve seen it too many times. I would suggest just doing what’s best for you think about yourself and keep pushing forward these things happen to make us stronger and better for the next one even if you don’t want a next one and you still want her. Work out eat healthy and work on yourself and nothing but good thing and positive thoughts will come your way. I know this prob didn’t answer your initial question but take it to thought

[Dhxbnxx]

I was very confused in the moment but after a little while and reading about narcissistic personality disorder I thought the situation fit a narcissistic discard quite well. It’s actually me who broke up with her and I’m trying to understand what these mind games mean.
Thanks a lot for the message, I’ll keep following your advice as I think it’s the only way forward to me. Perhaps one day she’ll explain but I think you’re right she’ll never really come back or want to see me and this will most likely remain a mystery forever

[boggboss]

Sorry mu friend are u stupid why are u still so focused on someone that treated u like shit u need to move on what closure do u expect to get?

[Dhxbnxx]

Thanks for the answer. I don’t know if I’m being stupid, I’m trying to understand the meaning of what she does while i’m also moving on. I don’t expect any closure but it bogs me to be ghosted while receiving an empty text months down the line, knowing she seems to care so much about what i have to say. What’s your input?

[boggboss]

That she is caught up on the memory of your relationship probobly still a bit bitter also

[Dhxbnxx]

Cheers. Such a strange behaviour, I can’t get it

[Guy13]

She’s crazy, cruel, and having a good time.

[Dhxbnxx]

Thanks, why do you think she’s having a good time? It looks pretty sad to me

[Guy13]

She’s enjoying preoccupying your mind with her craziness and making sure that you know it. Opening the door for the boyfriend for instance etc. People like her usually change little.

[Dhxbnxx]

Thanks, it looks like this. Do you think it’s purely to keep me in check, or do you sense any remorse that she struggles to admit? I’m confused between the two. I agree it’s very unlikely she’ll change but I feel that I have an unfinished business. I’m not hoping fo anything other than hearing from her, and her last behaviour indicates me she’s undecided

[Guy13]

She might be missing you a little bit but that’s the loss of power that she is missing…not you. Is this right: She moved you in. Met a guy , moved you out, and moved him in.. And is now stringing you along while sleeping with that guy. ?

[Dhxbnxx]

I believe she met this guy after the breakup, or at the very best days before the breakup.
She moved me in, but as far as i’m aware she hasn’t moved with him. I think he’s judt a rebound and not sure they are still together but again I had 0 contact so I don’t really know what’s the deal

[Guy13]

Sounds like a lot to me. That’s a lot for a married couple evdn…

[Avicenna]

She obviously hasn’t moved on

[Dhxbnxx]

Yes i’m a bit sad she’s doing these things, I hoped she’d be in a better place now.
What do you think her reasoning is here? “I’m hurting so i’ll hurt him” kind of thing? Or is she slowly realising that this sudden event was maybe a mistake?

[In_Trance]

I don't know why you're concerned about your ex

[Dhxbnxx]

We’ve been together for some time, and I was happy in this relationship and felt whole. Suddenly it fell apart, I was totally blindsided and in a matter of minutes everything changed.
I’m not particularly concerned, just trying to figure out why that happened, and feel like I can infer things from her behaviour post breakup.
I’ve rarely seen people emotionally committed to a relationship walk out of it and not care about it, I feel that I deserve at least to understand what went on that’s it. Any idea about her reading emails obsessively?