Ex keeps emailing me?

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My ex keeps emailing me even though he made it clear for a year he doesn’t want me and has all the women he wants.
He tells me to leave him alone when I say anything and tells me I’m always fighting.

And every time I leave him alone he comes back emailing me crap like are you off tomorrow?
I could respond but sometimes he will ghost me or reply a few days later and I’m honestly so sick of it.
And can’t understand for the life of me why he keeps doing it to me like for my own mental health I keep him blocked on everything but god

almighty can someone tell me why a guy who has everything and everyone is still tormenting there ex they dumped a year ago and made it so clear that he doesn’t want why he has to contact me?

WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

He keeps emailing you because you are allowing him to do so. While I understand that you might still have romantic feelings for him, it is rather unwise to entertain his immature behavior. This will not hurt him but will rather be destructive to you if you do not put a stop to it.

Have you heard of the term "orbiting" in terms of dating? It is when a person cuts off direct contact with the person they're romantically involved with, but continues to "passively" engage with them by liking their social media posts, seeing all their Instagram and Snapchat stories to keep tabs on them etc. Mostly stringing someone along. Your ex is doing something similar to this. He wants to keep you as a "backup" option in case the woman he is pursuing is not interested in him or breaks things off.

Or he might just be confused about his feelings towards you. Either way, he seems extremely immature. Are you sure this is the type of guy you want to build a future with? Someone who is fickle minded and invalidates your feelings?

You have to be firm and tell him to "Screw off". Tell him that if he does not stop contacting you, you will be forced to contact the cops and take legal action against him. I'm sure he would not like a criminal record.

darealmvp2015 · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately he probably thinks he can get you to hook up with him. My guess is that he is horny when he sends the messages, then if it takes you a while to reply he has finished jerkin it and therefore isn’t interested anymore, so he takes a few days to reply or doesn’t at all until the next time he is horny.

My advice, either don’t reply at all, or tell him that you can’t talk at the moment because you’re getting your brains fucked out but that if he wants to talk later on he can feel free to email you again. Make yourself entirely unavailable to him if you’re going to speak to him at all. Any time he does message you just tell him your busy getting ready because you’re going to see the guy you’re having sex with or he’s coming to see you. Eventually he will get the hint.

Or go with the much better option of literally just not ever replying to him at all. This is the best way by a long shot, but also doesn’t suffice that need to be petty so do what you will with that. Good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

Darling you're back up plan...

Ex keeps emailing me?

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