What to do if you are engaged but still love an ex, I'm in a position to decide whether I marry my fiancée that I'm not really into?

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I'm a male 36 years old, my ex girlfriend 25 years. I was 33 and she was 22 when we met. Our relationship was great, we had a strong connection life that of soulmates.

It was somewhat too good to be true hence it overwhelmed her. Well she was fresh out of college and the school had promised her an internship which ended up being cancelled.

so that and other things lowered her self-esteem even more. Itmade it hard for her to continue with our relationship.

She had to move back home which meant she will 2 hours aways from me. I would travell once a month to see her However that wasn't enough for her, she needed me close during that time.

Well my life was well put together and was ready for anything that life threw at me.

Also had a stable job, car and a house. By all means i was ready for a marriage life. So she felt like a burden and wanted to break it off with me.

I tried to persuade her but it was too late, anxiety had been eating away at her for a long time since i was not around.

Partly I'm glad she broke it off because she came out a gutter on her own, pulled herself together and she landed a job similar to mine.

Trick is now i am engaged to a girl i met last year. she is pretty, smart, traditional and she sure will make a good wife and we have a newborn child.

But none of that outweighs what i feel for my ex. i do love my child extremely and i think i will get married to her mom mostly because of her.

I went to see my ex to be sure if what i had bèen feeling wasn't just fantasy and i learned that not much has changed between us.

Just that she's now mature and ready for everything i presented that time. She had that i was engaged and thought it was too late for her to come back to me.

So she's been suffering in silence. She was also afraid that i would reject her. Im the one left with a problem now coz If i continue with the wedding this will forever be a challenge.

and if i don't continue my family will disown me. my fiancée and kid will hate me.

What to do if you are engaged but still love an ex, I'm in a position to decide whether I marry my fiancée that I'm not really into?
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