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I am a very late bloomer when it relates to romantic relationships and marriage. I didn't get my first real girlfriend until I was 29. I am now 30 and will soon marry this same girl. Me and this girl are each other's first real relationship. I was her first kiss and everything. She is 27.

I will say my parents are separated. I have an estranged sister who is 29 who has also alienated my parents. My mom has been really hurt by this, and my sister is refusing to attend my wedding despite being invited. To me, snubbing me and my bride at my wedding is irreparable (this is a entirely different discussion). All in all, my immediate family has been torn apart for years now. My separated parents live different places, and my mom still lives around locally.

I am staying at my mom's boyfriend's house tonight (long story... we are evicting a troublesome, leftist, nasty old tenant at my home that rents the downstairs), and my mom walks into the room I am sleeping in and hugs me while crying. My mom is a little sad I am growing up and getting married. She is happy for me, but I think with all the family turmoil and me moving on (I am a mommy's boy), it is hard on her a little.

A discussion recently occurred on r/Asianmasculinity, where an Asian male was talking about the complete double standards that Asian women have for Asian men and white men.

A snippet from OP discussion called "Different Dating Requirements for Asian vs. White Men"

"I’ve noticed that Asian women (ex. my female friends) hold Asian men to much higher standards—expecting them to have a car, a house, or a high income—while not requiring the same from white men. In addition, these women expect Asian men to pay for dates and experiences, but are fine to split with white men."

Many users were in the comment in agreement and even cited a Yale study that supported it

Yale sociologist Grace Kao: “In fact, we find that despite the higher education and income of Asian American men, there is evidence that they are systematically excluded from having romantic relationships during adolescence and young adulthood”

Some even explained why so many non-white women see white men as gods and chase after them in the west.

"Social status: white men in white circles gain immediate acceptance due to familiarity bias.

Pretty privilege: White men in Asian circles gain immediate acceptance due to pretty privilege (it is internalized that euro features are more handsome)

So in the eyes of a white worshipper, the white man already brings those values to the table by virtue of being white."

". Being with a white partner gives prestige that being with an Asian cannot. So Asian guys are required to compensate with material success.

Just stay away from these types of women and find someone who’s actually ride or die. I’m not saying don’t strive for success of course. But give it to someone who isn’t fucked in the head by internalized racism."