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Hey everyone, I’m looking for your input and advice. ****not complaining, I just need help understanding bc I’m a dumb cis straight white male****

Am I leading these women on somehow?

I went through a breakup in September, with 0 bad terms between us, she was way out of my league both physically and as a human. I was and still am deeply in love with her, and I never shut the fuck up about her to people while I was with her (almost 2 years). We’re still super close.

about me (just trust that my self assessment is true for this exercise): I’m a lot of fun, around 30 years old, attractive but not active, so I have a dad bod but I’m really fucking funny and charismatic. I have a lot of beautiful platonic and meaningful female friendships that are strictly friendships. I’m a sweet heart and people are generally protective of me, because I’m depressed and having a hard time and they all love me more than I do. Aka, women see that and feel safe around me.

at the same time, I have a dad bod, my life is a mess right now, I’m openly still in love with my girlfriend, I communicate that “I’m not ready to date anyone right now.” I’m about to start attending both NA and AA meetings. I feel like somehow, me being at the lowest point in my life, is somehow attracting all these beautiful women who are initiating conversations with me and asking me to hang out.

I haven’t slept with anyone since my ex because I’m not ready for that, it would make me too sad. But, I’m a total flirt.
Anyway, one of my gal pals said that my behavior is confusing, because I’m vulnerable and texting with them, and still flirty. But I’m just thinking like, “surely my life is so shitty right now that no woman wants any part of the mess that I am right now.”

so why do you think I’m getting this new attention?

There's a girl in my college i found attractive i like her and after talking for 3 months and becoming good friends i confessed to her but she denied saying she just wanted us to be friend after that i tried to cut off my contact but she didn't stopped calling or texting and insisted to be friends so i stayed her friend as she didn't had any other friend i stayed her friend and after some time she got into a relationship with a quiet guy in our class and earlier after my rejection i asked her is it because she have crush on some other guy but she denied but after getting into relationship with him she told me that she had crush on him even before we become friend and now i feel so bad as she made a new female friend too who support her and her new boyfriend. i feel like i am of no use of her now. now she's not being so friendly like she used to be earlier and when i ask her if she wants to end our friendship she don't let me end things and blamed i always fight with her and play the victim card. we had a fight few days ago so the next day I ignored her whole day but after class when i was going back with her she started to cry and run away i tried to calm her but she said she didn't want to talk and her boyfriend calmed her and later when i called her to check on her she said so many rude things to me i felt bad. and told me she felt bad cuz i said i feel like she was ignoring me and not replying to my texts. so we are in fight and not talking so for last few days she been calling me daily but i am not picking her calls and not replying to her texts. Should I end things with her? or Stay her friend? I still have feelings for her.