Why would my boyfriend stay with his female friend if he finds her attractive?

[Reemaa]

My boyfriend told me about his female friend. He said their friendship is so close to the extent he knows her family and she invited him to her birthday party at her house. He told me she is attractive but he have zero love feelings toward her. I can’t understand why she is still remained as a close friend if he finds her attractive?

[NathanDavis]

that does not have to be a problem... one thing is her being attractive and that being obvious to him and everyone else

and another thing if he finds himself constantly attracted to her, like, all the time...

first thing is normal, the second would be something to worry... but they are not the same thing

just like my best friends that are girls... they all happen to be attractive by "conventional standards" but I do not find myself attracted to them every single day, I just acknowledge something very obvious, lol

and it's been like that for 10 to 20 years... it's not big a deal, is not like being in a relationship will make you blind to attractiveness all of a sudden

[SnowedIn]

Men and women can -- and should -- stay friends even if they have a significant other. Our lives are not just about the boyfriend/girlfriend -- we need other friends, and it's okay for those friends to be of the opposite sex.

[SnowedIn]

Thank you for MHO!

[Summeroflove]

It depends on the situation and your gut level feeling about it. If you sense she’s just a friend and he’s staying with her then it’s not a big deal. The same as you’re allowed to have guy friends.

Now some people have mutual agreements on this kind of stuff which is totally fine and understandable. As long as there is nothing romantic or sexual about it. It’s fine.

But again if you have a bad feeling then pray about it and you’ll find answers as well as if there is anyone you can ask about if they sense anything fishy going on.

[Beatrix7]

my boyfriend told me about his friends that where girls to he sat with them just got stoned watched a film nothing else or serious and then i found out 2 yrars after 1 of them was his girlfriend behind my back and one was a one night stand he got pregers and she lost the child so he's a ex now and now he's going out with someone else behind her back scum bag am only his friend and he slept with me a few times but iam not being used again

[Beatrix7]

so watch what your doing if u feel somethings up do what i did watch him like a hawk his every move a tions words nerves looks eyes face after all u have the right to u are a women and his girlfriend also

[Beatrix7]

actions i mebt to write i was writing to fast

[Beatrix7]

ment

[Reemaa]

He wants me to meet his female friend. So I don’t think this is the case

[Beatrix7]

well yeah that sounds ok then mine didn't let me meet any of his and he was a cheater thats why he was fkn them but if he's taking you to invite you to her that sounds good then but if u feel something is wrong do what i said see how they look at each other ok just be save but it should be good at least yours invited you to his mine just went not invited me

[spartan55]

@Reema
Wanting to have you meet you is different than it actually happening.

[spartan55]

*meet his friend

[Beatrix7]

he didn't let me meet any of his girl ones who he assumed where only his friends but he was fucking them i only got to meet his mum her friends his sister his friends that where boys none of his friends that where girls he's a cheater

[nawtee_me]

I find many girls attractive. Just because they are attractive does not mean I would go to bed with them. There is more to a relationship than attraction. There is also an attraction to friendships or you probably would not hang around them so much...

[Guy13]

That’s a good question 🙋‍♂️. It seems odd to me too. What do your friends or parent think?

[Samhanks]

It is human nature to be in the company of people who you feel are attractive to your liking !