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Well she's 22, a virgin, black like me, no student loan debt, likes anime and comic books, is into art, no guy best friends or ex's, wants to have kids, wants to be a stay at home wife, likes that I make music, and believes in God but (not in the annoying way where you can't swear or something). She's around a 7 and is super lowkey and doesn't look for attention from random dudes.

I'm going to date her a bit more, and I'm in a position in which I can provide for a family. I might become a semi celebrity pretty soon though. Do you think I should go for a celebrity girl? Might be cool but a bit of a hassle. I just don't want to pass up a good opportunity.

I hear the celebrity culture can be very degenerate and you won't be able to see your partner much either.. I mean that might be tough. Let me know.

I'm asking because I'm not a father but my sister was saying how she'd much rather have done what my dad did than even raise one child. I completely disagree. I'm not a parent but I feel like even 60 hours at something I hate on behalf of my family is harder than raising 2 children I love. I do recognize that raising kids is like a job without pay, but you have food and shelter and more because your spouse loves you. Is that security not enough? Do you feel like you need luxury because of all that you do at home? After work, it's not like one person is doing everything although there is one primary homemaker.

Please share if you have experience. I'm not saying either is easy. I'm not saying either should be disrespected. I'm just saying that it feels like to me that people should be happy to be spending time with their children and should respect that someone else is willing to do something he/she hates to feed the family.

I really am open to hearing opinions though. Maybe I'm missing something. I love my sister too by the way but I just feel like she's disrespecting my dad by saying this. At one point, he actually worked without a day off for over a year, 85 hours/week, and they actually had 6 kids together. by the way I absolutely love my mom. She's my hero and she kept our family together, and my dad actually is far from the coolest person in the world but I still recognize what he did for our family.

Just in case you're wondering why I didn't use the numbers 85 hours and 6 kids, it's because those numbers are difficult for people to comprehend. Also, I'm thinking about my future, and I don't plan to have 6 kids or work 85 hours/week